Do you give a gift for both the bridal shower and the wedding? Or just one?
I was just wondering if it's a must to gift a gift on both the bridal shower and the wedding. What if I will not attend the bridal shower, do I still need to give her a gift? Or can I just give it during the wedding?
2006-07-11T13:20:29Z
Oh, I wish this friend that's getting married is a practical. But nope. She has told her friends that per guest, she would be spending $150 so she expects at least that as a gift.
2006-07-11T14:02:42Z
Amen, LadyLaywer! She is a little ...something. Her wedding is in FL (she lives in IL). So not only do guests have to spend money on her (the RIGHT amount so as not to get snubbed) but to go to the wedding itself already cost a lot.
ladylawyer262006-07-11T13:28:36Z
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the bride shouldn't be telling the guests how much is getting spent per plate - and if she's spending that much she doesn't need gifts because she can damn well get them herself.
as for normally... if there's a bridal shower and a wedding, the shower is for fun, get the bride something like lingerie bubble bath candles stationary picture frames, etc....the wedding gift should be something for the couple and their new home, toaster, dinner plates, etc.
now if they're having a wedding shower and a wedding....this is usually done when they know that some long distant relatives won't make it to the wedding...so they give them an opportunity to celebrate at a local shower. if you go to both of these you need only gift one time...however if you feel out of place, do something small at the shower that compliments the bigger gift at the wedding.....like pizza cutter/pizza stone....salad tongs/salad bowl...whatever they've registered for.
i can't believe the woman said she expects everyone to spend at least 150 on her....thats incredibly crass....as well as inconsiderate of the people who may not have that to spend on a wedding gift.
Traditionally you give her a gift at the bridal shower and the wedding, if you do not attend the shower then it is up to you. Some people feel they want to give a bridal shower gift even if they can't go, but they don't expect it. When I got married 3 weeks ago I had 4 showers prior to the wedding, the people that were invitited to more then one shower even brought gifts to every shower. Although I didn't expect it at all.
A gift for both at the bridal shower u mostly give stuff that u can use around the house, and at the wedding you give money, thats how we do it in new york
If you do not attend the bridal shower you do not have to give a gift. If you attend the wedding, either give a gift or cash--they will probably appreciate the cash more.
It is tradional to give a gift at both the bridal shower and the wedding, but I don't think its necessary to give a shower gift if you don't attend the shower.