Is is wrong to tell someone they're adopted if they didn't know?

Does the answer change if you're talking about a young child, a teenager, a young adult, an older adult?

Does it depend on whether you're a friend or a spouse or a sibling of the adoptee?

2008-03-01T07:30:00Z

How do other people find out? They knew about the adoption from the beginning or someone slipped.

And as to who I am - I'm an adoptee who found out at age 31. It did NOT devastate me. I do know of a situation where the parents slipped to their son-in-law and told him NOT to tell their daughter.

2008-03-01T07:38:56Z

I agree that it needs to be told by the right person - someone close to the adoptee.

And yes - many adoptees do find out after the parents are deceased - at the funeral, when going through their parents' personal effects....

Remember also that the adoptee has been giving their doctor inaccurate information on their family medical history.

Who owns your identity?

Mommy to a Angel Baby RIP2008-03-01T08:46:14Z

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If it was me and I was an adopting parent, I'd tell them because they have a right to know and they will eventually start wondering where "birth pictures" "ultrasounds" "baby book" etc

now if the tables were turned:

but if I was adopted I'd want to know because I'd want to find the real parents and build a relationship with them if they we're worth to even have that, and ask them why they gave me up.


so no its not wrong ....

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Anonymous2008-03-01T15:01:50Z

Unless you are one of the adopting parents, you probably should not say anything. The only exception I can think of is if both parents are deceased.
I am curious as to how you (think you) know this when the adoptee does not. Are you a relative? A birth parent?

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debi a2008-03-01T15:06:18Z

If you have to ask than it probably is wrong. When someone finds this out it is a terrible shock and it must be done my the right person. Usually the adoptive parent.

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