I didn't want my son to be a thug, but I didn't want him to be a wimp, either. He's 15 years old, and having problems with some of the other kids in the neighborhood.
This boy who is younger than he is came to our door a few weeks ago, and said that he wanted to fight my son because my son supposedly beat up his younger brother. My son blew it off because he didn't, and ever since then, this boy, and two others, have been making his life hell. They are spreading rumors about him, and some of the other, older kids are calling him names, even when he's riding in the car with me.
Last night was it! These three boys took his bicycle, and dragged it into the woods and across the creek from our housing edition. What can I suggest to him to do? I hesitate to have him physically fight because these boys are younger than he is, but something has got to give.
2007-10-10T09:01:29Z
We did get his bike back.
Rachel S2007-10-10T09:46:53Z
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This calls for you to act. As the adult that's witnessed these 3 boys taking his bike, I would 1st try to address the parents and let them be aware of what's going on. Most parents want to be aware of what their kids are doing. Once they get a knock on the door, they usually tend to listen to another parent. Police really don't do much, but documenting this is a good idea if things continue to get worse. Tell your son to keep doing what he's been doing....IGNORE all the teasing. It's Very hard for teens to do this, but necessary in the long run. I would contact the school and make sure they are aware of what's been happening as well, just in case. Keep giving your son positive feed back that what he's doing is right and fighting is taking the easy way out and doesn't solve anything but further tensions. Hope this advise works for you and your son will get past this.
I think that you should talk with the other kid's parent and tell them what's going on , then if that doesn't resolve the situation then yes , I would make a complaint to the police and press harassment charges on the other boy's. I am sure that it will scare them. I have a 12yr old , last year he got into a fight with a good friend of his , this other boy was cussing at him and saying alto of bad things to him. I told my son that if he was any kind of a friend he would not be treating him this way, and that it was up to him what he wanted to do. They are no longer friends.It's hard growing up but you have to let them make their own decisions. Yes I went to the parent's and let them know about this , and they took matters into their own hand's . Yes I still talk to them every now and then.
First, file a POLICE report about his bike! That is: trespassing on another person's property AND vandalism AND stealing! If the police have a RECORD on these boys, then it will be eaier to "get them" IF they [heaven forbid] do something WORSE to your poor son! : (
Next, contact the SCHOOL -- both principal and teachers -- they need to be AWARE of the situation, to keep their eyes out for any problems at school -- those boys may also be making his life at school hell, too! : (
Try calling the parents - and maybe even VISITING the other parents at their HOMES! One-on-one contact is much more effective than just a phone call!
Lastly, make sure you do NOT allow your son to go anywhere ALONE! Those horrible boys may do something WORSE! Try to drive him places, etc... OR make sure he is with a group of other people if he goes anywhere.... I feel so bad for you and especially your poor son!
[I am a former school teacher and a parent.] Good luck! : )
I think that it has gone far beyond talking to the other parents and it is time to get the police involved. Taking his bike is stealing and I think that it has gone far enough. Go to the police station and file a complaint against the boys. Your job as a parent is to protect your son. If some rude coments were made to my child while I was in the car, you bet I would have jumped out and said something. Enough is enough, do something.
Call the police, first of all, since they stole his bike. Call the parents and explain how these children are treating your son and tell the parents that is they keep harassing him you will be taking legal action. Then see if the parents do anything about it. If they don't, you can file charges against them.