Melissa

I am separated from my husband. We have been separated since January. We are starting divorce papers, but due to the complexity of trying to finish the divorce while he is deployed, we are waiting until he gets back to finish paperwork.

I found a guy that I really like. He asked me on a date, but I turned him down saying I would love to go on a date with him, but I feel that maybe I should be further into the divorce before I date him. He was fine with waiting until after the divorce, but of course we will both want to date eachother.

Would it be wrong to date him? I talked to my soon to be ex husband about this issue and he said go ahead and date, but he is incredibly manipulative and hard to read.

I have a 2011 SAT book and I am taking the SATs May 2013. Will the information be similiar or the same from year to year?

I am "married" (only by paperwork) to a military "man." I've grown to heavily dislike them. He is controlling, selfish, treats me like a child, abusive physically and emotionally, egotistical, and thinks that he is the most attractive man alive due to him being in the Air Force.

Is this typical of military men? I support the military, but each of the men as individuals, I can't help but think they are all the same.

Seeing as the divorce rate for military is so high, I am inclined to believe every military husband is like this.

Your opinions?

I grew up with parents with money, but family life was abusive and lacked any sort of love. Now that I have moved out to be with my husband, I have neither love nor money.

I can't stand people. I can't stand talking to them. I can't stand looking at them. I can't stand listening to them.

My husband has been more than degrading and I've slowly shut myself out to people. I don't really tell anyone anything about me. I don't even talk to my parents much anymore. Also, they are 2500 miles away.

I don't believe in love. My marriage will likely end in divorce and I intend to never date again even though I'm society's idea of attractive.

Is something wrong with me? I have no desire to talk or open up because every attempt I have made has been a mistake.

Do I hate mankind?

My birthday is in 4 days. I'm dreading it. Growing up, my parents used "taking away my birthday" as a way to punish me for little things I did throughout the year. i never had a party, cake, presents, etc. Last year I got married. My husband didn't even get me a card for my birthday right after we got married. All he did was mumble "happy birthday."

I don't care about the gifts. I either want to forget my birthday and have a normal day or be somewhat happy on my birthday. I take the day off of work on my birthday not to do anything fun, but so I can lay in bed and cry all day.

It feels stupid to think I'm so miserable on this particular day. I should be past the childhood birthday punishment thing, but it brings back pain each year. My husband says he isn't planning on getting me a card this year either and it feels like an excuse for him to be able to forget without me knowing.

Do I celebrate? Do I have a right to be miserable on my birthday? Does anyone else feel this way?

My birthday is in 4 days. I'm dreading it. Growing up, my parents used "taking away my birthday" as a way to punish me for little things I did throughout the year. i never had a party, cake, presents, etc. Last year I got married. My husband didn't even get me a card for my birthday right after we got married. All he did was mumble "happy birthday."

I don't care about the gifts. I either want to forget my birthday and have a normal day or be somewhat happy on my birthday. I take the day off of work on my birthday not to do anything fun, but so I can lay in bed and cry all day.

It feels stupid to think I'm so miserable on this particular day. I should be past the childhood birthday punishment thing, but it brings back pain each year. My husband says he isn't planning on getting me a card this year either and it feels like an excuse for him to be able to forget without me knowing.

Do I celebrate? Do I have a right to be miserable on my birthday? Does anyone else feel this way?

I was gone on work leave. My husband put some meat in the trash and let it sit for a week (YUCK!!!) Well I came home today and he noticed he threw a fork away on accident, and dug it out of the trash and put it in the dishwasher. Are the dishes safe? Are there heat resistant germs that could survive through the dishwasher?

I had to take a drug test for work today. I am being prescribed tramadol. I have a GREAT job. Can't lose it especially in this economy! I told the boss that I am on tramadol and she said it will show up, but I can get a doctor's waiver (that's if they let me know I'm positive and let me explain and don't just fire me for a positive test).

Should I be worried? I am very worried!!! What would it show up as? Opiate?

He works 7 am to 4:30 pm. I work 4 pm to 11pm. I have tried to get my manager to switch my schedules (he easily can but doesn't want to) but I am stuck with nights. I'm starting to hate my job because of this. We are having marriage problems, and I feel like we can't work anything out when we only see eachother on weekends for only a few hours (I still work weekends).

Advice? Do you think this is hurting our marriage or letting my husband have some alone time? Do I need a new job?

He says he is about to leave me. I have nowhere to go, and nobody seems to care. Luckily, I have a car, so even though I will be homeless, I will have a car to stay in. It is over 100 degrees here so I'm not sure it's healthy to stay in a car. I have my health insurance through him so I won't have it anymore. I have one medication I need or I will die over the course of a few months.

I've had an abusive childhood that led to self esteem issues. I gained a lot of weight due to a medical condition, and eventually lost it, but I still feel like I look how I used to (before marriage). My husband says I am ugly on the inside and "average" on the outside. This leads me to feel even more ugly. He has called me fat even though I weigh well within my normal BMI weight. Also, he went on vacation and did not invite me. He has been ignoring my calls and texts for weeks (even important ones). I don't know how to react to him when he gets home tomorrow. Should I be angry? Or not care?

His mom says I push him away with complaining and being depressed, but I don't know how to change it. He says I push him away too. I cry and he gets angry so I try to hold it in. He says he no longer cares about me, but asks what's wrong when he gets annoyed so I say "nothing." I think the complaining is what pushes him away? Or the self esteem issues?

Him mom laughs about me being homeless after the divorce because my family is well educated and has very good jobs, but my parents won't take me in because they said I chose to move out when I got married so I shouldn't go back to their house. I have a strong dislike for his family because they think everything is my fault and I should just be left.

How do I change myself to save the marriage (if possible)? I was going to go to a counselor, but I won't have the insurance after we are divorced.

He is currently on vacation. He refused to let me go even though I could have gotten the time off. Our lease is up right when he gets back and he says I am not moving into the new apartment with him, that he's putting me on the streets. He calls me, then hangs up at random times. When I call him, he will not answer. He red buttons all of my calls. He tells me he is divorcing me, then he says he won't divorce me if I "change." He wants me to obey every thing he says.

He recently opened a new bank account without telling me and put his paychecks into his new account. I had no idea, and our bills started going unpaid bcause they were automatic in our old account. I was recieving notices in the mail when I found out what he did with the accounts. He just laughed about it. He says I am responsible for 100% of the bills now even though he makes the majority of the money. I don't have access to his new account.

What do I do? He treats me SO BAD. I don't think I can deal with it anymore. I feel myself falling out of love with him because of how he treats me (he says he hates me and never loved me).

I want to try. I want this marriage to work. I feel like it's impossible because he isn't going to try and it takes two.

Opinions? Is what he did with the bank situation uncalled for or am I stupid for being mad? Would you let someone treat you lke this?

He gets home in a week and a half from a vacation he refused to let me go on. Well, he was ignoring my calls and texted me saying I would be getting papers when I get home. Then, tonight, he shut my phone off. He is stationed here so I am over 2000 miles from family and can't contact anyone, including my husband and family. Is he actually giving me papers? He's been HORRIBLY emotionally abusive throughout our only year long marriage, but I love him. I don't want him to leave. I know that sounds stupid.

Can I save this marriage? Should I save it? Do you actually think I'm getting papers or is he just saying it?

He is on vacation for several weeks. He refused to let me go. Anyways, I have something very time sensitive to talk to him about and have been calling, but he keeps red buttoning my calls. I needed him to talk to me two days ago, but obviously he didn't. I texted him about it, but he ignores my texts too. I am stuck. I can't do anything to improve my situation. I need an answer too, but he just keeps ending calls before he answers. He is with his mother who is also currently ignoring me. I have no idea why or what I did to her.

It's been four long days of being ignored. What do I do? Stop trying? This is important though.

He left three days ago. They are going by VERY SLOW.

Anyways, he is military so we both are away from family. We are also from different states that aren't close to each other. I planned a vacation to see my family, asked him to go, and he refused saying that my state is "dumb, hick, cold, stupid" etc. (I'm from Montana). He's never even been to Montana. My parents ended up begging him to come, but he ended up not going. This was a week long vacation.

When I bought my tickets, my husband's mother got mad and bought tickets for him to see his family in California without telling me. I found out right before he left for vacation. My vacation was a month ago. He told me that his mother made his vacation three weeks long because they wanted his vacation to be longer and they were trying to "out-do" me.

He said he would call when he arrived in California and once a day. He was supposed to land at 2pm and I never got a call. Finally at 6pm, I called him not knowing where he was or what happened and he yelled at me for calling and hung up. It has been three days since he left, and I called him on night two, but he pushed the "End Call" button before answering so I called again 30 minutes later...he pushed "End Call" before answering again.

Nobody even asked me if I wanted to go. I easily could have gotten the time off of work. He knows this. Instead, I am by myself for three weeks and miserable. I asked him why he never asked me if I wanted to go and he said he didn't want me there. Everyone was begging for him to go on the Montana vacation with me. Also, I am offended not because his vacation was longer, but because they tried to "out-do" me. Why couldn't they let me enjoy my vacation without being upset that I went?

My husband is planning on getting drunk with a bunch of women multiple times, and getting tattooed while on vacation. It will be his first tattoo and he knows that I think the particular design is ugly. He is also celebrating his birthday (not his 21st but he is over 21) while gone. He gets home right before our first anniversary, even though his mother tried to get him to stay in California during our anniversary. Also, he has a lot more leave left, but is not taking our anniversary off from work. Why can he take three weeks off for his family, but he can't take one day off for his wife and our FIRST anniversary?

Am I wrong for being offended? What would you do? Should I bother calling him or wait until he feels like calling me? He already said he doesn't want me calling on his birthday so I won't.

I know it is real. I got it today from an actual Coach store. It is a small black shiny wristlet with the silver coach emblem at top. Carriage is perfect. The box arond coach done in silver is slightly smeared. It isn't a super big deal, but I don't want people thinking I carry a fake. I honestly buy Coach rarely as a special treat to myself and I want it to look real because I buy real.

What to do about emblem? This was the only one in the store. Will people think it's fake? It's only a tiny bit noticable.

I can't take it. It's breaking me down. I am 5ft 2in and 135. I might be slightly chubby, but I am critical of myself and even I don't think I'm fat. There is this girl that my husband likes. He deleted me on Facebook and is talking to her. There is an entire conversation on her wall on how chubby I am and how she had a baby a year ago so she's laughing at my weight.

I want to lose a lot of weight, like be down to 110 just to spite him. I lose 10 lbs a week easily quite often with dieting an exercise due to a medical condition where I very easily gain and lose. Should I? What should I do? I tried to get a counseling appointment, but they are booked until September. I am a military spouse so this is the only place for counseling I think I can go where they pay. I don't feel like paying for counseling.

I ordered panties from TARGET. TARGET!!! Everyone wears them so whatever.

There is an alert with my shipping information (it was online) saying an adult signature is required for package pick up. Yes, I am an adult so this isn't a problem, but why in the world would they require an "adult signature?" Are panties really THAT inappropriate?

My dog ate her poop. Ugh the stupid dumb idiot dog. Anyways, in 12 hours, we are flying on a plane. She gets horribly sick. Will she be puking poop tomorrow or will it be out of her system?

I can barely type this. I leave to work in 2 hrs. I work til 11pm (4 to 11). I live a block from my work, but I have to cross a major city street that takes timing and concentration to get to work.

I will be in trouble if I call in because I need a doctors note. I am not sick. Just horribly tired. Also, I can't drive to the doctor to get the note.

Do I walk? Or drive? Walking at 11 is risky too. They both are. What should I do?

My husband got back from Physical Training (it's part of his job) and obviously needed to take a shower before going to work. He went to turn the faucet on and...a tiny stream not nearly big enough to take a shower in came out. He had to change and leave without a shower. My dog needs water in her water bowl. Our city has been having water boil alerts so I had to spend 15 minutes filling a small pot with water so I could bring it to a rolling boil, to let it cool, etc. It really slowed the process down having to wait forever to fill the pan up.

There is no pressure anywhere. All showers, sinks, etc have no water. What can I do? This was very sudden. Last night we had water. Now there is none.