I wish there was a majic spell to make my wife want more sex?

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hey man, im sorry. She probably feels scared about something. Fear stops a lot of us from doing what we should and could. Maybe before you do anything about leaving, face her and ask her politely and respectfully why she doesnt want sex from you, and tell her how you feel about the fact that she is acting that way... tell her your perspective on what is happening and what she is doing. If she listens, good. If not, maybe you should be asking another question....Show more

It must be very frustrating that you wife doesn't want sex, but i don't think you should think of it as something you get in exchange for doing laundry etc. If you are fed up with doing these things, then stop doing them. If your wife complains, tell her you're too tired or something. Maybe it will stop her taking you for granted.

Perhaps you should try being more assertive when it comes to initiating sex? some women like men to initiate it and don't care for doing it themselves. I am very passive sexually and tendn to wait for my husband to initate. Maybe you should just try grabbing her and kissing her or something, that might help to make her more enthusiastic.

Or perhaps if she continues to reject your advances, you should ask her outrigh tif there is something wrong? maybe she needs to see a doctor. I feel very strongly that married people should try and accomodate each other's needs as far a spossibl,e saying 'no' all the time is rather unkind. Ask her why she doesn't want to have sex. There must be some reason....Show more

There are a lot of people who have these same problems in a marrage, i do think that she should repay you for what you do for her in kindness but maybe its just not her thing, this will cause a lot of arguments in your marrage if its not sorted out.
Have you tried making a candle lite meal and a nice romantic night for her with a massage and nice music? if you havnt then give it a try but the first few times leave out the sex and dont even speak about it, this way she might feel so loved and that you are respecting her wishes for not going on about it so much that she will definatley give you what you have been wanting all along. some women need to feel loved in different ways. Good Luck.
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she has other issues. If she wants absolutely no sex at all, insist that the two of you go together to a doctor or therapist. it is a myth that women are frigid, don't want sex, or other such rot. a woman is as sexual as a man, so if she is refusing, you need to get to the heart of the matter. Sounds like either 1. you are a doormat and she is taking full advantage for you. or 2. she has guilty guts because she is getting her sex from someone else (male or female) and she is treating you like a slave to compensate for her behavior.

If she refuses to go to a professional, decide if you want out of this marriage. And if that is a serious consideration to you, tell her what you are considering, and that if she continues in this manner, you have no choice but to ask her to leave. But don't threaten, don't say anything that you aren't prepared to back up with actions-carry through on whatever you say will happen....Show more

Well honey, you need to set her down and give it to her straight. I would ask her what the problem is and if you could do anything better to get her in the mood for love. Try this...... shower, shave, wear some sexy Cologne, dress nice and most of all brush your teeth,gargle, and use breath mints. If this does not bring her around you may have to believe that your wife is frigid ...and I guess you will have to do what they all do and find yourself a Mistress. I am sorry but that is the only advice I can give you at this time....Show more