Doubtful looks

It is a belief in Malay community that a female ghost which in a banana tree.

Have you seen or heard someone laughing in the night near any banana tress?

Will you look down on her and the children?

Do you believe you will be punished if you do so?

The moving of the furniture, the turning of the door knob, spinning of the little stool and closing of doors.

The whole family is all overweight.

always want to win or to be right?

Even though he or she is wrong or ignorance. Still want to argue all the way to be right.

Even though he or she is just plain nonsense.

For example,

you fell sick, you are expected to put on a mask to sleep when you are with he or she on holidays in the same hotel room. If not, the whole world will know about your insenstive act or she or he will throw tissue at you to cover your face in public.

But when it is his or her turn, it is perfectly alright to cough at your face and need not use a mask.

For example 2,

Everything good happened, it will be her or his own good luck.

Everything bad happened, it will be your bad luck that has cursed him or her when you are around. then you are in deep ****, your days are numbered.

I caught my husband taking my client away. Well, he does not put it this way.

It happened like this.

I saw him in the afternoon and ask what is his working time like because our workplaces are only 20m away. He told me he has a client who has some serious problem need his immediate attention.

So i went to continue my work and i was about to go for my appointment, i went over to his workplace just to say to goodbye. I caught him doing some work for my client without informing me even i have asked him just now.

This is not the first time he lied about this. He took away all my clients whom i have given him in goodwill because he is my husband.

I am fine if he tells me the truth. But why lie?

When i ask him the above question, he answered me this way.

"The meaning is how you look at things. Whether is from outside or inside."

I was so hurt. But he will not care less. Now he still wont come home. Because he think he is right and i should not asking this question.

what have i done wrong?

I felt like an idiot. How live with a person like this if he is not even honest to tell me the truth. I always tell him where am i and what i do. But why he still does not get it? He is not alone anymore and we are husband and wife. Why he is doing all these?

Lying is not good for the relationship.

WHY?

Even your world is coming down at you. Losing all your money, your family and your friends. Worst losing your clients.

I cannot understand why the two women have to be like this. They seems to have problem with the world of happiness. They also cannot understand what is Family Bonding. All they are good at is to tear up or use you till you are of no use. They think they are of the higher grade/breed of people . They drove my father out the house 10 years back. I moved out since I was 21. Then now after many years, I finally took my faith to bring my mother back home to stay with my family. She did the same old things again with my sister. She would tell the world we are abusing her and she is being used by us and etc etc... I took her in because she is staying alone at her house as we were worried about her safety.

As for me, they felt i was their disgrace of the family because I have children from different fathers and got married to a poor man. Though I never took their money but they just regard me a beggar outcast. I am an educated lady and run my small business but my sister didn't. That caused her to be upset with me.

Now due to some unforeseen situation, my husband and i went into some financial difficulties and we need to downgrade my family living standard.

Instead of being supportive, both of them plan to get their own house and leave without telling us.

Best of all, at the meantime, while they are still looking for a place to buy and stay, my mother is still collecting her monthly rental from her house. She refused to share the rental even though we have came to an agreement that she will help out should one day I am in trouble. But now she is accusing us of trying to cheat her money.

I am at a lost. What do i have a mother like this? What should I do?

What is believe in God?

What is not?

Advice please...

BTW, I believe the goodness of God.

Mother:

To look after your 3 children. They are very hard to be disciplined.

Wife:

To support him in all ways. He is broke. you have to make the money to support his work and his dream and you have give him moral support. you become the husband as you have pay everything on yourself.

Daughter:

To give way to your horrible mother who know only what is dollars and cents... she is not supportive in your marriage and even tried to tear us apart and also did it to your children too. You have put up with her nonsense like making the family like a country with two ruling systems like the government with opposition.She does that to her own family too.

Best of all,

You have to be with them for the rest of life. How to cope?

Any suggestions?

I am stuck. They are my love ones.

To leave it and do not care.

Or try to be the fixer but very tiring and stressed.

My mother is a little difficult lady for 40 yrs ago. My husband is a little stubborn person. So they are not seeing eye to eye lately. Though they do not talk to each other even they are staying together, now my husband refused to come home because of her.

What should I do? It is kind of difficult. My children are at home. My husband is staying outside. So where should i stay? It seems like this problem will last for 5 years.

HELP...

I love them but i cant do it at all places at the same time.

well, basically it is not anyone fault. But he wants to take up spiritual work and he has to renounce for it. Will you give him the blessing and divorce him? Or just stay married but live separate lives and stay faithful to him? We are only in our 30s.

I am worried and trying to struggle between being a good and supporting wife or think only for myself. WHAT SHOULD I DO?

Do you despise a person like this? do you think she is bad mother and a lousy person? Should she give up all her children and live by herself so that she can start all over again? Or she should just continue with this? like being an outcast? Still struggling with children and maintain a family life?

Reasons?

How to cope this? Can you? I am still struggling on it....

I am in the process of getting a restraining order from the court against the father of my daughter. He is a married man and I was his ex-mistress. We had a 5 years of abusive relationship till I finally have the guts to tell him to leave our family last year. I got married soon after that. He get really very bitter about it and started his harassment ever since.

I am now caught in a dilemma because my daughter misses her father. I am willing to bring her to see her father but in the process of applying for the restraining order, i wonder is it right or wrong to do so.

What cause me to pick up this restraining order. It is because since we cut him off last year, I did not let him see the daughter initially. But after his harassment became very bad, we decided maybe it will stop by giving him a little access. After all he is the biological father. We believe it cannot get too bad on this. So it started with a few hours with me around till me not around and then he took her back home and stay overnight. But soon this starts, my daughter always get very upset when she is back and also she told and begged me not to let her stay overnight at her father's place. I asked her why but being only 5 years, she cannot give me a reason. So I told her father about it and told him to do the few hours access will do. But he simply get upset and started off his accusation and harassment again. This time it is really bad. His threatening sms and email, lurking around my office, my husband office, my house, my daughter school, my relative house and even haunting my friends to get them to stand by him by bad mouthing me. He went to bash up my husband. He sued me for bankruptcy (checked with all my lawyers, I will lose the case). He even assaulted my old aged father too when he just to send his grand daughter back home from school. He has never stopped in all these nonsense till today. This is why I apply for the restraining order for my daughter.

Should I bring her to see the father?

What should I do now?

I am afraid of her father. He is a really freak.

The story went like this.

Your friend came one day and start talking about borrowing money from and ask you about your family. You told her your problem and she insisted of helping and took a sum of money from you because her family needs it.

Instead of feeling grateful that you have help her on this, she went to the person (called him idiot)who haunt you like ghost to tell him what your plan is to handle this idiot. You got to know about it and tell her off but she denied it. She insisted that she is a neutral party and only be friends among us. This agony that she has created has caused your family at the verge of breaking up which may result losing one of your child. What would you do such an asshole?

I am willing to lose the money I have loaned her. But I want to teach her a lesson. Because it is my family's happiness at stake.

I have a daughter who always tell us that she sees flying little humans with wings in our house. Sometimes, when she is outside, she would suddenly say that there is someone around which freak people out as none of us can see anything around us.

Now the latest GHOSTs that she have seen are from her father's house. (Her father and i are not married) I am very upset and think that she is lying all along. However, my friend was very curious about her story so she asked my daughter the details of the encounter. To my surprise, she could describe the full details of the outlook of the ghosts.

It freaks me out.

Anyone out there has seen ghost before? Can you confirmed with me that some ghosts are white and they have tail? I need to know whether is my daughter lying or it is really because she is getting very upset each time I told her to go her father's place to stay for one or two nights. She insist that there are many ghosts in her father place. I cannot explained to this to the judge because we cannot document ghost as the father is suing me for not letting her go to his place.

I need help. Please help....