I am 19 and i have been with my boyfriend for about 5 years. We both have good jobs, we already found and apartment and we have bought furniture and stuff like that. The only problem is that i have kept this a secret from my dad because of something that happened in high school and my dad forbade me for going out with him. However, I didn't care what he said and continued going out with him. I see him whenever my dad goes to work and lie to him so i can see him. I need to know how to tell him im moving out with him when he doesn't even know im going out with him. I don't know should i just leave and not tell him him anything? Or should i tell my boyfriend to come to my house and talk to my dad? Please help. I need other ideas.
Invisigoth2009-02-08T07:28:56Z
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have your bf come by and talk to your dad. It's the right thing to do and you don't want to hurt your relationship with your father when you move out. Your dad is going to be disappointed that you didn't obey him and he will be angry (I don't imagine he'll be too happy you are moving in with the guy either) but you are an adult now and you have to make your own choices about how you are going to live your life.
sit dad down with just you and tell him that you have a roommate and you are getting ready to move out. show him your plan for supporting yourself to ease any concerns he has about you setting out on your own.
your next step is to introduce him to your new roommate. You bring your BF to the house and your BFs goal is to show your dad how he's grown up and changed. this may take time and your dad will be upset for a while but time will take care of this.
Good Luck.
BTW: if your dad is a violent man then DO NOT DO THIS. Just pack your stuff and leave.
I would let my dad know that you are seeing this guy and are serious about him. Tell him that you're sorry for whatever it was that happened so long ago, but that you really loved this guy and kept on seeing him. Don't put the two of them into the same rom until you know what the reaction will be.
Just come out with. With your conditions: nice job, etc. I don't think he should be mad. Maybe you, your bf, and dad should start over again. You should probably tell your bf to come to your house and speak to your dad. Either way you have the right to move out, but if you want to remain friendly with your dad you should all speak about it together.