Alvie

My best friend since I was 16 (now 36), we've had our ups and downs, you would over a period like that. We've not seen each other so much at all in the last 4-5 years. I'm male, she's female

Without going into specific detail, we chatted in 2012 things were good with each other. In 2014 my father died suddenly and I wasn't one to share about it on facebook. I went to work as usual. I wasn't hiding, I just wasn't going to tell the world about it. Anyone who did talk to me, I was open and honest about my feelings. I was coping my way

My dilemma comes from this. My best friend knew something was wrong from the facebook clues, and messaged me. After an hours chat, she arranged to meet me the next day at 2000. Social media being what it is now, I messaged her at 1950 as a remindeder. I sent a text as well.

She'd 'seen' the message at 1955, but didn't show. I'd been stood up. With loss of a parent, I wasn't in any mood to dwell on it that night. You are open to someone accusing you of being over emotional if you react.

Though in the days to come my anger and rage levels went through the roof as she didn't explain herself of apologise. I only calmed down when another good friend told me they raged a lot when one of their parents passed, it's normal.

I've never had an explanation for my best friends actions. She's never replied to either message, or had any contact with me at all since

Why did she do this? Even more important, what do I say to her the next time I see her?

However I search this, I often get to sciatica, but when I read 70% of sciatica symptoms, it doesn't feel like it. That said the other 30 % sounds right (weakness, tingling in feet)

I have a lower back problem, I'm passed whether it hurts or not, I've had it 18 years and after a while pain is forgotten

What I do have which I can't find an answer to, is central feeling in l5-s1 region. This feeling means I can be walking down the street and every 10 steps I'll feel myself be weak, like a tremor feeling.

If you go over a suspension bridge, and it wobbles because a couple of joggers have just past you, the bridge tremors. I get this, but it's my back. In my 20's I used to blame it on a lorry driving past. Now it's obvious, and occurs regularly

Another way to induce this tremor, is to leave a room forgetting something, then turn round to check. As I turn back and start walking, I'll wobble

This is where the sciatica forums appear relevant. They talk about loss of balance, weakness, tingling etc. I don't feel sharp pains, or pains going into my legs. I just feel weak whilst walking and doing very mundane things

My current plan is to do 100 sit ups a day, and hope building strong abdominals will bring back some strong feeling around my core

I've spoken to physios, chiropractors, and my GP, I get really blank looks when I talk about this wobbling sensation

Any ideas people?

If I was to prepare a dish of frozen vegetables and prawns in a sealed container, and put them in a fridge at 10am, would it be safe to eat this at 8pm?

Recently I rang my internet bank of 10 years for a routine enquiry. Nothing technical or hard in the slightest

During the second password letter of security, their phone system cut me off. I rang back 2 minutes later, and was told my account access had been suspended, and I had to go through extra security because of it

This meant they refused to speak to me until I rang on a number they recognised. They didn't have my mobile number on file so they couldn't ring this back. They wouldn't accept the work extension I was using, because we've changed networks from BT landlines to Cisco network phones (which meant the number was the same except for 3 digits)

At least (can't be bothered counting) 5 calls later, I took the afternoon off and went home to ring from a landline to adhere to this hideous procedure. The password I have been using was then refused, to which I had to go through the same security questions again. I changed the password to the one I've used 10 years previous

I rang again 3 days later because I'd calmed down. The letters of the password failed again, and I've changed the password to the same password I changed 3 days previous, to the same password I've always had with them

My question is, does a phone line accidently cutting out at their end, satisfy the reasonable excuse that there's been a security breach?

I was told scammers and fraudsters have very clever ways of making money, and that my phone call cutting out could very well be part of this

Have I got a case to complain about being poorly treated? Should I be angry that I was refused service because their phone system failed?

Hi. I know these things are circumstantial, but I'd still like to ask anyway

I have a friend (I'm male, admittedly, she's female). She's quite playfully, over insulting towards me. I know it's (supposedly) to be not meant, but recently absolutely everything I do is wrong, anything I buy is unfashionable or hideous. If I'm right I'm wrong, and if I'm wrong then I'm in for it double

So what's made me ask this question after about 6 months?

Today I was invited out, and the second I got there I was just completely slaughtered verbally. After an hour I just said I needed to be somewhere, made my excuses and left. It was just horrible (I'm not sure how I'm supposed to sustain a good mood either, I'm allowed my bad days too)

I understand something may be going on in their world, but why ask to meet me then? How do I fix something like this?

I've lost count how many times I've shouted for bills or been nice, it seems to make it worse if anything

Tomorrow she'll probably be nice to me for a bit, but the nasty bitchy side will return

Am I just as much a serial offender in sticking around, as they are dishing it out? Should I just passively retreat in future? Should I continue to rise above it and hope they get better around me?

So confused

I've started drinking this tea as a substitute to generic tea bags, or freeze dried coffee

I drink quite a lot of it though

What's the difference between the caffeine content in Chai tea, in comparison to tea or coffee?

One I can use 4-5 times a week, pleasant but not expensive

My main fragrance is Paco Rabanne's Ultraviolet, so I citrus type scent would be favoured

That fragrance is expensive. Suggestions for a cheaper brand? Thanks