Crying Turtle

Okay, so I started dating my boyfriend about 5 months ago, and he was the most charming, handsome, fun, generous lover. I was smitten. He is a bit older than me (almost double my age) and he has kids (I don't), but those things are not a big issue to me. He feels self conscious about it sometimes, but I really love him and those things only make me more attracted to him. But from the beginning I could tell something was off with him because of how quickly he wanted a relationship with me and for me to tell him I love him (even though he still won't say it to me). In fact, we moved in together only a week of two after we started dating and only a month or two after we'd met. He says things like I am the only woman he's ever considered marrying. I am not the kind of woman to move fast into relationships, in fact, I am very calculated.

I was previously in a long term (8 years) serious relationship. I really did love that man; we were engaged to be married. But in the end it did not work out.

Well, as time has gone on, he has become more and more jealous. He gets upset if I stay with my sister for a night (once in a blue moon), or if I am gone when he comes home from work. He is always asking me where I've been and who I was ******* around with. When I tell him nothing is going on he insists and says that he knows a lot of people around where we live, and they tell him things...w/e dude. He goes through my laundry, and snoops through my phone constantly with and without my permission (the latter being more common), reads my emails, and just a lot of crazy things. He doesn't like for me to go out without him either. And just the other day I found out he has been spying on me...recording me (at least at home and I don't know where else)! WTF?! I used to feel boxed in like he wants to control me, now I just feel violated.

I have already told a close friend about some of his behavior and our problems, but I try not to talk about our relationship to people I know, because I wouldn't want him to do that to me. But I am starting to get really worried about this and I don't know how to make him get a grip.

I know he has been in long term relationships in the past as well and has trust issues because he has been hurt the same as I have, but I have gotten over it and I treat him right. Why can't he do the same?

I just don't know what to do anymore.

And does anyone know what this thing is? I went through the house meticulously and removed every device I could find and I am not talking on or around my phone anymore for the time being. I'm just wondering if this could possibly be a recorder of some sort?

http://i257.photobucket.com/albums/hh206/kpfresh12...

...a friend of mine is going through a tough time. And they don't have any credit since they went bankrupt a couple years back, so I don't think they can get a loan. Anyone ever had to go through this? What did you do?

I will :)

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