im lost. im heartbroken. how can i get my wife back. anyone please help.?

Your reason for moving out is unclear except for unspecified problems. Since you left, you need to:

*Do the work to fix the issue that you have with committment and communication. Problems don't make married people move out, but work together. You are no different than the day you moved out, why would anyone take you seriously. Do the work to be the kind of man you can respect and that will be taken seriously as a husband.

*Missing someone doesn't mean you are good for eachother. Change is traumatic and can be lonely, confusing and make us feel like we've jumped out of an airplane with no parachute. But my point is, the discomfort you feel needs to be processed and adding your wife back into your life is not ever going to be an insta fix. All the same problems are there. Again do the work.

*Family want what is best for their own. The baby daddy guy is not a real threat, get over it. You need to first be straight with your wife and tell her you care, but you want to be a better person and that is exactly what you need to do....learn, grow, process, think and get some tools to be a better husband.

Possibly you do have some chemical imbalance or emotional issue, but psychological drugs don't fix emotional problems.

Straighten out what you want not what you need. What will you truly work for and be committed to for the rest of your life. Scared and needy men make terrible husbands. Be invicible and unwavering.

First of all anti-depressants won't work, and they actually won't help either. Counciling always a good idea, but doctors can't fix broken hearts, avoid a medical doctor unless you have a treatable sickness.

Now as for your issue. The best way to get your wife back is to focus on YOU. That sounds silly I am sure, but it is true. No woman wants a whinning and crying man boring them to death (re-read your question).

Leave her alone for a week or two. For now figure out what activities make you happy. Sports? Art? Music? Take yourself to a show, or a movie. Have something else to talk about with your wife instead of how much you miss her. When you do finally talk, avoid the melodrama. Speak nothing about missing her, or her family, or other dudes.

At this point her business is her business. If she seeks to share it with you that is a good sign things will go back perfect. If she takes the space and then seeks more, give it to her. You are a comidity and you are selling yourself short.

This is going to sound silly but understand the analogy, and put it to work, watch an episode of 'Two and a Half Men" make sure you are the Charlie Sheen and not the John Cryer.

Tell her how you feel.

Don't even be tempted to try making her jealous about someone else - it's a bad one and always will be.

Be strong - women don't want wimpy guys.

Tell her you would like to talk the problem through, and meet her more than half way in fixing the problem. You now know how it will feel if you divorce.

Forget about the other guy.

Why does the family hate you? Can you also try to mend some bridges there?

Forget the anti-depressants.

No more crying.

Ask her how she would suggest fixing things - and then try your hardest to fix them.

Good luck.

I would tell her the truth, by saying you made a big mistake, and that you didn't mean to push her away.Be upfront with her, and say that next time you have disagreements, you will work them out together, as husband and wife.I would meet up with her, in a mutual place, so she doesn't feel pressured, at this stage.I would even get a sorry card for her, and put all of how you are feeling now in it.I hope this helps you

It all depends what were those " a lot of difficult problems" that you had.I mean if there is hope or things can be fixed.If you didn't brake her heart into pieces.If you abused her or cheated ten times.....it's really hard.Her family hates you for a reason.But here is my advice.........you don't give up on her.Keep trying and trying.I mean tell her over and over.now don't be annoying.just call her every day.Keep it nice,polite and short.Tell her you are sorry,you realize how much you love her and you are willing to change and do anything that she wants.Tell her you miss her and you want her back.It will be different this time,it will be a new start for you two.Go to her family that hates to.Talk to them.You really have to convince them.They kick you out,it's fine............try again.

If you miss your wife and want to fix things the first thing to do is figure out what drove her to want to walk away from the relationship in the first place. Then decide what it would take to meet her needs with regards to this issue.

Tell her what you feel went wrong and what you feel you can do to see that it doesn't continue to be a problem in the future. Tell her you love her, and that you desperately want to fix things - but also tell her how you plan to make things better if she would give you the chance. Ask her if she would consider dating you. Hopefully she will see the things she originally fell in love with again. Find a positive outlet for yourself in the in-term. It will help with the depression you are suffering with and that will help you seem more appealing to her.

Honestly you have done everything you can from your end.. Give it time.. She may realize you are what she needs.. But in the future here if she doesn't have a change of heart your going to have to find a way to pick yourself up and move on. Life is to short to dwell on the past. I know you may think im full of it but believe me i know from experience here. You don't want to wake up one day and look back and realize the years you wasted and can't get back.. Good luck

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that's a pretty tough situation,having his family hate you because of what you did to her might be a problem to get her back. .but don't let them stop you or bother you from winning her back.

Prove to her that you are now a better man and you'll do everything to win her back. Just be patient, you can't hurry things. I guess, somehow she still loves you. .and there's still a possibility that you will be together again.

I felt the same way when my wife's affair with my friend almost ended our marriage. We stayed together but now she's at it again and I envy you. Perhaps you really don't know that your situation is improving without her. You two split up for a reason; clear your head and think about it.