How do I tell me dad I'm moving out?

Question

I am 19 and i have been with my boyfriend for about 5 years. We both have good jobs, we already found and apartment and we have bought furniture and stuff like that. The only problem is that i have kept this a secret from my dad because of something that happened in high school and my dad forbade me for going out with him. However, I didn't care what he said and continued going out with him. I see him whenever my dad goes to work and lie to him so i can see him. I need to know how to tell him im moving out with him when he doesn't even know im going out with him. 
I don't know should i just leave and not tell him him anything?
Or should i tell my boyfriend to come to my house and talk to my dad?
Please help. I need other ideas.

Invisigoth · Accepted Answer

have your bf come by and talk to your dad.  It's the right thing to do and you don't want to hurt your relationship with your father when you move out.  Your dad is going to be disappointed that you didn't obey him and he will be angry (I don't imagine he'll be too happy you are moving in with the guy either) but you are an adult now and you have to make your own choices about how you are going to live your life.

sit dad down with just you and tell him that you have a roommate and you are getting ready to move out.  show him your plan for supporting yourself to ease any concerns he has about you setting out on your own.

your next step is to introduce him to your new roommate.  You bring your BF to the house and your BFs goal is to show your dad how he's grown up and changed.  this may take time and your dad will be upset for a while but time will take care of this.

Good Luck.

BTW:  if your dad is a violent man then DO NOT DO THIS.  Just pack your stuff and leave.

Sandy · Answer

I would let my dad know that you are seeing this guy and are serious about him. Tell him that you're sorry for whatever it was that happened so long ago, but that you really loved this guy and kept on seeing him. Don't put the two of them into the same rom until you know what the reaction will be.

Luis V. · Answer

Just come out with. With your conditions: nice job, etc. I don't think he should be mad. Maybe you, your bf, and dad should start over again. You should probably tell your bf to come to your house and speak to your dad. Either way you have the right to move out, but if you want to remain friendly with your dad you should all speak about it together.

Hope i helped
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waqar · Answer

talking openly solve hundred of problems. Do't try to use any ideas on our father just talk to him openly as now you are 19 and can leave

Anonymous · Answer

Just tell him i have my own ways and he will hopefully understand. Or have him come talk to your dad.

silsa1 · Answer

If your boyfriend had any balls he would talk to your father (respect). Also, since your 19, your considered an adult and can do what you want...

♥рίиk♥βΰββℓέgυм♥ · Answer

if ur big enough to go behind your dads back and do all that stuff,then you are big enough to tell him that without worrying about what he would think and how to tell him

originalgrl :D · Answer

"hey dad guess what?"
"what honey?"
"I'm moving out bye"

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