Just broke up with someone i love dearly...i'm i doing the right thing?

for those who remember the situation about my husband and the ultimatium about me having a female within my marriage....
I have decided to let go of my relationship with my girlfriend(i'm a female myself) to save whatever is left of my marriage but i'm hurting badly because i i'm in love with that female but i want to try and save a marriage of 15yrs... i'm i doing the right thing?
my husband is happy with my decision and looking forward to living without the other party.
he loves me and i love him but he doesn't work to keep his wife happy...
is there anyone who knows what i'm feeling? it would be nice to get there advice as well.
she is also hurting and tells me to reconcider my decision or she'll wait until the end of the year for me to change my mine..

pumper2007-10-15T12:27:03Z

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What does "he doesn't work to keep his wife happy" mean to you? You must feel very torn, however your happiness cannot be his mission in life. You would be asking too much of any other human to keep you happy. Your answer is right under your nose. The other woman is what makes you happy. You know it's wrong, but it feels too good and right...right? You feel selfish for wanting her more than your husband, with all the burdens of the vows you took, family pressure, religious impact, property, finances, and hurting your husband.... the list goes on. You NEED the other woman in YOUR life, and your husband DESERVES more than you can give. Set him free, and you will be setting yourself free at the same time. Good luck