why is he trying to ruin my life!?

get diary and write down everything that goes on between both u and each message that sent and call u get, from date and time to what said.

also dont take him to court let him take u to court, at moment he has no legal rights to ur daughter as ye were never married, u are the sole and only gaurdian as i type, so tell him he unstable and not getting any more access but if he wants it he knows where the courts are to use them otherwise f*k off and get out of ur life.

he only doing this as cant handle u are moving on, he jealous that found somebody else - its case of i dont want u but nobody else will have u either - seen this too many times with people, they dont want b in relationship need break etc but when move on the chase u only to make u out to be the bad person to others when other way around.

if sick his abusive txts change all contact details, number and e-mail address, only give it to trusted family members and friends. each time he comments on ur pictures report for abuse and facebook will remove it or why not change ur facebook account all together, make it private including pictures. be selective and tell everybody not post pictures of u on there pages also.

to me sounds like type who dont give 2 sh*ts anyways and will end up not chasing u when somebody else comes along to take his fancy. so for moment ignore him and tell him to bring u to court and dont give him access esp if he got mental problems god knows what he will do to ur daughter in anger towards - too many cases of murdered kids by parents to get back at the other - dont let ur daughter be another murder victim by her sperm donor!

goodluck

I understand that you're upset, and you have a right to be, but please try to keep this in perspective. Your dad is not "trying to ruin your life." People do not have children just so they can "ruin someone's life." Also, I'm sure no matter where you move, you will be moving into a house. With running water, and soft beds, and food into the refrigerator. I'm sure that some of the kids going to sleep outside on the ground with empty stomachs would love to trade their lives for your "ruined" one. Is your father really moving your family because he's "bored?" This is the reason he actually gave when you asked? I suspect that there are other reasons, and they might be good ones. Give him a chance to explain. If he's really and truly moving your whole family just because he's "bored" then you need to point out that this decision affects the whole family, not just him. If you're about to be a junior in high school, you'll probably be off to college in 2 years. Point this out to him. Ask him if he would be willing to wait to move until after you have left home. If you really want to get deep, ask him what he thinks he'll find in AZ that he couldn't find in CA or CT. Sounds like moving in the middle of high school is a pretty upsetting idea for you. Think about your sisters - if you can convince your dad to wait, they'll have to go through it instead of you. Are you okay with that? If you do end up moving, try to keep in touch with your CT friends and also try to make some friends in AZ before the school year starts. Your new school might have a Facebook group you could join.

Hello there, Your question is one of the longest I have ever seen on Yahoo answers so that gives me an idea of the problem here.

The facts as I see them is you met a man and chose to have a baby with him so he is going to be part of your daughters life for the rest of her life and in a way part of your life too.

I think you need to go to a family court and get agreement for child support and visitation rights for your daughter's father.

It would be very foolish on your part to hinder your daughters father from seeing her unless you felt he is a danger to your daughter or yourself. If you bring your daughter up in an atmosphere of hate towards her father you will regret that when your daughter is older, she will hate you for that. Keep your dignity, accept the fact that both of you got together and made a baby.... you chose him!

In my opinion you sound a bit selfish and very immature, most of what you say is about your needs etc. Your primary concern now should be your daughter, so you need to think how you are going to support yourself and your daughter. The world has become a sad place if you are worried about what someone says on facebook. Close your facebook down and get real, its time to grow up and face your responsiblities.

Be very very careful of the men you invite into your daughters life .... this is not the time to shack up with another man who you hardly know. You need to build a life for you and your daughter ... thats the number one priority.. all this other emotional stuff is bullshit. I hope you are making sure you can't get pregnant again unless you chose to. That is the last thing you need right now.

Let things calm down for a while. Be aware that ex's who want sex sometimes promise the world to get it off you.... You and your daughter's father need to have a sensible talk about what you both want for your daughter? The best scenario is if you could reconcile and live happily ever after but at the very least it would be good for all concerned if you could have a respectful relationship for the good of your daughter. No more fighting & shouting.

Hope this advice helps. Just another word of advice, if you are typing this much stuff in yahoo & facebook you really have lost the plot, you need to look after your daughter and think about drivers licence education and a job if you haven't already got one...

Good luck to you all and stop the "drama queen" stuff its not very feminine and hardly a good example for your daughter!

Sorry if all this sounds a bit harsh but I felt you needed to hear it so you can move on to a better life with your daughter.

Save the texts and bring them to the cops, let them know he's harassing you and that he's suicidal so you're afraid he'll pull a murder-suicide.

File with family court to have him either sign away his parental rights (he will no longer have to pay you child support) or for his visitations to be supervised.

If your friends can't see how unstable he is and cut him out of their lives then you don't need them as friends. Sever all ties with this man. Yes your daughter still connects you but you can have a mediator deal with him. My parents had 3 kids including me, in 28 years they've never spoken for more then 15 minutes. My mom used us or her lawyer to communicate with him mostly.

Cover you a*s in paperwork. Record all the times he contacts YOU claiming you are stalking him. Record all the things he says, and who he says it to. Record all the efforts you have made to avoid him, while ensuring he can maintain contact with the child. Get the name of any witnesses to his behaviors. Show the courts, if it comes to that, just who the crazy one is.

He's playing mind games with you. He doesn't want you for himself, but he doesn't want you to be happy without him. Its all about control, not love. Its all about him, and nothing about you.

The only way to win is not to play.

It's not a nightmare. It's drama.

Your daughter doesn't have to bind you two together. She deserves way better. Any human being deserves better.

He's a sperm donor. Move on.

Why? Cos you're letting him.

HTFU and get on with raising your daughter. If he wants to kill himself, then let him, it's his choice, not yours.

stop being a doormat for a change.

just ditch him