nina never gets it

Every now and then a guy will hit on me and I'm not interested, but I don't know how to handle it.

Sometimes a guy will start talking to me and I suspect that it might be leading to him asking me out or something, but I don't want to jump to conclusions if we're not at a bar or a club or anything. Also I have guy friends, so I don't assume any guy I talk to is necessarily looking to date me.

Then he'll ask me if I want to go out sometime, and I usually say "no thanks, I'm pretty busy with college" or "I'm not really looking to date right now" because I'm pretty sure "I don't find you sexually attractive" is not an appropriate thing to say. Or is it, if I word it differently?

Occasionally I'll go out clubbing and that's a different kind of awkwardness, because I know that if I do dance with a guy or chat with one he'll probably make a move really fast so I just shut them down right away, which makes me feel like a *****. But if I'm polite they take it as playing hard to get or a "maybe". There's just no right way. Guys?

I was friends with this guy for about 7 months, we went to the same college but I transferred. He was very shy and I was socially awkward so we felt pretty similar.

He had some annoying habits, like the fact that he wanted to play ping pong every time we hung out, for hours, and he would badger me constantly about when we were going to see each other. Even when I gave in he would keep asking if we were meeting. It was bizarre.

He didn't seem to have any other friends, and I tried to help him study but he couldn't grasp the subject matter, especially in mathematics.

Eventually he started to get on my nerves, and at one point I just snapped and said I didn't want to hang out with him anymore. Perhaps I should have been more gradual about it, but I was too pissed off.

He sent me a barrage of email and texts, and initially I tried to gently explain that I couldn't handle his clinginess and strange behaviors anymore. After a month I blocked his email address from my inboxes and just ignored him.

Every couple of months I still get messages from him. It's been two and a half years. Lately I've gotten several, and it's creeping me out. Has he not made any other friends? Why would he even still want to be my friend after this, given that I must have seemed like a totally crazy ***** to him?

Basically, any advice would be good, because I've got a bad feeling.

I'm going over there soon and I'm nervous.

He had a throat infection for a week or two and stopped eating. She's had him since she was a kid and was extremely attached to him (she used to call him "little brother"). She also moved to a neighboring country to go to University this year and felt guilty for leaving him with her parents. I'm worried about what to say, she's probably beating herself up pretty badly over it and I may say something that sends her into an self-loathing rant about what a terrible dog owner she is, and telling her that she's wrong won't work.

I know ups and downs are normal, and that college can be stressful. There are times when I feel happy, occasionally even elated, just because it's a nice day, and when I watch funny stuff or read I laugh or am interested.

But social interactions are just so much to handle and at least once a day I am so close to suicide that it scares me. Any theories? Is there a version of depression like this?

I have a pretty limit general knowledge when it comes to music...

I need two kinds of songs:

Some for when you feel a bit angry and disillusioned, like you want to say "I'm done with everything".

Some that make you feel confident or pepped up, not too cheerful, just energetic.

Nothing sad, just not happy either. It can be from whenever, whatever genre, my sample space has been small so I welcome any attempt to broaden my horizons.

For instance, the songs I have for now are:

Angry:

Queen - Another one bites the dust, Under Pressue

Beck - Loser

Freestylers ft Pendulum - Painkiller

Pixies - Where is my Mind

Happy:

The Doors - Hello I love you

Amy Winehouse - Valerie

Jessie J - Price Tag

Thanks :)

I have to do a pretty comprehensive presentation about anorexia for health and fitness class, and I want to have some music in there about it. Please no sad whispery piano songs because I can find those easily, I want to make my presentation stand out from the usual sad music + photo montages they always have.

I have to do a pretty comprehensive presentation about anorexia for health and fitness class, and I want to have some music in there about it. Please no sad whispery piano songs because I can find those easily, I want to make my presentation stand out from the usual sad music + photo montages they always have.

Now that I'm 18, is my dad still allowed to hit me and beat me up or can I sue him/ have him arrested?

There are no anti-child smacking laws where I'm from (Croatia).

Like regular staples, but sharper so they work on clothes?

I definitely believe that evolution is the best explanation of how life has developed, but we were studying DNA in class recently and I thought, how does it happen that DNA is formed and is coded for specific amino acids, and the mRNA actually copies it, goes to the ribosomes and the tRNA copies the mRNA? It seems so hard to believe that this just occurred randomly and was the best system.

And eyes. How did eyes evolve? It goes unicellular organisms, multicellular, ect, at what point do gelatinous orbs that can translate light into an electric signal happen? And HOW? It just seems to complex to happen by accident. Is there some part I haven't learned yet? (bloody science teachers with their "simple explanations")

Do you have any explanations apart from creation-assisted evolution?

I haven't asked THAT many guys out, but when I do they look at me like I'm insane. I don't think I'm ugly or anything, I'm average I'd say. Where I'm from, girls don't really ask guys out, but I'm bad at flirting. And I don't like waiting for the guy to realize and make a move because I don't want to become friends by accident, like some guys do (that's a sad situation).

It seems like none of the guys I like like me back and only guys I don't like ask me out. But I don't get why I would be weird for asking a guy out.

1) An object is free-falling. In the last two seconds, it travels 80 meters. a=10m/s^2

What are its initial height, highest speed and how for long has it fallen?

2) A ball hangs from a 2m string. It is moved to a 15° angle from it's resting position and then released.

What speed will the ball have as it passes the resting position?

Since I was a kid I've always been at least a bit miserable, but I always figured it was my home life that was causing the stress and weight problems and the insomnia. My family's move across the world during high school was right before things got the worst: self-harm, bloody nightmares every night, some inappropriate alcohol abuse and two half-assed suicide attempts that I managed to conceal. (1- the pills weren't enough so I told my parents I was just ill and 2- it was winter so the long sleeves hid any signs).

I haven't done those things for a while now and don't plan to, that self-destructive phase is over.

Now I've started college and things are the closest to normal I've ever been, my dad has stopped hitting me and yelling at me, people seem to really like me at my college, and the work hasn't caught up to me or anything like that. I even have a boyfriend who is nice to me unlike the high school one.

Objectively things are better than they've ever been, but I still don't really feel any better. I "put on a happy face" every day, it's not that hard because I've been practicing all my life, but even though I do feel less sad I still think about killing myself. I even have an idea of the career and the scientific areas I like but I just don't feel deep down like living any of it. I just want to drop off the face of the earth.

My question is, if I can't be happy now can I ever be? Those of you who have been through this kind of thing, do you ever get past your childhood?

Every time I read or write a "help, my parents are abusive/ help, my parents are driving me nuts" question, there are always these people who say "oh, they're your parents, they love you. I'm sure that while you don't get their behavior, their motives are pure so do what they say". It makes me so angry.

As if it's genetically impossible for them not to love you.

Even when the parents are hurting their kids or controlling them to a ridiculous degree, you guys don't think they can possibly be in the wrong.

Maybe you guys are parents, and while I'm sure you'd like your kid to hear that if they ever asked, not every parent is sane or unselfish. There are plenty of terrible terrible parents out there and you KNOW that.

Why would anyone give that kind of advice when the situation is clearly serious?

I've noticed recently that nobody here ties their shoes normally anymore, they just tuck.

I got some Chuck Taylors yesterday and when my sister saw me wearing them she asked me what was with the silly bows. That's how you tie shoes as far as I know. She tucked the laces into the sides in some weird way, it didn't really feel right.

How do you secure your laces and shoes so that they aren't too loose, without tying them?

For the last few months I've been having trouble falling asleep, and when I do I have these insane dreams. Half of the time they're either so vague that I can't remember them or puzzling like dance-fighting past robots in a strange house to find paper clips so I can escape. The rest of the time they're really gruesome.

For example, last night I dreamed that I saw a baby fall out of a high story window, and I couldn't do anything and it splattered so sickeningly that I wanted to throw up.

Another dream was that I was riding a tram (I don't know where to) avoiding the gazes of some acquaintances who happened to be there, when I saw a little girl with a missing severed leg crying and bleeding and a woman calling an ambulance. Further on I saw that there was a market where a butcher had gone insane and was cutting of people's limbs, and his wife was co-operating for some reason and then the tram started to circle around the market.

It's really starting to trouble me. Are there any medical or psychological reasons I might be having these dreams?

(I can't ask a doctor or psychiatrist because I'm underage and my parents don't think it's serious)

I'm having trouble finding the kind of songs I like. I'm into Eminem (though not since the re-up), Scarface and I often like it with classical-ish music in the melody.

And I'd like something really rough and violent, or anything powerful (no "in the club" songs please).

I was baptized but my upbringing hasn't been at all religious, and I never really had a problem with that.

When I was ten I learned some things about Christianity that I liked. Then some really bad things happened to me for years that convinced me that no one is looking out for me, let alone some higher power who could actually help.

I don't really have faith in anything at all now, and occasionally I feel like I'm missing out on something. But I literally can't believe that the world is a good place or that there is a God.

At many points I would have done anything to be able to believe that life has a meaning or that someone cares what happens to me. What do you do when you can't really believe in anything?

I'm 17 and I have an ex-boyfriend in my class. We broke up about a year ago but despite the fact that he keeps screwing me over, we're on-and-off friends. We have quite the little history going since I was 14, most of it involves recurring scenes of him being an asshole to me, me hitting him in the shoulder, then laughter and/or play-fighting.

But now he's crossing the line and I can't seem to communicate that to him. See, I'm bisexual or bi-curious or whatever the hell you would call it and very insecure and unsure about it. I seriously regret telling him since whenever he gets the chance he laughs and makes a pointed comment at me, usually in front of people we both know. It's one of my buttons, every time he says something like that I just want to break his stupid face in and I can't snap because I'm on warning at school for a previous violent outburst. I've told him so many times that it bugs me but he just laughs, and when I tell him I want to hit him he eggs me on, he says "Go ahead, I'll get you right back. Just dare to hit me." and the tone isn't joking. I swear I almost think he wants me to hit him, but I know that's just the irrational part of me trying to justify a snap.

But then he acts completely normal after. Like it's no big deal. If I sulk and tell him to get f***ed he just tells me to cheer up and acts sweet. Damn him, I suspect I still like him deep down because I let him get away with this cr@p.

So what do you think his deal is? Should I avoid him altogether or is there a way I can get this sh** through his thick skull?