I just got officially engaged, and Im thinking like three years til I actually take the plunge ...is this too long? The family members keep asking for a date..and Im just like "uhhhh..??"......( Im only 23...I told myself I wouldnt get married til at least 25, even if it were Brad Pitt that asked)..
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First, Congratulations!!!
There is no time frame once you get the ring. The thing you have to make sure of is if you have done everything that you wanted to do before you get married. Things change once you say 'I do - Financially, emotionally, routine day to day bs, the pressure of starting a family. Do the things you always wanted to do travel, school, sex, job/career. It will be harder no matter how great your partner is.
I got engaged at 22 to a Brad Pitt without the bank account. After 6 months I realized that there was so much more I wanted to do first. I never want to look back and say that " I should have done that'.
kittenkatt79
Congratulations on your engagement!
I think you're actually being very wise here. You are young and I think 25 is generally a more socially acceptable age to get married. Engagements are often 1-2 years, but a 3 year engagement is absolutely fine too. You'll have plenty of time to plan and I'm sure you're be much more financially stable in 3 years.
To answer your question, I am getting married exactly 1 year and 3 days after he proposed, but I'm 29 years old. I would very likely do the same thing as you if I were younger.
Hisamazingwife
You are right to want to wait, just enjoy being engaged, and tell the family to lay off.
Typical engagments last about a year to 2 years before the wedding happens. I was engaged a year and a half before I even set a date, never mind planned the wedding.
It all has to be what your'e comfortable with , but remember, engagment is an intention to marry.. so picking a date within the next 6 months wouldn't be soo bad, just set it for 2 years from then. :)
CONGRATULATIONS!
lollypop
congratulations! you sound like you have cold feet aaahhh. that's not to long though, me and my fiancee just got engaged (officially) this christmas after 6years together (i am 21 (on the 27th :D) & he is 23) and we are in university so we have good reason to wait until the wedding, we have set a date: 01/11/11 (for Americans that's, 11/01/11 (i think lol, November is the month) he graduates next June so then he will have a year working and then we will marry :D i haven't chosen where yet, we think the Caribbean but who knows yet. is there a special date for the both of you that you would like the wedding to be on? even though its 3years away at least you have a (round about) date? don't feel pressured to do that though, just say to everyone that you have both decided to save before you can even begin to think about how big or when the wedding could possibly be (NO need to say you want to wait because you are to young or whatever)
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My husband and I married 2 1/2 years after we were engaged.
It's perfectly acceptable to tell people, "We're going to take a little while to enjoy our engagement. As soon as we set a date, you'll be the first to know!"
Be positive, upbeat and friendly about it - but don't let anyone pressure you into setting a date before you're ready!
Oh- and another thing - I needed every bit of that 2 1/2 years to put together our wedding. It was TOTALLY worth it!