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my ex has been struggling with bipolar for a year now,im hoping the end of mania ill enable me to get him on the meds he needs.I have noticed signs he has come out of it,when the mania started he told me he didnt love me anymore and i moved out distraught as we used to love eachother so much.Just lately he said to me hes sorry he cant be the person i want him to be and that he cares about me and loves our daughter to bits and that i might not believe it but he hasnt been with anyone since me.Im not sure what to make of that,please no negative comments,its hard loving someone who suffers with this illness and i wondered what he meant by that?If he doesnt love me which i still dont believe even now then why would he tell me he still hasnt been with anyone since me?

i believe my ex has bipolar or something,been told by his family theres was something wrong when we met.He sends us round in circles last 3 years saying im not enough or i dont love you or he hates me for a while,then i give up and start moving on and back he comes.We have an 8 month old daughter and this time i accepted this wasnt what i wanted when he said again he didnt love me and i started getting on and not seeing him.Well he seemed so certain this time it was over,then this week its changed.Is this normal?Hes started messaging me every day,our baby is 8 months old,what could happen in 24 hours!He will say something like hey how are you two today,up to anything this evening?and then i say nothing at all just indoors how about you?He tells me what hes up to and then i told him i took her out and he says did she enjoy it?so i say well dont know i think so but she cant tell me!so he says well i didnt think she was that advanced,thats a fair way who took you down there?so i tell him and then he says thought you would be at work on your mums day off?im not sure what to think but i keep trying to move on but i feel a bit crazy,he told me to accept were over and leave him alone....seems a bit suspect here!the other night after sending him a pic of her sleeping he started talking about how i used to keep him awake snoring at night!I have tried to implement no contact and i dont want to have to because i love him but thought i was being mature.Even letting him take our daughter from my mum instead of me,but then he asks my mum if im back from work yet and where i am?anyone understand whats going on?

Don't try to be the one person who will stay just to say they never left me

trying to figure out what it means?

just split with my bf and he has put on facebook that hes a walking disaster,what does he mean?

My ex and i have a daughter together and we have been trying to make things work for a while now but its just impossible.He is unmedicated and what he is going through is confusing the hell out of me,wish i could do something.

He used to be able to feel emotion and we always loved eachother it was just hard to see during the mania and mild depression he experienced.Since last year and early this year when he experienced the mania he has become like a different person,he wont go to the doctors and says hes fine but i can see different.At first he was tired or run down as he put it,he had headaches and became less active than before,he was unaffectionate and withdrawn,he can still laugh but his life is much slower now and all the passion seems to have gone.

We discussed our relationship and i am devastated,one minute he loves me and the next he doesnt.He said to me that he doesnt know if he loves me or not but if he doesnt know then he cant do!He says he enjoys spending time with me and that he cares about me but he cant feel love anymore and that somethings changed.He said before he felt numb and hes not sure what he loves in his life anymore,the only thing he knows is he loves our daughter.He has ended our relationship and although he keeps saying he doesnt know even now he says because i have pushed him for an answer and he cant give me one we are over.I think maybe he was trying to ride out the storm but this depression has been going on since may and i am so tired,i feel so unloved and alone and i miss my .

I think hes depressed but please help me understand and give me some insight,i dont know if to be angry or to support him,to stay or to walk away!I love him alot and it hurts that he says he has lost his love for me but for some reason i dont believe that,i thought maybe it was the bipolar,he has always come back before.When will this episode end and will his feelings come back?

i ask if he loves me and he says he enjoys spending time with me and that he cares about me and would care if i wasnt in his life but when i asked if he loves me and where we are going he said hes not sure,he knows he cares about me but hes not sure about anything in his life,all he knows is that he loves our daughter.He says he cant tell me if he doesnt know anything anymore.He seems to have had depression long term and i have been told he has bipolar but wont get officially diagnosed by his mum.I also expected this.He seems to just be existing atm and nothing in his life is going anywhere.I love him and i told him tonight for the first time in over 3 years that i am respecting myself and backing off,i have ALWAYS been there and picked him up and i feel taken for granted and i think ive made myself so available that maybe he thinks il be there forever!Is it possible when mental health isnt sound not to know anything?He says the only thing he knows he loves in his life is our daughter,i think that goes without saying as you always love your children!I dont get it,i asked for some clarity and got no anwers,he says we might lways be lie this he just doesnt know.How can he not know!Hes the only one that can and if he doesnt im very vulnerable to getting hurt!

me ex is acting strange,he says he doesnt want to be with me and we have a daughter together,im not sure what to do i love him alot.I know his modds change and it makes hings hard,He says he cant commit but keeps making excuses to see me with our daughter for example,we went to the park for the day last week and this week he picked her up and said why dont you come with us and he tucked her in after and then offered to make bottles!This week he invited me to go to a concert with him and i he invited me and our duaghter over for the afternoon yesterday we did sleep together.We are going to a show an hour away with our daughter sunday and he dropped in that sunday or bank holdidaymonday we can do a roast.I dont get it,he says he cant commit and wants to be friends then sleeps with me.Also he rang me up drunk last week telling me how horny he was and i went mad,he spent the whole day apologising and told me that its hard because our relationship was horrible and crappy sometimes but he misses our sex life and the good time and also that he took for granted that i was there no matter what and noone ever has been,he said he didnt realise what he had.He says he doesnt want to sleep with anyone else and that was why he phoned like an idiot.He says that he doesnt want anyone else and that he wouldnt be phoning me otherwise,that all he does when he goes out is think about me,he tells me its more than sex and knows we shouldnt do it but its hard.Ordinarily i would say he just wanted sex but hes asking me to do things with him regularly and not just with sex involved.When i asked him why he wants to go out with me an our daughter he said he thought it would be nice.Its hard to relax because i enjoy our days out but im in limbo trying to figure out what he wants from things.He tells me he doesnt want to know if i date anyone else because it would hurt too much and at the same time wont have our daughter while on dates because he says hes not my babysitter,although he says its over.He says i make him feel vulnerable and because im the only one who can hurt him that he cant get close but he does love me.I know his mums suspected he was bipolar but always refuses to get help,i know he should,all i would like to know is what is going on.He saw me last nite and told me he had a really nice day,and i didnt bring up anything that would lead to rows,then he said maybe i can pick up the mice for the snake from yours tomorrow.He knows he wont get sex so not sure why hes so eager to get them and also i have asked for my stuff 3 times and still havent got it even when im the and cancollect it!!!

he is a very sensitive guy and weve had terrible problems,hes very afraid of commitment and love,when he starts off he throws himself into it but as things become pressured he becomes self destructive.Since weve had our baby its been awful,he keeps leaving and coming back.He told me last night that i make him feel vulnerable and im the only one in the world who can hurt him and that it makes him feel miserable.He says he does love me but although i say i wont hurt him he doesnt believe it!He has now ended our relationship officially but gets very upset if he thinks im seeing anyone and becomes paranoid.He even said to me that he wont look after our daughter if im on a date because 'hes not my babysitter'. He has said he feels smothered and trapped when hes with me and that he cant give me what i want which is a committed relationship.After 3 years and a little girl together im am so confused.When i pull back and try and distance myself he gets angry,maybe someone else can understand it better.Sunday we went to the park and he had asked if he could see me,so we took our daughter out.When i asked what it was about that night on the phone he said 'i thought it would be nice for the 3 of us to do something together' i was confused so i said but it upsets me because you dont want to be with me and he replied 'i dont want to hurt you,in future we wont do it then' all i can say is wtf!I got the impression he wanted to be around me and when i brought it up he pushed me away.Now hes saying its over and we should act like it and he wont talk to me or anything.I spoke to him this morning after he said we should act like were over now and he told me to give our daughter a kiss for him,but shes only 6 months old she doesnt have a clue!and when i pulled away,i told him he could do it when he saw her he said will do.He told me to have a good day!yeah okay,im having a great one!Anyone got any ideas,hes always returned after a time and i know he is a bit eccentric but not sure how to make this better before its too late

My ex is displaying some alarming behaviour,he says he doesnt want to be with me because i make him feel things and he doesnt like.He says he loves me but were better off seperate because it makes him feel miserable.I do think he has a problem with paranoia and jealousy right now.He says he feels vulnerable and that altho i say i wont hurt him he doesnt trust me.Hes unmedicated bipolar and i already know but he refuses all help.We have a 6 month old daughter together.

I had a night out friday and he turned up in the same place,he sas he wasnt jealous but he saw me talking to new people and thought i was flirting with them,i really wasnt it was my friends new bf!He told me to stay away from him and when i got home i got a message saying enjoy whoever it is you take home to **** now please leave me alone.He has already said he still ahs feelings for me but im confused.I didnt hear from him for 2 days and then on sunday he text me saying can i see you.We took our daughter to the park and spent the afternoon together.When i asked what was happening he said he just thought it would be nice to go out the 3 of us and that hes sorry if it has upset me and he wont do it again.I was really upset,we argued and he said i dont want you because you act like this!But i feel played with!I told him i was going to start seeing other people and can he take our daughter one evening because i am going to move on and he had been asking to have her anyway.He said 'I AM NOT YOUR BABYSITTER!' and i know that relevant but i cant put my finger onit,he said he wont look after aimee when i have dates,so i said ill get my mum to help me then and he got the hump and said you can do it on the weekend,ill take her all weekend,he knows i wont do that,i work saturdays and i see my friends on night a week and he never wanted her all weekend in the past.He hung up on me after i said that.I think hes jealous but why,he said he cant give me what i want but then trys to play happy families for the afternoon,i love him so much and i dont want to bring our daughter up seperate but i dont understand,if i think hes seeing someone else he goes out of his way to make sure i know he isnt.

my on and off again bf has stunned me by telling me what is wrong finally,he says he cant be with me because he loves me.I didnt understand at first but he explained,he said he cant handle it in his head because although i say i wont hurt him he doesnt believe it,he says im the only person in the world who can hurt him and i make him feel vulnerable.He has shut off from me and say he knows he loves me but he feels like he cant open up and hes tried to make it work but for whatever reason it just doesnt and that i make him feel things noone else can and that noone can make him react like i can,for this reason he says its over for good.Im confused and i know he is bipolar but i never knew i would be punished for making him feel vulnerable,everyone feels vulnerable when they love someone.What is going on?i know he says he feels run down and just wants to be on his own but im trying to understand this so i dont feel so confused and hurt!

i know the basic signs but hes emotionally numb,turned into a lone wolf and says he feels vulnerable around me and doesnt believe i wont hurt him and says hes suffocated and miserable with me!He keeps having constant headaches and he isnt eating properly,every couple of weeks he doesnt turn into work and has already been warned.He decides to randomly go and get drunk and then lie in bed all day.He says now he doesnt see a future for us and a few weeks ago he told me he didnt know what hed do without me and we went to the doctors together and helped him.Now he says he cant give me what i want and thats it and we both need to except its over and he just being pragmatic!I dont know whats going on because when i followed through and distanced myself he has started writing is this it on his fb status and i wonder what the hell is going on!He blames the way hes feeling on me,now im confused!Please someone explain whats going on,he told me he loved me and ive been through this alot over the last 3 years but normally its down to mania and no i dont know if he means it and to let go or to tell him i am here regardless and ris being a door mat,he asked me to come over at the weekend and we spent alot of time together and now hes saying it was a mistake and to face up to it that its over.

i had a fight with my boyfriend and he broke up with me,he put that up on his status and i wondered what it could mean?Hes bipolar and going through a depressive episode,he told me he just wants to be on his own and he didnt see a future for us,i have told him since i dont want to see him for a while because he hurt me and i feel used.I dont really know what to do anymore,dont know if t will pass or if he even loves me anymore,hes so closed off and im so upset,i cant get close to him anymore to help and he just eeps saying hes just a bit run down :O(

my partner is in the manic phase of bipolar and i noticed a change in his speech,i read up on clang associations and he has started coming out with things like 'hey my pedigree chum' and stuff like that,is that a sign of the psychosis during mania?

my partner spent a few months manic but i blieve now he is in a depressive swing,we split up due to his inability to accept treatment.At first he was irritable and snappy,he was so negative!when i talked to him he told me he doesnt do small talk!He told me he had become emotionally numb and couldnt be affectionate anymore,also he was always tired and he was down about the debts he left when manic that he is now sorting out.Then he told me he had run out of energy and didnt want to try with us anymore,he told me i put it all in his head and theres nothing wrong with him.Hes started his usual beer and sugar/carb cravings today and really doesnt make much sense at all.He isolate himself and is specially finding me a threat.

We spent a lovely night monday together after he told me that he didnt want to be with me the week before,it was the happiest id been in months.I tried asking him to come to the cinema this weekend an i was told he doesnt like the movie but he will watch our daughter for me if i want an i can go!when i told him i was hoping to do something together he said quite honestly i feel completely vulnerable with you,you have and can hurt me more than anyone else and i hate feeling like that

things are really messy right now and i dont want to confuse things further...

see how things are on sunday and if we both feel like doing something we can,but im not going to start making plans and stuff.

he said he wants space as well.

Was wondering if i should watch for anything else and also how serious his depression is if i am right and he is indeed depressed!I want to be ready to help if he needs me and alos to understand his illness.i have been told not to take what he says to heart as he doesnt mean it,can anyone relate?We are at the point now where i cant live with him and i love him so much.

my boyfriend is depressed,paranoid,distant but lately ive noticed other things.Hes constantly picking at me,i bought underwear the other day and he just grunted,its still in the bag after two weeks.He has a go at me at things,like if were on the phone and i cant tell hes finished talking and i start talking,he gets in a strop and tells me im rude,but were not face to face and i cant tell hes finished!i end up crying because hes not nice at all to me and he was never this bad,everything he says is negative and dramatic and its usually me who gets the brunt of it!i told him i try to show i care and send him messages saying goodnight and stuff and he said funnily enough he isnt thinking about me all the time...but i never said that!I told him i bought the underwear because i thought we were a couple and couples do that to make the effort but i feel like im just being used for sex!so he told me to 'take it back then'...i feel so upset as hes so self absorbed and he even tells me that theres nothing wrong and im the one making him depressed and that he hasnt got bipolar and i just put it in his head!does anyone understand whats going on?

i know what controversial is but i have never heard someone say THEY are controversial.He is bipolar and in the swing of an episode but i really would like to know what he means!

please only answer if you have alot of experience,i would really like to know what is happenening with my boyfriend.He was manic in october and since then he became depressed,he left me when he was manic for a girl on the internet and in that time i had a baby.He came back and told me he loves me and it was infatuation with that girl and he wanted to try again.The last two months i feel so lonely,hes paranoid and goes through my phone and his sex drive has diminished,hes not affectionate or loving although he says he loves me.He gets annoyed when i keep asking why and says he doesnt trust me and its all he can give right now.He told me he was depressed before and i have noticed he is alot more mellow but it isnt good mellow.When hes manic at the beginning everythings really nice but it gets out of control and now i dont know what this is really wether its his normal mood or hes depressed as we used to love eachother depsite everything,

all i can describe it as is hes there in person but not in mind,he still cuddles me sometimes but theres no feeling anymore and he needs so much time apart,we see eachother 3 times a week and its not enough with our little daughter.Its like its effort to be in the same room as me and he cant tell me what the matter is

my bf is being asessed for bipolar and we have a daughter together,we split for several months while i was pregnant as he had gone off the rails.He met a girl on the net and after 3 weeks it was love and he was moving in with her....this ended after 3 months and he moved his stuff back in with no explanation of why they split other than that it was mutual and she was now seeing someone else.He has agreed to get help and we are trying to reapir our damaged relationship.His mood swings are still happening and anyone who is aware of how an unmediacted person with bipolar can behave can understand why i am aprehensive at best.He went away to a rocl festival this weekend,he failed to mention that she had tickets and that she was going til i found out and he was there.He told me,we are friends and on speaking terms and we may meet for a drink and a chat over the weekend,i was very upset and he told me i was overreacting.This is a very recent ex like two months ago! When i confronted him he became really nasty and then started bringing up all my flaws and past exs and i would NEVER meet with them whilst in a relationship with him.He told me not to call him and he will speak to me when he gets back,we have since sorted it but he is still withdrawing affection,no kisses on messages,not a single phonecall and he seems to be agressive over the slightest thing and is writing on facebook how awesome he is!

i have trouble seperating the bipolar,is he cheating on me at the festival or is he manic?i thought the excitement of the festival could have sent him hypomanic but im unsure,should i be worrying...i dont know!

i have suspected bipolar for a while and his mum has since he was a teenager.I am having trouble with his behaviour,he was very on and off in the relationship and his emotions were like a rollercoaster.He split with me and i was 4 months pregnant,went drinking,hypersexual and abusive towards me, didnt buy anything for our baby but said he wanted to be involved.I was confused!a couple of times he became depressed in the last 8 months and has threatened suicide,but still he maintained he didnt want to get back together.He met someone on the net and said it was love at first sight but that ended very quickly.He missed the birth,was asleep in bed when i asked him to register her with me and i had to rebook and it took 6 weeks to get child support from him.it feels like he has control issues as he did show behaviour of an abuser in the relationship and i was cut off from friends and family.Everything i ask him to do regarding our daughter he challenges,if i offer him more access and he thinks its benefiting me ie i am going out then he will cause a problem,but then harasses me for more access when i begin retracting from him to get some peace.Then my boyfriend came on the scene and he has been terrible,saying he wanted to be a family one day in the beginnning and that he needs time and then becoming abusive,calling me fat and threatening blackmail,saying im stalking him!!!!So i cut him off and then i get messages saying i know you havent blocked your phone!He had once a week overnight access to our daughter and i tried a mediator but he would get to me through her as well.In the end i was forced to tell him he was having supervised access as he was unstable and to get a solicitor if he wants more as he is unstable.He threatened and blackmailed and refused to accept i was making this decision based on his behaviour,so i told him im no longer talking to him and he can get a solicitor for any kind of access although i will adhere to the rules of PR by letting him know how she is.But the strange thing is after that row today he has text my mum asking how aimee is and pretending nothing has happened!!!He seems to be living in his own reality!i can get him assessed but it wont show up as it didnt before,he is a good liar.what is wrong?

my ex dumped me when i was pregnant 8 months ago and since then he has been a nightmare.At first i loved him and waited,helped him when he felt suicidal and was taken advantage of time and again.he said finally he didnt love me and went with someone else,getting heavy with them very quickly,it ended as quickly as it had begun.I had my baby in february,he missed the birth,overslept on the registration and it took me 7 weeks into her life to get any money for her from him,that include money for clothes and cot,pram etc.I did that myself.He too her one night a week and since he has been verbally abusive,saying how i cnt get over him!!!!i finally met a really night guy after 8 months and started to try to move on,he wouldnt let me.He verbally insults me and degrades me,tells me im stalking him and makes me feel sad.He even pretended he liked being a family at one point,put on a show that he had changed,i believed him and spent time with him and my daughter,we slept together and he kept asking me to stay with our daughter.Two weeks after it was him saying,i dont love you,leave me alone and i dont want to be a family and its your fault because i dont have the feeling there,im sorry!I had passed up a great opportunity to be with a guy who absolutely thinks im great,treats me with respect and looked after me,he sucked me in and its wierd how he does it.

I realised what a mistake i had made and from then on went through my mum for access to his daughter,i started cutting him from my life.That when it started!I sorted it with my boyfriend who is fantastic and i started to realise i didnt love this nasty person i had been with 2 years.I deleted him from facebook and told him i was blocking his number.So he told me i was unstable and went round telling everyone i love him and i just cant get over it and that this guy is someone im fooling myself with because i want him.I was confused by the feelings and the abuse isnt love,its toxic!!!He blocked me after i removed him as a friend and cut him off,told everyone i was stalking him!Then suddenly after i was tagged in some pictures i had a comment from him,a glitch in fb enables you to comment on photos even when blocked.He started writing how fat i was in the pics and that i got dressed in the dark....hes 29 years old ffs!I just had a baby and had an eating disorder for a while,i am a size 12 and it was a bad photo!!!who looks stunning 3 months after a baby anyway.So people defended me and then i lost it,i told him to leave me alone on the comments,he said im stalking him and to get over it!OMG!i told him the threats and abuse were too much and i would see him in court for access to his daughter,he started texting mesaying he knows i havent blocked his number and tht i need to give him what he was asking for and then it would all stop and that im letting it get out of hand.So i have cut him off completely til i get legal advise now and i dont feel safe,he was suicidal again 3 weeks ago and i dont think my daughter is safe.

PLEASE HELP!WHAT IS GOING ON HERE?I AM GOING TO GET AWAY NO MATTER WHAT BUT WHY IS HE GETTING WORSE AND WORSE,I FEEL SO TRAPPED,HE THINKS HE OWNS ME COZ I HAD HIS BABY!WHY IS HE TELLING EVERYONE IM NOT WANTED AND THAT I CANT GET OVER HIM WHEN I HAVE WALKED AWAY?IM NOT STALKING HIM AT ALL!!