Lisa S

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I heard about this study on Monday.

When I was young, a girl would start maturing at any time from 12 on...but these girls are starting at ages as young as seven. This isn't a third world problem...it's right here in the US.

So what is the cause? Hormones in food? Media bombardment? This article suggest environmental toxins, but isn't specific. Another article I read today said that BABIES in China are also developing breasts...so something is seriously off. Human evolution usually occurs in slow, incremental stages...but when the rate of maturation changes by 50 percent, something is very wrong.

Thoughts?

When I was young, there were a few "shotgun weddings", meaning the bride was pregnant. Everyone knew, but no one said much. But none of them survived as marriages. I've noticed that there are several states where a parent can allow people as young as 16 to marry, with parental permission, and this confounds me. In my state, you can't DRIVE until you are 17. Why would parents allow such YOUNG kids to marry?

The numbers say that young couples will have a much rougher time. Most of the unions dissolve. So...what's point?

http://www.nj.com/news/index.ssf/2010/06/nj_assemb...

This will be argued this week again...thoughts anyone?

I was driving the other day, and my young man noticed a car that he thought was a Shelby.

He stopped at a light, asked the driver, and his reply was "No, its a Cobra." (This was a recent make...not more than three years old.) So my question...are the only Cobras made ALL Shelby's?

And thanks...the husband has his own opinions, but he's not exactly a motorhead....

It has driven me crazy for years, from the first time I heard mother urge her child to stand over a public toilet, not sit, and tinkle all over the seat because it was "dirty".

Well, if it wasn't before, it sure is after...and these types never bother to clean the mess they leave.

IMHO, if you are that phobic, carry Lysol, and seat covers, or better yet, DON'T use public facilities.

Am I the only one who finds this practice revolting?

I used to use a hotmail account, so old it had only letters in the addy. I checked it our recently and deleted HUNDREDS of pieces of spam. After careful paring, I have it down to about 30 pieces a day...but even that is a pain.

Is there anyway to save the email address, or is it toast?

I mark all the spam as junk...but there's more of them then me!

Wisdom?

Based on the story I was reading last night (dated Feb 2) the original 1998 study that has served as the basis of most thought on the safety of the MMR vaccine, and the link to Autism has been completely discredited. Ten of the studies original 12 contributors have retracted their support of the premise based on some major deficits in the paper's main author's scientific methods.

In short, it sounds like he fudged the figures big time. That same author is now working in Texas, for the same group who suggests that autism can be cured or reversed through diet.

So...does this change how your view the vaccines, or do you assume it's all just a cover-up for the "truth"?

For the moms who are feeding their babies commercial baby foods, had you heard of the FDA recall?

http://www.fda.gov/Safety/MedWatch/SafetyInformati...

Here's the link, FYI...and hope you're all well!

That truly felt like wisdom?

I was in a mediation, and one of the counselors said something I will never forget.

"You don't need a reason to get a divorce...but you DO need a reason...to stay married."

How about you? Has anyone ever said something that really helped?

I spent the last two decades listening to the "adoption vs abortion" argument...where people insisted that adoption was the better option. I don't want to weigh in on that one---but I spent over an hour last night reading every post in this section, and I was startled by the number of people who seemed angry at their birth mothers, their AP's.

Would it be rude to ask for more information? Clearly, I have reading things from a different POV...but I really wanted to hear yours. I'm a writer, and I have been thinking of including an adult child of adoption in a story line. Rather than follow the "standard party line", I'd like to hear other views.

So...is it impolite to ask?

I am writing a piece of fiction that involves legal issues, and I wondered about something.

Once, when I was on a jury, they had a long list of people who were going to give testimony about the character of one of the young men. His mother was there, as was the priest who confirmed him...which leads me to the question. What is the point? No one's mother is going to say that her child is anything but wonderful...despite evidence to the contrary. Are judges really swayed by this sort of thing? Or is it to give the families the chance to feel like they "did something"?

Do parents ever really accept that their children have harmed others? Or does denial really go that deep?

We have families, and extended families, and since I was a kid, I noticed that there is always one or two people in every clan who love to say "Blood is thicker than water." I also noticed they are prone to say that just before they hit you up for a loan, or major favor.

I do value the concept of "family", but at what point can you comfortably draw a line that says "This far and NO further?"

I have a brother who lies constantly. Not little ones...WHOPPERS. I was contacted by a woman online last year who wanted to know if he was married. We live a state away, I never met, and I have no idea why he told her anything at all about me. Did I mention this is a life long thing for him? He's in his late 50's...and it never stops.

My mother enabled him...choosing to cover his lies (when he told family she needed surgery she couldn't afford but was too proud to ask for help...never happened) and the eventual cost was her relationships with the rest of her children.

What I'm asking is this...do the only people who try the "blood is thicker" routine simply use it to get their own way?

Thoughts?

A friend of mine has a son in the federal detention system.

He committed the crime, had a trial, and is now serving an 7 year sentence. His mother told me he "promised" never to lie to her again---and that she is believing fully everything he says now. Leading to the question. He has his parents putting money every month in a commissary account for socks and underwear (he swears he was only given one pair of each) and snacks because he says they only give him 20 minutes to eat, and he likes to chew his food slowly, and that they do not supply adequate food. His needs are totaling about 100-200 a month. Is this normal?

I know how absurd this sounds...but she REALLY believes it.

If you work within the prison system, can you give me an idea of what a federal prisoner is actually provided with?(Soap, toothpaste, etc)

I know I can't change her mind, but this is really bothering me---and I can't think of any other way to check. I am sure its not lush or lavish, but if your family doesn't have money, I am guessing certain things ARE supplied?

Thanks.

I've always been ill at ease when I see young girls wearing "big girl clothes", I've had friends who put their kids in dance classes, then cringed my way through recitals where BABIES were taught to "strut their stuff" in front of a crowd.

I didn't think it was "cute", "precious" or "funny"...but the parents didn't seem to mind. The day does not pass when several people here don't worry about how "fast" our young are growing up...and I am wondering HOW people can allow this sort of thing, and not expect it to happen.

Performing aside, I have seen little girls (age seven tops) playing in the park wearing low riding hip huggers to show off their thongs.

Are these parents out of their minds, or am I just hopelessly out of date? I don't understand "tarting up" our children.

A woman recently published a book called "Stop Dressing Your Six Year Old Like A Skank"...so I am pretty sure I'm not alone.

Thoughts?

Most of what I read in this section are questions from parents of younger children---and there's nothing wrong with that! But I have one for the parents of children who have gone out on their own. Do you feel, based on your experience that children need to be grounded in the concept of consequences?

What I mean is this...it seems like when I was growing up, I knew that whatever I did would have repercussions---an effect on my life. I have a number of friends who are slightly older now, and spent most of their time digging their kids out of trouble...even into their adult years. From what I can see, it doesn't work well. I've watched an entire generation hit their 20's, and even their 30's and seemingly fail to understand that some mistakes can't be undone.

I get that your kids will always be your children...but is "over helping" a form of handicapping them in the future? I have a cousin who had a mother of means. Her mom was generous always...but as a result this woman (now in her 60's) never learned to budget, plan, or even balance a checkbook. HER kids are not much better at it, and i can't help but wonder if too much help just isn't helpful.

Thoughts?

I've heard the pros and cons, and mafe up my own mind on the issue...but from what I have read, the parents who did not immunize their children, then put them in public school settings have in fact, put other people's children at risk.

In my state we had a huge outbreak of whooping cough in one district (which btw, was upper income) and led to them discovering that about 40 pervent of the children in one class had faked immunization records. (The parents argued that their health choices for their children should not count against them for public school.)

So here's the big question...if someone fakes the immunization record, and other kids bet stricken with the new strain because of it, should the parents be prosecuted for putting the children of others at risk?

I understand people wanting their beliefs respected. But I have no right to risk someone else's child...where do stand on this?

For the men...have you ever lied about having one?

(Said you had, when you hadn't?)

For women...did a man ever lie to you about his ability to make babies? (Claim he'd had a vasectomy, or was sterile, and you later learned that it was a lie?)

It's been years since I was a young woman, but I ran into two of these winners. I took a pass...and have always been grateful i did. Last I heard BOTH men had children long after.

So seriously? Have you ever done something like this?

I have recently been offered the opportunity to become an special needs advocate in my state. I have eight years of experience with the system, and it worked for my daughter...but only after a long struggle.

The other day, I attended a special meeting in the state capital, and a question came up...How do other states deal with special ed? How common is out placement, in other places?

So please...I need some answers. What was your special ed experience like? Does your state permit out of district placement? How helpful or not helpful were they, when you began your search?

I do appreciate any feedback, and have spoken to a few teachers out of my state. But i would love to hear from others.

Thanks a lot!

I've felt for years that the American system for adoption was insane. Here, the individual state determines what is allowed, and there is no consistent code on a nation basis. Since adoption is frequently offered as alternative for abortion, I wondered how the system could be improved?

As it stands, the people most likely to be allowed to adopt, are the affluent. The process is long, and expensive---even though legally, no one is allowed to "buy a baby". If you read the ads taken out by people hoping to adopt, They are seeking "healthy white infants"...and a lot of them specify "male".

Should we legally allow people to "cherry pick" babies that like that? If they agree to take someone's child, and the baby is not perfect---do they have the legal right to decline the adoption? I spent some time reading over in "Adoption" the other day...and it made some interesting reading indeed.

Would you support a system for adoption that removed the "car shopping" aspect of adoption...i.e. picking and choosing?

Would you support a system that allowed people simply to say, "I want a baby"...and gave them one at random? Wouldn't that be a fairer system, than the one that leaves the "not so perfect" babies in the hands of a flawed foster care system?

Why do we assume that a family with means will translate into better parents?

Thoughts, please?

I had a lot of exposure to special needs kids in the last 8 years, and i noticed recently when rape was a topic, that the argument of diminished capacity came up. This got me to thinking about the kids I know. Some are now over 18, but have the judgment, and maturity of much younger children. Simply put, while they are by no means "slow" intellectually, they may never be mature socially, or emotionally.

This sort of "diminished capacity" isn't the result of drugs, drinking, or doing anything they can control.

So I ask you...even though they are now the age of consent, should anyone be messing with them? If you spoke to one for five minutes, their limitations would be obvious.

If an adult of average capacity should seduce one of these kids, is it ok...even though some have no idea what consent is? The children are not minors anymore. Their parents try to protect them from trouble...but its always possible that someone will in fact make a move on one of them.

Your opinion...is there such a thing as "diminished capacity"?

Is it ever ok for an unimpaired adult to try to sleep with a person like this?