Jenny

Upset with boyfriend because, boyfriend made plans to help female co-worker a week before he actually did and never mentioned anything to me about it until the day it happens...does anyone else see the problem here..?

Now Im stuck with a cat that can't afford in the first place and this was supposed to be some sort of surprise for me..I don't want a cat in the first place and secondly i feel this should have been discussed with me before the fact....I am in the wrong for feeling hurt and being upset..?

A year ago I was in a weather related fender bender, the roads were ice covered and I was traveling about 5 miles per hour, I saw a car in front of me they were far a head but as I kept traveling I tapped on the break to slow down and the guy in from of me had just gotten off the interstate as he had the right of way there was no need for him to stop but to only yield as I thought he was doing but instead he slammed on his brakes and I was aways behind him and I braked but due to the ice the car kept going and hit his bumper, I was not being negligent my car was not out of control, it was pure ice and beyond my control. The car was not mine but a friends car and I provided the insurance which was in the car and that should have taken care of it right? But it did not, I ended up buy the car 5 days after the incident for a good deal I couldn't pass up. I am now being sued for $1030.00 for that accident why are they suing me, the car was insured it was not my car they know this, are they trying to pull a fast one on me I shouldn't be liable for the accident , it was weather related not my car and the car had insurance, I dont know what to do any advice oh I live in Iowa if that helps. Thanks

I was sent this message, after having told them they just may have a foot in the door to the music industry as the producers were sold I shared the publicly listed song with a producer I found and they shared it with other producers and were sold, I thought this would be good news, but I do not understand the response what this person means or is trying to say, any takes?

Please only serious answers also just an fyi not sure if this has anything to do with the response this person was adopted and the family doesn't support the gift and talents possessed and actually are sort of controlling and he is an adult, this person did reunite with their family of origin and was said it was the best thing that could have happened but then the parents were non supportive and started making the person feel really bad and disloyal saying they are enjoying something the other adopted siblings may never have and that they are selfish for doing it and was told to move on told you met found out information its been good time to move on, that's not what was really wanted but think the person felt they had to show loyalties and broke away from the family of origin because the parents moved the person out of state because they really didn't break away from the family of origin and kept going back but the parents didn't like it one bit it scared them that the person was spending so much time with them and wasn't moving on as they suggested. I point this out and feel that it is relevant because of how the message was worded an such, talk of society not wanting to disappoint and assimilate into the a whole, and the point where it is said tired of proving themselves, that they know what they are capable of that it is not seen or others think they know . I posted this question to hopefully get a better understanding of what is actually being said because i just do not understand it. message is below

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I know what I am capable of even though so many have no clue including those who think they know. oh well I no longer feel the need to prove myself. If I live the dream how will I ever dream?

Tired so tired ready to be happy and exhale. Inhale tomorrows fruitful aroma so that I can live really live. Society is waiting, I won't disappoint, must become apart of the whole, assimilate.

I was sent this message, after having told them they just may have a foot in the door to the music industry as the producers were sold I shared the publicly listed song with a producer I found and they shared it with other producers and were sold, I thought this would be good news, but I do not understand the response what this person means or is trying to say, any takes?

Please only serious answers also just an fyi not sure if this has anything to do with the response this person was adopted and the family doesn't support the gift and talents possessed and actually are sort of controlling and he is an adult, this person did reunite with their family of origin and was said it was the best thing that could have happened but then the parents were non supportive and started making the person feel really bad and disloyal saying they are enjoying something the other adopted siblings may never have and that they are selfish for doing it and was told to move on told you met found out information its been good time to move on, that's not what was really wanted but think the person felt they had to show loyalties and broke away from the family of origin because the parents moved the person out of state because they really didn't break away from the family of origin and kept going back but the parents didn't like it one bit it scared them that the person was spending so much time with them and wasn't moving on as they suggested. I point this out and feel that it is relevant because of how the message was worded an such, talk of society not wanting to disappoint and assimilate into the a whole, and the point where it is said tired of proving themselves, that they know what they are capable of that it is not seen or others think they know . I posted this question to hopefully get a better understanding of what is actually being said because i just do not understand it. message is below

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I know what I am capable of even though so many have no clue including those who think they know. oh well I no longer feel the need to prove myself. If I live the dream how will I ever dream?

Tired so tired ready to be happy and exhale. Inhale tomorrows fruitful aroma so that I can live really live. Society is waiting, I won't disappoint, must become apart of the whole, assimilate.

I am trying to figure out what 1/3 of $3776.00 would be and the formula for the answer, I have learning disabilities and Math well lets just say I totally sucked in that subject, I ask for the formula so I will know how to figure out on my own should I come across needing to know this again. Thank you in advance

My son's adoptive mother told my son," Your having a relationship with your birth family is not fair to your siblings and your enjoying such a relationship is selfish of you", I found this to be emotional black mail, and wanted some opinions, on if this sounds like emotional blackmail

She told him your having a relationship with your birth family is not fair to your siblings( whom are all adopted as well) you are enjoying something they may never have and that is selfish of you

If you could give some examples that would be great

I received quite a few text messages on my phone from a co-worker on my day off, the message said " If I hear you complain about anything tomorrow at work I am gonna flip", I responded with I am confused what is this about, she then said" I m just warning you what will happen and by the way this didnt happen at work so it stays away from work" I then responded with the fact that there are malicious rumors and crap that go on at work and that I am being singled out, SHe then responded with" no your not so stop , and hell you gossip about everyone" i told her that is a lie and to keep in mind that my saying something that has happened to me on one of my breaks is not gossip and ended the message with letting her know she was out of line and who did she think she was, she wrote back and said"Someone who is tired of you" , i sent one last message asking her to stop with her threats and to please stop texting me.

I then reported this incident to the boss showed her the tests and the number they came from , and nothing was really don , i feel very vioolated and sad dont want to go to work because of this....is there something i can legally do, oh i did make a report with the police.

my harrassment problems have been going on since i was injured 2 years ago, and i cant take this any more what do i need to do

so I know this person and this person says he is shy and has an inability to form any close relationships what soever , recently I have discovered there have been some lies told and they were also confirmed by a third party, so I gently confronted about the lies, and this person wrote me back a very nasty response letting me know i was crazy for thinking the things i confronted on and said a lot of degrading things to me( i have proof and the lies were also confirmed with a third party). I know this this is manipulative behavior and that can be dangerous, however , now I wonder if this person is truly shy, or says that he is shy not getting close to people because he is a manipulator and doesn't want people to find him out , he keeps people at an arms length.

If any one has some insight that'd be great ,thank you.

how does a manipulator operate? Why when you confront a manipulator do they seem to twist around the confrontation and make you feel like you did something.

Should adoption be about a child needing a home or A couple needing a child to feel complete ?

Think about it , please no flippant answers this is really something to think about!

Now my question is not about the children who were adopted because they were abused (so please really think about your answers before flying off the handle with flippant answers) I am speaking of the young birthmoms who were made promises by the adopters about their child that was relinquished and then come time to fulfill the promises they say the promises weren't fulfilled because they want to PROTECT the child even though he's all grown and an adult, PROTECT from What?

Hi, I want to know if you know the truth , who the real blame needs to go to for adoptions damages. I can tell you not the adoptive parents not on birthmothers, but on the Adoption Industry, they are the liars they have known since the 40's the damage that can be caused by separating mother and child and also that a baby truly doesn't bond with the adoptive parent which in some cases in some situations that can turn into different forms of abuse later in life, the baby will usually attach though . I feel sorry for everyone in the Triad, people need to stick together and call this Industry out, Yes Money is the root of all evils, Adoption industry is a multi- billion dollar Business , if they told the truth to the adoptive mother and birthmothers they wouldn't make that money now would they? Now in the case of orphans and children in the foster care system that may never return to their families, I believe they are truly the ones in need of adoption.

I would like to know your knowledge and opinions about The good ole Adoption Industry (not)

I have been in reunion with my son since April. He is so guarded and unable to form any close relationship, he doesn't even have a close friend, he alienates himself. Are these sings of abuse of some sort ?

His a-parents also lied to me through out the years telling me he was picking out the photos i was receiving and that they were carrying on their promise to me , letting him know of my undying love for him and anticipating the day we would be reunited. His a-parents told him nothing he knew nothing of me and didn't even know i was getting pictures, they were lying and trying to prevent reunion, and now they are holding the other 5 they adopted over his head saying its not fair to them.

I would some of your thoughts out there is this abuse or what?

I read the book The Primal Wound and found it to be very truthful

especially knowing that my son had a very good life and there is no other explanation for a lot of his behaviors which are pretty much described in the book i mean it fits him to a T , how ever i believe he is a naysayer he told me he doesn't feel abandoned. Are these naysayers in denial or what?

was this book helpful

were you able to utilize the suggestions in the book

how did thing turn out for some of you after reading and utilizing

I havent bought the book yet and I am a n-mom in reunion since April 2008 afraid its going to end as the communication on my sons end has been dwindling in to almost none at all.

Reunited N-mom confused (question for adoptees or N-moms please ,parents welcome too ?

my son says he wants the connection and wants to be more than a guest and he reassured myself and the family that he definitely wants all of this .

However he never takes or makes any initiatives (phone calls emails etc.)

which leaves this N parent to think is he trying to say something?

He is also very much a loner and feels he doesn't fit in anywhere and he just wants to belong ( he shared that with me)

He is a very intelligent young man

he is only 20 will be 21 soon.

He has problems bonding with people (also shared that with me)

Could this behavior( being withdrawn ,passive and unable to relate) be due to his being separated from me after birth and growing up adopted or having an overprotective a-mom and having a sheltered life

( I was coerced , i was 15 when he was born)

I very much wanted my baby

what are some symptoms of kidney dysfunction

would some incontinence be a sign

also not being able to stop the urine flow

every time I cough of something a little urine always flows