What to do with a 5th grade bully?
I have a 11 year old brother that is in 5th grade. We live in the suburbs of Boston, in a small town where everyone knows everyone. My brother went down to the school principal this afternoon crying and trembling because he is being bullied by a kid in his class. They have been in the same class since 2nd grade, been in the same after school activities, and I have even coached both of them in baseball for the last three years. This kid is calling my brother "fat" and "lard arss". So it got to the point today that he couldnt take it anymore and went to the principal, who said that she can not do anything because she has 'no proof'. apparently, a crying child is not proof enough, especially since the bully was suspended three weeks ago.
Supposedly the school has a big bully problem, police were involved because kids in the same class were calling a 5th grade girl the other word for "hooker". The principal now is a substitute and cant seem to get her hands on the situation.
My problem is.... I feel like I want to tell this kid that he sucks at baseball, that everyone laughs at him for being in the drama club, that he cried cause he didnt make the all star baseball team that my brother did, and that he has a nose like a beak... I dont think that it is my place to say that, but is it acceptable to help my brother out with stuff to say to this bully?? and what makes me even more mad, is that my brother is not fat at all...!!
thanks for the advice. I am 28 and know that it is not my place to talk to the kid directly. but at the same time, I want my brother to stand up for himself and not take this crap from anyone. So could I be "behind the scenes" telling him what to make fun of the bully kid for? or is that bad and would be turning my brother into a bully as well?? Or should I teach him how to box over the weekend so come Monday, he can beat the crap out of this kid. ??