CDraBella

It seems there is a repeat of circumstances where somebody who advocates the greatness of adoption and is so supportive of how great it is for adoptees and praise women for their selfless, brave decision, changes their tune as soon as first/natural moms or adoptees speak out about how adoption has hurt them.

When that happens they then sling around words like bitter and angry. Accuse us of being negative or trying to keep children in unfit situations and not caring about them to take care of our own "agenda."

It is such a contrast that I wonder if it seems possible that fear is behind their answers when the response is not in the same line of the "happy" picture of adoption they believe. Are they answering that way because they are afraid they, themselves, or their child or their child's first/natural mom might feel, or sometimes feel the same.

I know, before reuniting with my son, that it terrified me when I read about adoptees who were angry with their first/natural moms or didn't want to have anything to do with them and my first instinct was to try and deny that my son might feel that way.

So now I'm curious if that is part of the reason why those who are speaking out about the other side of adoption are so often labelled and disregarded as having nothing important to say.