Should i figure things out myself or listen to other people?

both take into consideration what others say and then figure out what you think is right

I think that you should do what you want to do. Plenty of people can give you advice, but ultimately you have to make your own decisions and, if it happens, your own mistakes. Humans learn from making mistakes. How are you ever going to find the right man if you don't date and get to know some? He's not going to fall out of the sky.

Personally, I think his question was a perfectly reasonable one, especially if he's a little older than you. I wasn't asking my parents' permission for dates once I graduated from high school, and not even before if it was a weekend. I let them know my plans. It sounds like your parents aren't ready to respect that you're becoming an adult.

Be careful with this guy, though. If your friends and family don't like him, it may be an instinctual thing, not just "because he's a guy." They may sense something about him that you don't because emotions are clouding your judgement a little. That doesn't mean that you shouldn't see him, just be careful.

Well I definitly think you should listen to your heart I know that I didn't and I have lost the love of my life I listened to my family.....Also do you really care for him if so do not lose him you are not a child you are a young women but trust me I have been in your boat.....As long as he is a good man with good intentions stand up for yourself sweety you are only young once and I don't want anyone to feel what I feel it is very painful.... Good Luck.....

some times it is good to get an outsiders view. one because they are not associated with the situation, second you don't know them so they are not bias. what ever you do you must remember these are opinions to take into consideration.

follow what is inside you. there is a little voice telling you if it is the right thing to do or not.

talk to a close friend and let her help you,but don't let your friends and family get in the way of what could b the love of your life...go out w/this guy and make the best of it....if u stay togethera long time your fam willget to like him better and trust u more

u are an adult now. trust in your own instincts. your parents are just being protective but they must let u make your own way in life now and we all have to make our own mistakes cos that is how we learn. if u like this guy, then be with him and good luck!

Do a bit of both

ask trusted friends for help, but still use your own common sense.

I think you just need to tell him that he needs to figure this out himself. He needs to make his own decisions. You can help him relax when he needs to but you can't decide what he will do for him.

when you dont know what to do, listen to what people are telling you, take it into consideration. but in the long run, just listen to your heart. time will tell too. if you listen to your heart and it keeps hurting you in the long run, then you can still love and not be with the person. but listen to no one but you, bc in the end ull be alone, not the ppl telling you what to do.

Hey, these people love and know you...so ask them to be specific about what they don't like about him. Make them explain the warning signs that they see (if any). Then you take that information and compare it to what you see and make a decision.

It never hurts to listen to what others have to say, especially if they are older since that MIGHT equate with more wisdom. Listen, weigh what is said, see if it will help improve what you are trying to do, then MAKE YOUR OWN DECISION!!! One man's opinion.