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Hi, this site has always been very helpful. Like I said, I just need another perspective. Here is the situation and some background info (I'll keep it brief). My fiance has some issues (anxiety, social phobia, OCD symptoms). He is a very nice guy, good with my kids, and tries to do the right thing. He is on medication for some of these issues but is not in therapy. He is very "laid back" and often appears bored or disinterested at family functions or other social happenings. When it is just the two of us (or just the five of us including my kiddos) there really isn't much of a difference. He is "there" as in "present," but not really involved in what is going on. The other day when we were in the car, I wanted to talk with him about a book I had read, and he kept falling asleep. I ended up talking to my friend about the book, and felt very lonely because I couldn't share that with him. He falls asleep a lot in the car (I drive most of the time). I don't know if its his medication or if its just "him" but he won't even discuss trying to live without the medication or finding a therapist. Okay, that's the background stuff. The other night, when the Bruins won the game, he was actually jumping up and down and screaming and cheering...the most animated and enthusiastic I have EVER seen him! I was very hurt because I would like him to show that level (or at least any level) of enthusiasm for his life with us and not just save that for his favorite team. He claims to not understand what I am upset about, despite talking about this adnauseam for two days now. All he keeps saying is "I can't believe you're mad because I was happy the Bruins won!" I keep trying to explain how I am feeling hurt because I want him to be happy and enthusiastic about things in his real life...but he is (pretending?) not to understand. So I feel like I have to just keep my mouth shut to avoid conflict because the problem is not getting solved anyway.

What do you all think...am I over reacting and being too sensitive or is this something that is a real problem? Thanks you

Hi and thanks for taking the time to read this. Here is the situation: my boyfriend and I just moved into a beautiful house...this is the best house I have ever lived in, its very elegant and and cozy. He has never lived with a woman before, he has spent most of his life living by himself, so he really doesn't understand about a woman's decorating tastes...he wants to put his sports pictures and memorabilia in our living room (we don't have a finished basement or "den" that they could go in), I say it would completely ruin the "look" of the room, they just don't "go" in there...the living room should contain nice scenery and "country" pictures. Our windows look out over lovely meadows, the house is just set up for the "cozy country" theme. He says he understands, but I feel really bad...I know that its his house too and I want him to be comfortable there and feel as though he has a say in what goes into it. I also don't want to be controlling, that's really not my nature at all. But I also want to feel comfortable in my house. I do like to watch hockey but I'm not a "die hard" fan by any stretch of the imagination! My boyfriend is proud of his sports stuff and says they should be "show cased" and put where others can see them. (I had told him he could put whatever he wanted in our bedroom and the stairwell...he said they will be too "hidden" there). I know that he won't put them up if I really don't want him to, but I don't want to create resentment either. Help! Any advice, suggestions, or opinions are welcome...I need some other perspectives to help sort this out. Thank you so much.

Hi, I would appreciate any and all suggestions. I have 4 indoor cats, all are very well cared for (up to date on vaccines, spayed/neutered), all receive plenty of attention! Here is the problem...my 3 year old cat is mean to the others, they are all afraid of him and go out of their way to avoid him. The litter boxes are in the laundry room (I have tried having litter boxes upstairs for the other cats, but it was too much), that is where they also eat. One of my other cats is afraid to come downstairs, we have to "escort" her to and from kitty box and her food so she won't get bullied. Any ideas for calming this kitty down and helping him be nice to others? He is a neutered male, was previously returned to humane society because he had this problem in other households. He is a wonderful cat in every other way...sweet, loving, laid back, just has this problem with other cats! Is there medication for this? Help!

My boyfriend went to the doctor to get some medication for anxiety (his therapist recommended that he do that...she cannot prescribe meds). He felt that the doctor did not really listen to him, and then the doctor prescribed Prednisone. Isn't that a powerful steroid used primarily for allergic reactions? He is on a lot of other medications, we are worried that the Prednisone would react with one of them and isn't really for anxiety anyway...something I read online said that Prednisone can actually cause depression! Oh, and the doctor told him "not to read any of the warnings" when he picked up the medication. Anyone able to help? Thank you!

My friend was ordered to pay his ex wife's credit card bills. There is no proof that he signed for any of the purchases...they are 100% her cards and she has a "shopping addiction." He left her because she was abusive in other ways and now she wants to stick him with the bill. She cried poor to the judge (who was a woman) and my friend was ordered to make $150 a month payments for her cards. They weren't even married for two years! Here is my question: Can he declare bankruptcy to get out of this?? Or does the court order trump bankruptcy? Please only answer if you have info that can help. My friend has two children (that he has sole custody of) to support, he cannot afford to be paying off bills that aren't even his!

Hi, I just moved out of my house...gave the landlord 30 days notice (actually it was more like 45 days notice). I called the electric company yesterday to have the electricity put back in his name, they told me that they won't do that without his permission. They tried to reach him, but couldn't. Then they called me back and told me that since they couldn't reach him, I was still responsible for the electricity. Since it is winter, and I have moved out, they told me that they are shutting off the power on Wednesday. I have tried to reach the landlord multiple times, but he has shut off his voice mail! The electric company told me that when they shut the power off, if there is any damage to the house (burst pipes, etc) I would be legally responsible! Is that true? Am I off the hook because I DID give the landlord notice and it should be his responsibility to contact the electric company? After all its HIS house! I am very stressed about this, I don't know why he has shut off his voice mail...I don't want anything to happen to the house, but I have my own electric bill to pay in my new place. Any advice appreciated.

I need to serve my ex husband with contempt for non payment of child support (he hasn't seen or spoken to the kids in almost two years). He is hiding in the state of New Jersey, staying with friends, working under the table. If I try to file a contempt motion, I will need an address to send his copy. How do I do this if I don't have an address? He is hiding purposely because he wants to avoid his responsibilities to his own children. He is also hiding from arrest warrants...a couple from our state and one from NJ. Can I ask the judge to let me serve him via a local newspaper in NJ? Is that allowed or possible? Any advice? Thanks!

My ex husband was ordered to pay $110 a week for the support of our two children (much less than he should be paying, but I was so happy to get that court order, I didn't push it). He fled to New Jersey (I live in NH, where he is from), and now I think he is somewhere in Florida living off of his new girlfriend. He hasn't seen or spoken to the children in almost two years. The courts are little help...they say that if I don't have an address for him, I can't serve him. So how do I file contempt charges? I have spoken to a couple of lawyers, and their responses are something along the lines of "hmmm...sounds tough. Might have to hire a private detective. And even then..." I am trying to support two children on my income alone, I don't have any money for lawyers and detectives. Does anyone have any suggestions at all??? I do have his social security number, anyone know of a website I can use to find him? Thank you in advance.