So I am secretly in love with one of my best friends she is from out of state but is visiting for her spring break. we have a couple other people down, so she is staying in my room. i have a king size bed so we are sleeping together. she doesnt know im a lesbian so she doesnt think anything of it but i cant stand sleeping another nite beside her and not being able to hold her in my arms and kiss her beautiful face!
how do i tell her how i feel??
what if she rejects me?
Miguel J.2008-03-19T01:05:22Z
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the rules of engagement are simple, you comand and conquer. So what if you have a lot to lose, You obviously have so much fun times and excitement to gain so you should only think about you and what is in it for you. I'm sure you are used to helping others and stuff, but if anything, in the state of mind you are in, these rules don't apply. Take the kitty and make it purr... jajajaja
Well just to let you know, if you tell her that you are gay and she is not interested, you may freak her out a lot and lose that friendship. Be careful about it and consider if you would rather have her as a possible girlfriend or as just a friend. Hopefully if she is a really good friend, she will be able to continue the friendship with you even if she is not interested. You could possibly just sleep on the floor or in another room if it is so hard for you. But I would personally be honest with her and tell her that you are gay. Maybe don't tell her right away that you are in love with her, but let her know that you are attracted to other girls and see where that takes you. Best of luck :)
Because if she isn't then there are 3 possible things that might happen.
Firsrt of all she will be completley freak and pushes you away and cant look at you for the rest of your life.
second she will reject you but just take it like a true friend and not change her behaviour at all.
third she will change her sexuality just for you and then you two go at it all night.
I couldn't really elaborate more, seeing as I haven't met this girl. I think the safest thing to do if you dont want to risk your friendship. But I hope whatever you choose goes well. Hope this helps! Good luck!
This is a huge thing to tell one of your friends!! you have to be prepared for her to be shocked/surprised and you must prepare yourself for that... I think that you shouldnt make any moves until she is atleast first used to the fact that you are a lesbian.. you know give it a couple of days to sink in before you let her know of any feelings for her..
If she doesnt feel the same then dont feel rejected, it wont be anything personal, its just that for other woman its impossible to be attracted to the same sex..
You should bring it up in a conversation you two are having. But its best to tell her, otherswise nothing will ever happen if you never tell her. She may reject and feel awkard or she might be into it. It depends on her though. But during the conversation u should tell her I don't want it to change our friendship but I like you and so on. So that way it would be safer to tell her and keep the friendship without making it awkard. Has she ever seemed interested in other girls? Some girls are but don't say so. So you never know but good luck!