Should i figure things out myself or listen to other people?
Well this is what's up. I'm 18 and believe it or not I have found my 1st boyfriend. Now i'm the baby of the family and every single person in my family are overprotective. I understand but already my cousins don't like him cause well, he's a guy, if that makes any sense, and my mother doesn't like him just because he asked me out for a day and i said i had to ask my parents and he said that i was 18 and i still had to ask my parents? I explained to him that my parents provide me with food and shelter for now so i must respect them. He understood and apologized. My friends don't like him cause again, well he's a guy. Why can't they trust me? What should i do? Listen to them like i've done so many times and like so many times lose a good guy or disrespect my family and friends? What should i do?
Kelsey H2006-05-15T17:26:23Z
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both take into consideration what others say and then figure out what you think is right
I think that you should do what you want to do. Plenty of people can give you advice, but ultimately you have to make your own decisions and, if it happens, your own mistakes. Humans learn from making mistakes. How are you ever going to find the right man if you don't date and get to know some? He's not going to fall out of the sky.
Personally, I think his question was a perfectly reasonable one, especially if he's a little older than you. I wasn't asking my parents' permission for dates once I graduated from high school, and not even before if it was a weekend. I let them know my plans. It sounds like your parents aren't ready to respect that you're becoming an adult.
Be careful with this guy, though. If your friends and family don't like him, it may be an instinctual thing, not just "because he's a guy." They may sense something about him that you don't because emotions are clouding your judgement a little. That doesn't mean that you shouldn't see him, just be careful.
Well I definitly think you should listen to your heart I know that I didn't and I have lost the love of my life I listened to my family.....Also do you really care for him if so do not lose him you are not a child you are a young women but trust me I have been in your boat.....As long as he is a good man with good intentions stand up for yourself sweety you are only young once and I don't want anyone to feel what I feel it is very painful.... Good Luck.....
some times it is good to get an outsiders view. one because they are not associated with the situation, second you don't know them so they are not bias. what ever you do you must remember these are opinions to take into consideration. follow what is inside you. there is a little voice telling you if it is the right thing to do or not.
talk to a close friend and let her help you,but don't let your friends and family get in the way of what could b the love of your life...go out w/this guy and make the best of it....if u stay togethera long time your fam willget to like him better and trust u more