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I ll be landing in Rio (GIG airport) around 9:30 AM and I have seven hours to kill until my next flight. My friends and I want to see the Christ the Redeemer statue but is it too far away. I ve read a few opinions but I need some more before making my decision. Is there a lot of traffic? If so, what time does that kick in? Any advice would be great, especially from someone who had been there before! Thanks you!

So, I babysit for this woman. I have never ever bailed on her before. She has bailed on me quite a few times. If she bails, she’ll usually let me know a few hours before. So, anyway, a few days ago she asked me to babysit tomorrow and I said yes without thinking. I totally forgot about my Uncle’s birthday dinner and I really can’t skip it. If I message her right away she’ll have a little over 24 to make other arrangements. Do you guys think the following is okay to send to her? Any critics would be appreciated. Thank you in advance! (Oh and I did twist the story a little just so I do sound a little better haha)

“Hey Maria, I’m sorry this is last minute but I just found out that my Uncle’s birthday dinner got switched from next Saturday to this Saturday. I was wondering if you’d be able to make other arrangements.”

My one year anniversary with my ex would have been tomorrow and he dumped me about two weeks ago. His reason for dumping was that he feels he’s not good enough. I’m 19 and he’s 17. He doesn’t have a job and doesn’t drive so it’s usually me driving. I think that’s a shot to his ego because he’s not fulfilling his gender role, you could say. Personally, I could care less about being the driver. Anyway, it was a friendly breakup. I did try to sway him to come back but he wasn’t going for it. So, I wrote him saying “You followed your heart and I respect that. You can’t go forcing something if it’s not right.” He replied, “You’re the best thing that has ever happened to me, that text meant the world to me.” I asked him to be friends and he said “You don’t have to ask me to do anything I don’t want to.”

He texted me his new # a week later. We have had like two other short conversations since that. I initiated both of them. He still calls me “dweeb” and “sloth” which he always called me when we dated.

Should I send him a message tmrow that brings up old memories we had throughout the past year. At the end I would say something like “even though we’re not together, today is still special. Thank you for all the memories.”

I want him back, do you think this is a good idea or no?

Thank you!

I don't know what to do and I really help. Ten points to the most helpful! (:

Mine is “Last Night on Earth” by Green Day because there is a line in there that goes, “With every breath that I am worth. Here on Earth I'm sending all my love to you.” I dedicated it to my Aunt who I recently lost and it helps me cope.

So, what is the song that has sentimental value to you? It could be a love song or whatever.

My boyfriend’s prom was tonight and I just want someone to be honest with me and tell me if I’m being stupid and overdramatic.

So, my boyfriend didn’t want to take me to his prom because I’m a freshman in college now, so he thought it’d be weird to take a college student to a high school thing. I guess he didn’t want me feeling awkward. He actually told me this during my senior prom last May, so I wasn’t shocked when his prom was coming up and he still hadn’t asked me. I offered to go but he didn’t seem into it and after all, it’s his prom.

So like a month ago, we hung out and he was like “don’t worry I’m going solo to prom if you’re worried about that.” I felt better because I was concerned but I felt bad; I didn’t want to hold him back so I told him he could take a friend. He kept on refusing and the topic was dropped.

Like a week ago, I was with him and had a weird feeling. I asked him if he was going to prom with a date and he said, “Don’t use the word date, it’s not a date. It’s my friend’s friend and my buddy convinced me to go.”

I was a little hurt that he didn’t approve it with me, but I didn’t make a fuss. I hate drama, but I was certainly hurt. I felt better about whom the girl was because she was actually someone I talked to in a class last year. She’s average looking, like myself, so I was glad it wasn’t someone beyond gorgeous.

So, today was the prom and I was on facebook. Pictures from prom started to take over my newsfeed and I actually threw up. I thought I could handle it but seeing pictures of the person you love holding someone else is extremely painful. She looked gorgeous and I’m just hurt and jealous.

He hasn’t texted me all night.

Do I have a right to be mad or no because I did tell him he could take a friend?

Should I say anything or just shut my mouth?

Long story short, been with this kid for about a year and we’re great together. I’m now a freshman in college and he’s a junior in high school. We click and everything and he’s a great kid. He’s one of those genuinely nice people; however, there are a few things that are eating me up. Well, for one, he didn’t ask me to his junior prom. He thinks it’s weird for college kids to go to high school events. I obviously wanted me to ask me, but it’s his prom and I didn’t want to force it. So, I told him he could take a friend and he is. I don’t know -I just feel hurt about that. The prom is tomorrow and I just keep imagining him and his friend slow dancing, looking into each other’s eyes. It’s getting to me but I don’t want to start something and ruin his prom.

I also always drive him around town like a mother. I always pay for everything. I don’t go by gender roles, I don’t think the man should pay for everything, but I think he should pay for himself. He doesn’t have a job, but I babysit and make a hundred dollars a week. I can’t afford paying for him and the gas required to drive him around.

What do I do? I love him, but I’m growing weary fast.

Stupid question, I apologize. My friend and I got into an argument about my facebook status.

My status was “Well now she's gone, even though I hold her tight.”

Would you think I sound like a lesbian or would you think that it sound like losing a family member?

I have a pt cruiser and today I noticed that when I go over speed bumps or little potholes my car makes a squeaky sound. However it is really cold, like ten degrees. Could that play a role or is my car messed up?

A little over a year ago, my Auntie went into cardiac arrest and three days later we had to take her off life support because she was brain dead. I held her hand as she took her last breath. I’m having a lot of trouble coping with this. I was in school when my dad texted me that something was wrong and every time I go down the main hallway, I have flashbacks to that moment of panic. Every time I walk into my Spanish class I have flash backs because that’s where I got the text. I also have flashbacks of watching her take her last breath. I’ll be fine and then my mind wanders and I start thinking about her and I just break down into tears in public. It’s killing me. I know other people have lost loved one. I know I’m not the only one. Please don’t attack me. I know I do sound selfish and I apologize for that. I just need help. My heart goes out to everyone who has lost someone close to them. It’s a sad part of life, but it is a part of life. If you have ever lost someone, how did you deal with it? No religious bullshit. I see through that stuff.

Shut up, forget we exist, and keep on praising that imaginary creature up in the sky.

I tend to think Brazilians are absolutely gorgeous. How about you?

Personally, I think she’s a wonderful actress and she’s one of the funniest people in Hollywood. Sarcastic people are the best type of people. Plus, she has these really cool quotes saying how she won’t starve herself to get a role because she doesn't want kids looking up to that. I think she’s awesome and a great role model. However, everyone I talk to think she’s annoying. What’s your opinion?

I’m super lame and have been watching proposal videos on YouTube. I’m curious as to how you would want to be proposed to.

From a young age I have always doubted the existence of God. It just always seemed too good to be true. My favorite author Ernest Hemingway has a quote that goes, “Because if it is all beautiful you can't believe in it. Things aren't that way.” I tend to this agree with that perspective. Do I wish Heaven and God were real? Yes, that would be a dream come true. I recently lost one of the closest people to me and I would give anything to see her again. Is it going to happen? I highly doubt it. I guess I believe that religion is manmade and its purpose it to comfort those people who are scared of what death brings. I completely understand why others believe in it. Death is scary but I rather accept the truth than believe a fairytale. Should I pretend to believe in it again for my mother’s sake? She thinks I worship the devil now, haha. She also thinks it’s just a phase, but I’ve been feeling this way my whole life.

So, I have two friends that both have lied about their sexual history to their boyfriends. One of my friends lied to her boyfriend about who took her virginity because her boyfriend would have been mad if had known. She also didn’t tell him about a one night stand she had with another guy. She was still honest about not being a virgin. Her boyfriend would have been mad if he knew who took it. She felt as if he knew that then that was good enough. Do you think that is okay? My other friend lost her virginity to her current boyfriend and he lost his to her as well. They’ve been dating forever and last year they broke up for a bit. I think the main reason she wanted to break up with him is because she had feelings for this kid Dom. So, she dated Dom without her ex knowing. She had sex with him a lot. They ended up not working out and she now is back with the guy she lost her virginity to. He lives in another country now (long story) but she’s going to marry him next summer in that country. Do you think that is okay? I know her boyfriend would flip **** if he knew she had sex with another guy. What one of these situations is worse? What’s your opinion?

So, I’ve been dating this kid for almost ten months. We recently became sexually active. The sex is good and all, but one time, we were stupid and had sex without a condom. It felt so much better. We both refuse to ever do that again because neither of us are ready to be parents. However, my boyfriend hates condoms and I do too. It just ruins sex. I’ve been thinking about going on the pill. I would have to go to Planned Parenthood because there is no way in hell my mother would allow me to go on the pill. I come from a very religious family and sex before marriage is a major sin. I don’t know if I should do this though. The closest Planned Parenthood is about forty five minutes away. So, that’s a lot of gas. The birth control would cost me about 40 a month. So that’s like 500 plus probably 50 in gas extra a year. Then again being a parent would be a million times that cost. What do you think I should do?

Long story short, I dated this kid Brian during my freshman year of high school. It didn’t work out but we ended up becoming friends. We are now freshman in college and both have significant others. About two weeks ago I noticed he deleted me from Facebook. I sent him a text saying,” hey, if I’ve ever done anything to offend you then I’m sorry.” I got no response. Then a week later after I texted him, he texted me saying, “Hey I was testing people to see if they would talk to me. I was kind of testing people.” I was really annoyed, but I just ignored him. I actually deleted his number. It’s just so immature and something a middle school student would do. I hate people that play mind games. I’ve always been there for him and he has to “test” me? My mom thinks I’m in the wrong for not responding. Am I?

So, my girl friends and I were talking and I don’t even know how it came up, but we started talking about our boyfriends and porn. I know for a fact that my boyfriend watches porn. Does it bother me? Not one bit. I like that my boyfriend and I have an open and honest relationship. My girl friends were shocked. They all said that their boyfriends don’t watch porn, but I’m pretty sure most do but they’re not going to admit to it. Am I wrong? Do most guys still watch porn even though they have a girlfriend whom they can have sex with?