mslemona

I'm always amazed at the lack of common sense these days. As if thinking - and figuring things out is passe. That we now require the television or google to tell us what is the correct thing to do.

Did we forget how to teach our children common sense?

Is there no longer something called "common" sense?

Anyone have any thoughts on this?

and stress as an excuse?

It seems to me that some folks, not all, clamor to the term. Everyone gets depressed sometimes - I mean life can be tough and it sure isn't fair. Then there are those who are clinically depressed and don't seem to have the tools to work past it and require therapy and medication. And then there are those that are too lazy to live there lives or change their lives and use depression as an excuse and keep talking and talking about the problem to try and get others to solve it for them, while they do nothing but garner attention for "poor me".

It seems to me that people use the term "depressed" or "stressed" whenever life is dealing them a tough hand. To me, how we deal with adversity shows what we are made of, our charactor is developed and honed as we learn. And while not easy, in the long run we are better people for learning how to deal with these bad things that we encounter or that just happen to us.

For example: my bf / gf left me 3 months ago and I'm so depressed - what should do? Why not keep busy, read, write take up a hobby go out with your friends. Is this too simplistic?

My mother is sick, I want to put her in a home, but i feel guily, everyone is telling me what to do and I don't know what to do and I'm so stressed and depressed. Make a decision - one way or another - don't let others determine what you do or don't do - then live with the results - I don't think this is difficult.

My friends at school pick on me and tease me all the time, I don't know what to do, I'm so stressed and depressed. They aren't your friends - find new ones, we deserve to have friends that appreciate us and to be treated well.

It seems that in many cases it's a selfish way to get attention and to divert attention from a situation that requires action. Then it's the "no one but me understands" what I'm going through. And that's true, but don't we as individuals have some sort of control over our destiny? Shouldn't we step up to our own lives and make the changes that we see fit?

Sorry for the rant - and the length of the comment. I do understand that at times we all need help to deal with life - yet how long do we linger on a problem or situation before we should deal with it and move on?