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its been 1 month. walking,bending, jumping...whatever is fine and pain free. any contact hurts far more than i feel it should. i cant reasonably take off work. what did i damage and how do i fix it?

I adore my wife. i miss her dearly. we had problems. who doesnt. i moved out and shortly after so did she. i really tried to convince myself we were better off apart. but we arent. i miss her more than anyone would ever believe...now heres the snag. her family HATES me. since we split, her brothers best friend did his best to charm her, and put the moves on. i think she really believes he likes her, but his WIFE and 2 month old baby are still an issue. the family hates me, but i love my wife. we have alot of difficult issues, but i just want my wife back. we havent even started the divorce stuff. i told her to move on. i tried to tell myself it was best. but its not. i miss her. my boss recommended i get anti-depressants since i cant finish a day at work without breaking down crying several times. i adore my wife. i hurt her by not saying i love her. i just want my wife and life back. shes my world and i just dont know what to do. i have told her how i feel. its all killing me.

My wife and I are about to start the legal divorce process. uncontested. we didnt fight over petty crap like most. we separated peacefully. we are still civil and usually pretty agreeable about whatever we talk about or need to take care of. i moved out of our home 7 or 8 months ago. she moved out 4 months ago. this was all relativeley civil and agreeable, compared to most.

My issue comes from the fact that she is still my wife. in a good way. not bad. i still refuse to date anyone. i dont "fool around" with anyone. to be perfectly honest, im still devastated by the fact that its done. i stay busy to not stay depressed. shes now got a new boyfriend. and i am truly happy for them. they have always been friends. so im sure they will be ok. im not jealous. i think im mostly hurt at the idea...not the event. if that makes any sense. im still honoring our agreement, the promises we made. even though its clearly over. as of right now, she still is my wife. am i wrong? stupid crap ruined us