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Been with this guy for 3 months now but we said I love you after only one month. Is that crazy and way too soon? I have never felt this away about anyone else.

So I’m at college and I became friends with this guy in my Spanish class and we started studying together to keep on top of work. Since we became friends we also joined this walking society thing to take walks around the local area with other students. Sometimes we also meet to cook or eat together sometimes with others sometimes just us. He’s a really nice guy and we have fun hanging out together but recently I’m pretty sure he started to like me in a different way and I really don’t want him to make any moves or anything. I don’t want to bring it up in case it embarrasses him etc but then how do I make it clear that I only want to be friends?

I know that brain dead patients will not breathe without the aid of a machine but the brain will still beat for some time after the breathing machine is turned off suggesting that while breathing is brain dependant, the heart beat is not. So I m basically wondering if there are any other functions in the body that are not entirely brain-dependant?

We have been dating for almost two months which I know isn't long but we have been seeing each other almost every day. I am studying at a university in England, he is also at the same university but he is an Italian Erasmus student in his third year. He is staying in England until he has finished at the university and is then going back to Italy to finish his degree and start a masters. I am in my first year and am planning on doing at least the full three years (or four if I do a year abroad). So, as he said to me last night, we are on different paths, our lives are going in different directions. He said our relationship is like a car and it's going fast right now and soon there is a wall coming and we will hit it and crash. He says we should slow down and stop the car now so that we don't crash into the wall. Of course I understand. It just hurts so much. It feels like we haven't been together for that long, but I still care so much about him. I've never felt anything like this before and I don't want it to end. We are meeting tomorrow to talk more. I don't know what to say- do I want to stay friends? I don't want to lose him but it will hurt so much being around him after we break up. He says he doesn't want to bet like he did with his last girlfriend two years ago, I know that break up hurt him badly. I wish he hadn't waited until now to end it, when I care about him so deeply but he says we've been blind. I don't want it to end. What do I do?

I went on one date with this guy and I really like him. So far we just got drinks, talked and kissed a lot lol. After the date he asked if he cold come in (to my house) and I was like hmmm maybe after the next date. We're going to for dinner in a few days. So yeah should I be worried that if I sleep with him he won't talk to me again? Cause I like him and do want to sleep with him but if that's all he wants, I don't want to give someone like that a minute of my time.

So basically... my group of friends kinda became friends with my cousins friends cause we’re the same age. My best friend started dating my cousin which I was totally ok with but then they broke up. My cousin really hurt my best friend cause he dumped her but they stayed friends which is good for me. But then as soon as she got over him they started hooking up again and now they’re like friends with benefits and for some reason it really annoys me. I’ve always been supportive of her getting with him and tried to give good advice but now I just hate whenever she tells me they hooked up! She says she doesn’t like him and that she isn’t gonna get with him anymore but then she always gives in as soon as he makes a move. I know it’s so stupid for me to be irritated by this but I can’t help it! Anyone have any advice?

So a few months ago I was diagnosed with depression. Since i developed this I've found it incredibly difficult to focus, get motivated and generally do anything. I have considered suicide many times and attempted once. After that my parents took me to the doctor and I was diagnosed. I was told to get CBT but the NHS waiting list is so long that I am trying to get it through a university research programme. I hate the therapy but can't see any other options. I went on holiday for a month without my family and it was an amazing feeling to be free of all the worry and low feelings at home. Since I came back everything has been worse than ever. I think I flunked my exams last year and I am planning on killing myself if I fail because of the humiliation. I feel unable to communicate with anyone and generally hate human interaction. I need help but don't know what to do.

Loads of people told me that depression cannot be diagnosed for young people under 18. I am 17 and had to speak to a mental health person would said she believed that I was depressed and gave to go to CBT. I guess this wasn't a proper diagnosis then? Lemme know what you think <3

Basically, last week I was diagnosed with depression and soon I'm supposed to be starting cbt. I haven't self harmed for quite a while but one of my friends saw some old scars and told my bff. My bff told me what she said but I just laughed it off and she seemed relieved didn't think anything was wrong. I'm worried about seeing the friend that saw it because none of my friends know how I've been feeling. Should I tell her that I'm fine or just leave it because I don't want to tell her the truth but if anyone looks closely, the scars are still there.

I basically just want you guys opinions if you're willing :p I'm 16 and I've only dated guys. I know I'm into them cause I just appreciate broad shoulders and **** like that and yeah I've got turned on making out with guys before. I've never got with a girl except when drunk and I don't really remember but as long as I can remember I have been attracted to girls. When I was young and found out what lesbians were I was kind like wow that's hot. The only porn that turned me on was lesbian (but apparently that's not relevant) and I've just had sooo many crushes on girls, mostly ones I know and not celebrities whereas with guys it's mainly celebrity crushes. Maybe I'm bi I just don't know cause I kinda go through periods of being totally into girls and then totally into guys so it's confusing.

Side note: I've only dated guys but never really had feelings for them.. like at first I was kinda infatuated but after a couple of weeks I just got bored and was proper just take it or leave it type thing. Any way let me know what ya think :)

Basically the other day I was feeling really weird and kind of hyper like I couldn't control any of the things I was saying and doing. When I got home I just cut myself with a Swiss Army knife and i don't really know why. The thing is that I liked it- it felt calming watching my skin bleed so I did it many more times and have continued the past couple of days as well. Why am I doing this? I know distantly that it's bad and it could scar and people could see but I don't really want to stop.

Sometimes, usually when I m feeling low or overwhelmed my body feels really weightless kind of like I m floating and then my body goes numb, once I slapped my face hard when it happened and barely felt it. Also my breathing usually feels really loud for some reason and I can hear what sounds like my blood pumping in my ears. Just wondering if that s normal thanks :) Don t know if this is relevant but i have been pretty depressed recently aswell.

Recently I guess I've been feeling depressed but mostly it's kind of a numbness like nothing makes me happy or sad and I just don't want to do anything. I've been finding it hard to motivate myself to get up and do any work and it's suddenly really hard to talk to anyone. It's like every conversation annoys me and I get irritated with people so easily. Being around a lot of people all the time seems to exhaust me. The worst part is really the numbness- two very close family members died at the end of last year and I didn't feel anything. I feel like a terrible person for not grieving while the rest of my family are in pain. I don't really care about anything or anyone anymore and I would rather just spend my time alone doing nothing. Nothing feels real anymore. I've had a few suicidal thoughts but I'm not sure if they were serious or not. Sometimes reality does come crashing down and it's so overwhelming I feel like I'm drowning. I hate talking about how I feel although my mum has tried to get me to go to the gp but I just can't. I guess I also suddenly hate physical affection and I'm finding it hard to say I love you to my family even though I know I do.

Mainly I'm just wondering what other peoples takes are on this issue because I've been told firstly that 'yes everyone can be racist' and then contrastingly 'no you can't be racist to a whites person because they are the majority and have never been oppressed'. My issue with the second opinion is that racism is not synonymous with oppression and I thought that even though white people have never had to face systemic racism and discrimination, individual racism is still real right? Like individuals can harbour racist opinions towards whites right? I didn't think racism had to be systemic to be real and valid but yeah if I'm wrong correct me