Dancer21

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Hi, ok so I've been dancing for 12 years now (I'm 15) and last year my class was able to take pointe classes.. so we all started and we all sucked (that was expected though) but this year, I feel like I'm the only one who sucks anymore, I mean, my feet hurt in my shoes, my toes curl under and burn, I cant go up without support of the barre, and when we do turns on the floor I literally tear up and CANNOT do it, I pretend to tie my shoe, my legs look disgusting and my feet just aren't as "pointy" as the other girls, ( I have never had nice feet, I mean I have high arches but for whatever reason they don't look good in releve or pointe.. its rlly sad actually) I feel like it might be because im too heavy :(... Im 5'5 and 130 lbs... is that too heavy for a ballerina? the reason I ask this is because I have another friend in dance (she is of course a twig) and she is always complaing about the "thicker" girls in dance, she says they shouldn't b there and that only thin girls can do ballet... I always feel so awkward when she says this cuz, well obviously because I AM one of the thicker girls... is she right? is that why I look like ******* sh*t in my shoes? should I just quit and stop embarrassing myself with my fat legs? Im so confused right now... I feel like every laughs now when I walk in my tights and leotard.. are they all thinking that Im too thick to dance?!

I'm trying to have a healthy diet but Im struggling A LOT with my breakfast options. anyway, I figured I would eat a blueberry bagel (they are my passion lol) but can I eat one every morning? with just a little cream cheese, (fat free cream cheese) or will that make me gain weight? ): thnx in advance...

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(sorry, plz excuse the picture, my brother did it and I just haven't changed it yet) anyway, I'm in 10th grade (my 2nd year of high school) and I'm dreading school so much... I have always been an OK student I guess, like I pass the tests and stuff, but I don't study much and I SUCK at essays. well last year my grades stressed me out every night, I would have long days of school and dance and I would get home and just cry for an hour in my room because I felt so stuck and helpless. ANWAY, I still feel terrible about my grades (meaning I still worry about them) but something feels different in me now... like lately when I go into my room to cry, I find myself thinking about EVERYTHING about school and stuff, like for instance, I will find myself imagining myself at my locker in the morning, or going into band (omg, band destroyed me last year too, I HATE HATE HATE it, its so crowded in that small room and I feel sweaty and irritated in there, but my parents will NOT let me quit without me feeling bad) and I cry harder. lately I have been feeling really stuck and feel like, this is my whole life, and this is how it is going to be forever... I know its not (Maybe?) but I cant convince myself... anyway, I know im depressed and it has effected other things in my life as well... (Im not gonna get into detail, but im sure you can see where Im going?) AP world history doesn't help me out, and I hate that too, I feel like the dumbest kid in the class.. (and everyone knows it too) oh God, sorry this is so long ): thnx for the help (10 [pts)

ISorry its so long, 10 pts I promise (:

m 15, and I would say my life is almost perfect ( Im not trying to brag, I just want to tell it as it is) I have three much older siblings, the youngest being 26, and they are always moving in and out of the house. I am the youngest of my brothers and sisters, but my siblings have children and they too live with me, my mom and dad when they stay with us (usually for 3 year intervals). I don't think I've ever really felt like the "youngest" child, because I have been a RESPONSIBLE aunt since I was 5, I am very experienced with children (again not trying to brag, but honestly, I want to tell the truth) and am constantly finding myself alone with the kids and I have no problem being responsible and making sure they are safe, and I would prefer I get hurt rather than them (I feel almost like a parent) anyway, that's besides the point, I don't really have a problem, its more of I feel confused, confused because no one I know relates to anything I ever say. Me and my mother have a really good relationship, almost like friends, not mother and daughter (Im not saying we don't fight, we do) I know she spoils me, but like I said I have been very mature from a young age and remember telling myself at age 9 that she was spoiling me, and not to let it make me a brat, to always remember that im not better than anyone else because I get what I want, I also remember telling myself that I needed to make a reason in my mind for why she was spoiling me, so I guess you could say I became a perfectionist. I got really good grades in school, and I got to the near top of all my sports teams, and stuff like that, and I guess in my head that was reason enough to get spoiled by her. I guess you could also say that my mom was a lot like this with my youngest older sibling, she spoiled her as well, and she turned out fine. Typically, when I ask for something I get it within the next few months. I DID try to get several jobs over the summer of my freshman year in highschool, so I could spend my own money on some things, but nothing worked out, due to different reasons. I don't ask for much, but I have to be honest, when I DO ask for something, its usually something big... (I know that sounds selfish and bad) I help EVERYONE around me, I NEVER break her rules, I respect her and listen to her when she talks, so I honestly don't feel like im a brat, I can even say that I brag the LEAST of all my friends, because I never want to hurt anyones feelings, or accidently say something that triggers another thought in their minds... But recently I have asked for a new pet ( like I said I usually don't ask for a million little things, just a few big things) and me and my mom have been looking around and making plans for MONTHS, and I made a big mistake today. I slipped up a little in the car, and she was saying how she wouldn't drive me to the pet shop to look at dogs, and I got a little irritated ( I usually don't get mad when she says no, but idk what happened today to me..) and I said, "Yea, just like I thought, see? I knew it wouldn't happen...just whatever I don't even wanna talk about it.." and she looked at me the way she looks when she's pi$$ed off, and goes, " YOURE KIDDING RIGHT?! I GET YOU EVERYTHING YOU WANT! WHAT HAVENT I GOTTEN YOU? NAME ONE THING! YOU GET EVRYTHIGN!!" and then that's when all this occurred to me, I really do get everything I want, I was trying to come up with something I didn't get recently, but nothing specific stuck out to me, and it made me feel really bad, so I ended up saying, "YEA but that's ONLY because I didn't get myself drunk at 14 like your other kids, I actually studied and made sure I would have a future and not move back into your house with my kids!" (she hates it when my brothers and sisters her other kids cuz she says It sounds like she has more than father of her children) I felt terrible about saying it though, but I just got so mad at her, I mean its not like she cared, in fact she kinda smiled and went, "haha that IS true" but I feel like a brat because I don't have the baggage other kids have, I almost feel like I haven't had to live life, but I feel somewhere in the back of my mind that I have, Idk im just really confused, could someone help me out? thnx

Aghhh, I just got a new laptop from the store and it was the last one, so I got the display laptop, and when I got home to start it up, it works but on my start page (The page with all the colorful boxes?) it says my name is administrator, how do I change that to my name? 10 pts I promise, thanks for your help (:

I'm 14 about 5'5and weigh around 133... I feel so insecure about this summer because my thighs jiggle ( I know, lol) and they look massive at the tops, I hateeeee my body, any suggestions on how to lose this fat on my legs? Thnx!

I've been unhealthy, and I know it... I haven't been eating enough and I think it is starting to slow down my metabolism, so is THIS a healthy diet?

Breakfast - a cup of oatmeal

Lunch- half a peanut butter sandwich and some fruit( idk what kind, any suggestions?)

Dinner- mediumish proportions of what my mom or dad cooks

Snack - I have no clue? I need help with that too (:

ALSO I dance everyday, exercise , swim and play tennis so idk why I'm not losing weight but maybe someone else knows... I'm clueless at this point it's been 2 years since I've been dieting basically... Thanks again

today I had:

Breakfast- a piece of whole wheat bread with peanut butter ( i know its rlly fattening but idk)

lunch- 4 strawberries and one of those little orange things (:

snack- (heres where things got bad because my sister was over) 2 mini pancakes, some ice cream, an oreo, 3 more strawberries, and ANOTHER little orange. (They're my weakness)

Yea but keep in mind I still have to eat dinner because there is no way in hell my mom would let me skip... did I eat really bad? i feel like I did and I feel HUGE! Thanks for taking the time XD

before I start, let me tell you, Im gonna sound really bad... ok so i'm 14, and super busy. I know its not an excuse to not brush my teeth everyday, but yea. And I havent been to the dentist in a good 2 years... (I know, Im terrible) I dont get to it everyday and now my teeth are hurting really bad in two places.. I told my mom and she said she was going to schedule a dentist appointment. So I just have to deal with this for a while more, but now Im thinking about how bad my teeth have gotten. I have 4 cavities already... but now Im afraid I've gotten more! and Im 14, so Im worried that my teeth are going to rot out and I wont have them when Im older... ( I sound like a little kid, but Im really concerned about my teeth because I dance and I sorta need them for pictures and smiling lol) My mind is over thinking this whole thing and the other day I thought about something really scary, that my cavity count has gone into the double digits... I mean i know thats not true, but now that I thought about it, I cant stop.. Im so worried, does anybody have ANY advice to help me feel better and then get onto a better dental hygiene routine? thanks (: <-- toothless smile

I have Noo clue what kind of bathing suit to be looking for... Now, let me warn you, I may exaggerate a bit because I FREAKIN HATE MY BODY!! (; ok, so I feel Suuppeerr fat, Im 14, 5'5, and weigh 134 lbs. Ok, lol that took a lot to admit. So I dont have a "thigh gap" so high waisted stuff does NOT look good on me (what a surprise right? lol) and i sorta feel like the back of my legs look like jello... and that depresses the hell out of me ): I have the weirdest stomach, its super tight on top.. I guess cuz I work out every free second, but the bottom of my stomach is a bit larger.. I dont have HUGE hips, but they're fairly big. I hate my arms, theyre wide and they jiggle... and my collar bones are NOT pronounced like everyone elses, so string tops look like **** on me (: lol,( sorry getting mad at myself again) So what kind of abthing suit SHould I get? Im really stuck and considering not even swimming,.. and I love swimming. Sigh thanks I WILL give best answer for 10 points.. I promise... Thanks

Ok, So I feel like when I look in the mirror, I look somewhat thin ( i have really low self esteem lol) not skinny, but slimmer than what I look like in the damn camera... Does anyone else have that problem.. like recently I saw a picture of me in my bathing suit, and I can assure you, I will NEVER wear that again because I look like a friggin whale in the pic. But in the mirror I feel like it looks ok... and on my mac book?! Oh my GOD! I look huge ): Is it just my head? or my camera? I wanna believe the mirror, but I cant trust myself and need a second opinion. Thanks in advance ):

Ok, so Im saving up for an iPod 5th generation, so Im trading in my 4th, and honestly, when I was looking through my draws, I found this ipod I got in like, 5th grade... so I was wondering if I was still able to trade it in for some flow, its the nano I THINK.... it looks like the ipod on this site ( the one that says ipod nano lol) http://www.bidorbuy.co.za/article/6375/C%E2%80%A6 and if I even brought that into the store, would they laugh in my face, or how much money would I get? like 10 bucks I bet XD its in great condition though... thanks!

Ok, so I kinda want to get the iPod 5th generation for my birthday (my iPod 4th is 4 years old and basically doesnt even power on anymore, so lol) do you think I should get the 5th or get the 4th again? I just dont know XD i mean looks rlly dont matter to me, I just need something I can practice on, so I need to know which one is better, thanks (:

like can u sub the candy melts for a hershey bar or is that weird lol (:

OK, so I think I may have an eating thing, like I beat myself up over eating the smallest things, because ever since I was 9, i began seeing myself as fat, and all my siblings were smaller than me, but are older. :( anyway, I lost a lot of my weight, but im still not pleased, so I under eat, and I know i do it. for breakfast I usually have half a banana, lunch green apple, snack at home, salad, and if im still hungry, then I would eat the other half of the banana or something small like that, then for dinner, i would eat whatever my family was eating... I was happy at that oh and I dance 9 hours a week and did a 1 hour workout everyday , but then I went on vacation, and of course, I went nuts lol. anyway when i got back from that, my eating totally changed... i went from nothing to EVERYTHING, for instance, I still eat the same breakfast, lunch and dinner, but for snack I sneak around the house eating chocolate, teddy grahams, cereal, granola bars, really anything I can find, and I feel terrible :(. I still do my workout (300 crunches, 100 grand plies, and 50 of these weird leg lift things lol) and I still dance of course, but honestly, Im scared im gonna gain massive weight. Can someone help me find a happy medium for my meals? or am i screwed? thanks and Ill pick a best answer I swear (:

Hi! I know this is a strange question, but I've always wondered, do people (guys i guess) like skinny girls better? Im not FAT, but im not SKINNY either, Im like in the middle I guess, I mean, I workout for 2 hours every night and eat right, so Im "toned" i guess, but im definitely NOT skinny ): so out of these pictures, which one would you say that people would, 'accept' more? (theyre not me, I found these pics on google)

pic 1 : http://intradayfun.com/wp-content/uploads/2010/12/...

or

pic 2: http://curveinspire.com/wp-content/uploads/2011/09...

Yea i know, that second pic is kinda weird, but its rlly all I could find, so sorry. Anyway, I want peoples HONEST opinions, is being skinny really what everyone wants? thanks in advance, just want opinions... Im doing a paper on how society has evolved, and this will really help (: thnx so much!

(: idk what to get, usually get the java chip frappe, but im not feeling it today. Oh, and im not trying to go calorie crazy either, so. thanks ill get it and then vote how good it is (: XD THANKS!!

Ok, so me and my friend have both been trying to lose a lot of weight, (were not fat, just a little un toned) anyway, we both do gymnastics, track, and basketball. So we both work out every night, i do 200 crunches and she does less, so I feel like Ive been working harder, plus we both eat WAY less than we used to... so I guess she lost 16 lbs and I lost 2. :( anyway, now she keeps saying how everyon is telling her how thin she is, her mother, father and sisters. and NO ONE has told me any of this, she keeps saying stuff like, "Oh my mom said Im getting too thin, so I need to gain 13 pounds, but Im not gonna, no way in hell" and "My sisters are getting soo worried about me, and why? just cuz my arms are tiny? not my fault im a small girl!!" And its getting me soo annoyed! shes not THAT much smaller than me, if ANYTHING AT ALL!! shes got a really big belly, but I always say, "your stomach is FINE, Destiny, It really is" I know she says this stuff to me so I will go, " yea theyre so right, you are super thin" but now, im not EVER going to say that to her, I was going to, but now thats shes basically asking me to say it? anyway, sorry I went off on a rant there, but please, how can I get over these feelings of jealousy and lose 17 pounds myself? i really want to be thinner than I am now, but it seems impossible... thanks (:

ok, lol honestly I feel like ive tried EVERYTHING to tone my upper thighs, but theyre just so out of shape!!! and why?!?!? ive been taking 6 dance classes for 7 hours a week for 12 years!!! why am I still like this?! any good exercises for that area in particular? thanks in advance

Im 14, 5'3, and weigh in around 133-134... Honestly, Im not happy AT ALL with my body, and I ALWAYS try to lose weight, not even kidding, since like the 5th grade, but for some reason, my body just DOESNT change!! anyway, for the past 25 days I was on the special k diet (yea sure, that really worked... not) and now, Im starting to think that maybe the granola bars are just filled with sugar, which is slowing down my progress? Ok so, heres my latest plan, Im just gonna quit the bars all together and go right to fruit, so how is strawberries for breakfast lunch and snack, and then a normal dinner with my family every night? would that help tone and lose weight in the next 22 days? (I have this trip coming up and Im not rlly comfortable in a 2 piece, and I really want to be) plus, Im overweight so... thanks in advance, 5 stars i swear ),: thanks