Rhonda Mcfierson

I dont really know what to think of it,and I think he was just trying to get her attention...I told him to say sorry and he went to the corner,and then he came back and hit her again...the adoption worker said it was okay... I did notify her way before this that he was starting to hit,so she knew he was having this problem beforehand.she said it was normal for his age. is she going to think something bad of me? or is she going to realize our child is just going through a stage? his sister joined our family about six months months ago after him being here for a year,and he had a hard time with it at first not being the only child anymore. she is 5. they play pretty well,and show love for each other,but sometimes he gets a little irritated with her because she has a toy he wants or whatever the case may be. it seems like he just doesn't know how to express his feelings properly yet because he is so young. the girl(5) had a hard time adjusting at first and needed a lot of redirection at first and I had to remind her a lot to be careful playing with our boy because he was smaller,and I also stressed the no hitting policy of the house so she would know she cant do that here...maybe he is trying to let her know he is tough and to not mess with him? but then he hit the social worker..im thinking he does it for attention because we stress not to hit so much...and he was trying to get her attention...he just learned to talk and we are trying to let him know you can just tell us what you want...he just needs practice im thinking =). I just wanted to make sure it would be okay. i mean,stuff like this happens all the time when dealing with kids! but I feel a lot of pressure because we are going through foster/adoption right now and dont want anything to go wrong,and we are almost finalized,and I just dont want them thinking there is something wrong with us being their forever parents when in reality,there's nothing wrong,we just love them and want them to be with us forever.with the adoption worker coming every month,I feel like we have to be all perfect,and we just ARE NOT! haha! we are just human,we bleed! I cant wait till this is finalized so we can take our imperfectness and live a normal life. =)

I have tried so hard to figure this out of what I should choose for a career,but haven't been able to decide yet. I took a career test,and one of them said I would be a good teacher,one said a Psychologist,or a Counselor,and I think one time it said a Lawyer...the one i think I might want to do the most is a counselor,like a school counselor or something..the other two careers dont interest me at all. I was thinking of justn picking a career on what I am passionate about,not what a test tells me. so these are the things that interest me. 1) I am very interested in different countries and would love to be in the world,know the conditions of how people are living,and thier culture,all extremely interesting to me. I dont want to just live in my bubble (USA),and not communicate with the rest of the world. i would love to know people all over the world and get to know them as people ,but still live in the US...I have taken an Anthropology class and LOVED it!! I research different countries all the time and it is my goal to find out EVERYTHING i can about each and every country,so interesting!!!2) I like Math,I really think it would be cool to get really good at it,and that i know of,it wold give me a lot of job options. a lot of people think they are bad at Math when the reality,at least for me is that I just needed to study harder to get it. I have only gotten to Algebra though,lol,but that doesnt mean I cant get really good at it,I just need time to do it. I usually make A's in my Math classes. 3) fashion. I would LOVE to design dresses and I have a good eye to what looks fashionable and what looks awful...the only problem with this is that I think getting a career in this would be harder,and I think I would regret trying to get into it instead of one of the choices above. 4) School Psychologist: I love kids,but I dont want to try to handle a whole classroom. I am great with one on one interaction with a child though..and I have kids,so this would make it so I could come home when the kids got off school. the onyl problem is that Im not as excited about this option.

5)home based business: so I could stay at home with my kids....I could..but I dont really want to stay home....I do stay home right now because I know its better for the kids. I have a 2yr old,and a five year old,and they need a LOT of attention,and I want them to grow up right. I know a lot of moms have to work,and I understand that,but for our family in particular,at least right now,the kids need me to be there for them 24/7. I also dont know any home based businesses I could find out there... so,this is what im interested in,I do worry about having a job after i get out of school,I want a career that will have jobs available as well when i get out of school. and if someone decides to lay me off,that its no big deal because someone else wants to hire me right away. so,from the evidence,what should I go into? thanks =)

what does "or what have you" or "if you will" mean and why do people say it?

does "or what have you" make sense?" is this using bad english? does it annoy anyone else than me when you hear it? thanks =D

so you would think it is simple to enroll you kids in school right? just walk down to the school and talk to someone?.....well,I call,no answer,so I go down to the school,they are closed down for the summer,the office is locked. I try to find a website,and find one,but there's nothing about enrollment,and there's no signs on the building to say anything either. i am lost! I dont want my kid to not be able to be enrolled just because I didnt know what to do. lol! I could just wait for it to open because hey! it has to open sometime right? well,im afraid if I wait.it'll be filled.

my social worker thinks that our son we are in the adoption process with isnt talking when he totally is. he is a premie,was 1 pd,11oz when born,the mom didnt have prenatal care and was using drugs...but thankfully,he is very healthy now...and smart. so,I dont know if they are just concerned because of his background,or think Im not trying to get him to talk. I talk to him all the time,read to him,have flash cards,and he watches an educational game in the morning. he talks! not full sentences,but can say words...but occasionally he has said some short sentences. he has said "i love you","bless you""hi doggie",and one words...doggie,boo(our dogs name),tiger,ball,dada,mama,daddy,hi,hot,up,off,horse,hat,glasses,baby(in sign language and saying baby),door,more(in sign laguage and once said it aloud)...and other things he has said that i forgot right now...and im wondering is that okay for an almost two year old? It makes me stressed out that she thinks he isnt talking,and i have told her this,but I can tell she doesnt believe me,unless she has proof,she doesnt believe it. there is a separate Adoption worker as well that comes to our home that he has said "baby" for,and even did it in sign language,but he wont do it for the other social worker,I dont know if he's just intimidated by her or what,not sure. she is a nice lady,but she's one of those ones that she's nice unless you tick her off,then watch out. but the Adoption worker is really sweet and seems to like us as an adoptive couple,and for our boy to say "baby" in front of her is good.I told the Social worker he said it to her,so hopefully she will ask her if he did if she doesnt believe me. I understand the Social worker is trying to make sure he's doing good in our home,but I dont want learning FORCED on him because that could stress him out and make him not want to do it. we LOVE this child SO much and we are going to teach him everything we can reguardless of if a social worker is coming to see him or not,so i find it to be a little bit frustrating. I cant wait till the adoption is finalized,that way we can relax a bit,teach him what we can and at his pace and just enjoy having the son we have always wanted. we are big on education in our family and thats why this bothers me so much,im really helping him as much as I can and it is frustrating that she doesnt see that and has to have proof even though she is only there for 15 minutes tops. the adoption worker is there for at least an hour or a half hour,so of course she's going to hear him talk when she is there. he is also a bit shy and needs to warm up to the person as I think a lot of kids do. so i was just wondering if It sounds like im doing okay with his education so far. is there anything i need to add? I think im doing everything i can.....? thanks

I have a boy who is developmentally behind,but smart =)

he doesn't have all his teeth,they are slowly coming in and i am so glad!!! I was wondering what I should be feeding him. and what everyone else his age usually eats. I make sure he has plenty of vegetables and whole grains in his diet,but i want to make sure im not missing anything by asking other people what they feed their kids,thank you! =)

I have an almost 2yr old son and I was wondering for everyone who knows about this kind of thing when you should put them to bed? and also how many naps they should get?

and WHEN do you give them naps? 10am? 12? 3pm? I have certain times I give him naps right now,but I was wondering what other parents do.

I have a preemie,he was teeny tiny(1pd,11oz),so he's developmentally behind,but very smart =)

thank you! =)

how do you answer that question? "who are you?" I hate it when people ask me this! I dont know who I am! um,a woman,....its an awkward question with a more awkward response,yet I have been asked that and I dont know what to say.

when I told someone I was miscarrying,they said I was "screwed in the head" because I was upset about it and asking for ways to deal with it.I wasnt even asking her,i was asking one of my friends. she is pregnant herself with a healthy baby. I am shocked that she would be so cruel! what is her problem? how should I confront her?

i was wondering what do you do with the remains of a miscarried baby? It was 12 weeks along.

Ive heard you cant bury them until 22 weeks according to a funeral director. and there is no way I am just going to just dispose of the remains. what can i do legally? no one EVER told me what to do in this kind of situation,so how am I to know?

please,this is a sensitive subject and I lost MY BABY,so please refrain from judgement and harsh words,only nice sensitive words please. I am VERY heartbroken, thank you

someone had a response to what I said on facebook whaen I said "you dont need a slap in the face!",and she wrote:Ams slaps me in the face quite a bit..um...what does that mean?? she always uses abbreviations.

I am just about to adopt a baby boy and his mom was doing meth. I obviously know it affects the moms teeth,but what about the babies teeth?? his teeth came in yellow and discolored and pitted,but only a couple of them,the others are ok...might be a little yellow...I brush them twice a day and when the doctor said "eew! brush his teeth" i said "i do!!" but now I brush them three times a day. im goign to take him to the dentist immediately. I am afraid to tell the social worker...I dont want her to think its my fault..i brush his teeth everyday!!! I need someone who knows more about this...or if theres any websites that talk about this that you know of,that would be extremely helpful,thankyou!!! =)

I was just wondering how much a 15 month old boy weighs normally,thanks

was wondering how long is the "norm" for a baby to have a pacifier,and when it is time to wean him off. thanks.

how would you react and what would you do if someone started spying on thier ex-girlfriend through your facebook account? and then blamed the whole thing on you? basically the ex girlfriend found out her ex and new girlfriend were spying on her through me,my brother,and my sister in laws accounts.she asked me if I knew them in a private message,and I said that I didnt know them,then i mentioned that they seemed to be spying on her. then I get a message from both the new girlfriend,and the ex husband chewing me out for "gossiping" about them in detail of what the message to my friend said!!! they even blamed me for their whole divorce just because i mentioned they might be spying on her! lol! I barely even know these people! I only know the ex-wife and ex husband,not the girlfriend,and I dont even know them that well. all I did was just inform my friend of what was going on. it was a private message to my friend,but somehow they were able to access her account and read her messages,making it even more obvious that they were spying on her. so now they are playing "the good guys",and trying to pin it all on me,someone they barely even know. wierd. since they went through my brother and sister in law to spy as well,my brother messaged them and asked if they were spying on the ex wife through his account,and they said no,that that was something I just made up about them.i dont know why I would even bother "making up" something like that! why would someone who has enough to worry about in her own life care enough to make up things about other people?especially people she barely even knows??? that would be very stupid! and very junior high! I havent responded to anything they have said,but feel I need to say something to let them know I completely disagree with what they are trying to do,and that I dont appreciate them forcing blame onto someone completely on the outside of thier circle so that they could get the blame off of them. I usually dont ever stand up for myself,and i feel really helpless right now and want to speak up. i told people on my facebook to watch out for people "in general" that they dont know just so these people dont think im gossiping about them again,ugh! is this normal for someone to try to find a completely innocent person to force the blame on to get them out of the clear? its like they want to blame me for all thier problems! what do I do? they are off my friendslist now,thank goodness!

so theres this friend on my facebook that just got divorced. well,the new girlfriend of the ex-boyfriend,and the ex-boyfriend decide they want to be on my friends list,my brothers,my sister in laws,and the new girlfriend doesnt even know us. I know the ex-husband,but the ex husband doesnt know my sister in law or my brother,and they decide to be thier friends as well. then my divorced friend(real friend) asks me "are you friends with my ex's girlfriend or are they just up to no good?" so I email her back on facebook to tell her they arent my friends at all,and that they are on my brother and sister in laws facebook as well,and that they dont know them either. then I said that it seems as though they are spying on her. I just wanted to let my friend know what was maybe going on to protect her. then I get two messages,one from the new girlfriend,and one from the ex-husband telling me I was gossiping and how dare I get involved in thier business and meddle around and everything.(so that made it OBVIOUS they were spying at that point since it was a "private" email to my friend,not at all to them!!!) I wasnt trying to do anything like that! just trying to inform my friend of what i was observing,thats all! so now these two are all ticked at me thinking im gossiping about them when I could care less about thier stupid drama! I wanted to chew them out,but then I was thinking if i did that,I would just be more involved in thier stupid drama,so I didnt chew them out even though I was fighting the urge so badly. I told my brother and sister in law what they were doing just so they knew about the situation since they had these people on his friends list even thoough he doesnt know them..NO ONE knows them!!! at least in my family,but has them on thier list. they are making this whole thing a huge big ol deal,and I wasnt even trying to do anything except protect my friend. then my brother decides to stir the can of worms and messages them and asks them "are you spying on your ex wife through me?" and then they message back and say that I wrote to them and accused them of spying on michelle. I didnt say ANYTHING to them! I was talking to Michelle the whole time!! they must have had access to my friends account somehow! I told my friend to change her password! so now they are trying to pin all this on me,and Ive had enough of thier crap and want to tell them off. I wanted to stay as much out of it,but at the same time I feel like I want to defend myself. I dont know what to do. i want to tell them off! It really looks like they were spying on my friend,and I found out about it,so they are trying to cover it up by saying I didn something wrong. thats what it looks like to me. I just wanted to write to the new girlfriend and tell her all I was trying to do was protect a friend from someone that looked like they were spying on her,and to leave me out of thier stupid drama. and tell them that i know I wasnt in the wrong and that i dont know what they are trying to do,but keep me out of it! is that too much or should I just leave it alone? I would just leave it alone,but it seems as though I need to stand up for myself with these people. they are driving me nuts! i mean,HELLO! I was writing to MY friend,and then get an email back from them ,and it was obvious that they read her messages,so what does that say? I mean,if you didnt want me to think that you were spying,then why did you email me back based on the contents of the "private" letter to my friend? I heard these two are very manipulative. they like to cause drama I guess. but they swear thier in the right. i dont even know what happened! I didnt do anything wrong! I just want to chew them out!! what do I do??

good boys names?

we are adopting a baby boy,his name has already been named by his birthmom.we love the name James,and it means something to us that the first time we heard we were going to be parents,they said he was named James. My brother insists that we change it because they were going to name their future son James.he was basically TELLING me to change it,not just asking. they arent pregnant,and are having difficulty getting pregnant for a second time.so theres no knowing if they will have a boy. we really like the name James,so dont know what to do. he said if we name him james,then they will still name thier child James,which would seem kind of wierd. the only thing I could think of is to name him james,and have the nickname of Jay,which I wouldnt mind. but havign the same name for both kids as my brother? kind of strange! if the boy we are adopting wasnt already named James,we wouldnt have a problem having a different name for him..we really like it. its also the same name as my grandpa,so that made it extra special for us. i was thinking of just picking a different name just to get him to leave me alone,and then telling him I found a "better" name just to get back at him,lol...i dont know what to do

my sister just had a devestating miscarriage,she was suicidal. then my sister in law prances into town and announces she is pregnant for the fourth time right in front of my sister.my sister wanted to end her life after that and went home and bawled her eyes out. then they get mad at her for not going to thier baby blessing! now they are having a baptism for thier oldest son,and they are mad because she doesnt feel up to going to that either. she loves them,this is just a very difficult time for her right now. no one seems to get it,they are just thinking about the fact that she didnt come. I know she'll come around adventually,but right now she is dealing with a lot,she has had four or five miscarriages and feels really alone.i hope she can get better soon. I dont think these people get how hard it has been for her,they seem to be really into themselves,its pretty much all about them. what do I do to get them to understand?

someone I clean for got me another house to clean, the problem is that this person wants me to clean thier mother in laws house,and the mother in law sounds like she doesnt want her house cleaned. the daughter in law is concerned because the mother in law doesnt clean the house at all,and she doesnt want it to get wrecked because the daughter in law herself actually owns the property. I called the mom in law and she said she doesnt want me to clean for that week,maybe next week. so I told her I would call her to find out if she wants her house cleaned next monday,which is tomorrow. well,the daughter in law calls me up and says sorry that she was like this and that I cant call her because every time she will say no,and that I have to literally go over there and just say "im here to clean",not even ask if she wants her house cleaned. then she said I had to be a little forceful. (wow,I dont think so!). I told her I would NOT be forceful on her mother in law. I agreed to just show up though since that is just how she responds. but now I am feeling like I really dont want to show up at someones house that doesnt want thier house cleaned! lol! that sounds crazy! but her daughter in law wants it cleaned,arg! I dont know what to do! the daughter in law even told her mom in law that I was just going to show up next time and that if she didnt want the service that she would still have to pay me for gas. that sounds like she is being pushy to her mom in law,and even kind of sounds a little like blackmail or something! I want the job,and im in no position to turn down money right now,but this just doesnt sound right at all! and the thing that makes it worse is that if I dont just "show up" at this new house,that I will hear it from the customer that got me the job as well,and she will be upset with me because she is the daughter in laws friend,so its not a good situation at all! I feel caught in the middle of whatever is happening between this mom in law and daughter in law! no one wants that! lol! i dont know,I was thinking about showing up and just asking the mom,"do you want your house cleaned today?",and if she didnt and tryed to pay me gas just let her know she doesnt have to,and then tell the daughter in law im not cleaning for her. maybe that would be a good way to handle it? hmmm. the daughter in law is leaving for a different country for two months and needs someone to clean this house...it makes me feel guilty when someone needs something done and I say no,but the way its all going,I dont like the situation...i was wondering how others would handle this,thanks.