How long after you got "engaged" with a ring and all before you were married..?

First, Congratulations!!!

There is no time frame once you get the ring. The thing you have to make sure of is if you have done everything that you wanted to do before you get married. Things change once you say 'I do - Financially, emotionally, routine day to day bs, the pressure of starting a family. Do the things you always wanted to do travel, school, sex, job/career. It will be harder no matter how great your partner is.

I got engaged at 22 to a Brad Pitt without the bank account. After 6 months I realized that there was so much more I wanted to do first. I never want to look back and say that " I should have done that'.

Congratulations on your engagement!

I think you're actually being very wise here. You are young and I think 25 is generally a more socially acceptable age to get married. Engagements are often 1-2 years, but a 3 year engagement is absolutely fine too. You'll have plenty of time to plan and I'm sure you're be much more financially stable in 3 years.

To answer your question, I am getting married exactly 1 year and 3 days after he proposed, but I'm 29 years old. I would very likely do the same thing as you if I were younger.

You are right to want to wait, just enjoy being engaged, and tell the family to lay off.

Typical engagments last about a year to 2 years before the wedding happens. I was engaged a year and a half before I even set a date, never mind planned the wedding.

It all has to be what your'e comfortable with , but remember, engagment is an intention to marry.. so picking a date within the next 6 months wouldn't be soo bad, just set it for 2 years from then. :)

CONGRATULATIONS!

congratulations! you sound like you have cold feet aaahhh. that's not to long though, me and my fiancee just got engaged (officially) this christmas after 6years together (i am 21 (on the 27th :D) & he is 23) and we are in university so we have good reason to wait until the wedding, we have set a date: 01/11/11 (for Americans that's, 11/01/11 (i think lol, November is the month) he graduates next June so then he will have a year working and then we will marry :D i haven't chosen where yet, we think the Caribbean but who knows yet. is there a special date for the both of you that you would like the wedding to be on? even though its 3years away at least you have a (round about) date? don't feel pressured to do that though, just say to everyone that you have both decided to save before you can even begin to think about how big or when the wedding could possibly be (NO need to say you want to wait because you are to young or whatever)

My husband and I married 2 1/2 years after we were engaged.

It's perfectly acceptable to tell people, "We're going to take a little while to enjoy our engagement. As soon as we set a date, you'll be the first to know!"

Be positive, upbeat and friendly about it - but don't let anyone pressure you into setting a date before you're ready!

Oh- and another thing - I needed every bit of that 2 1/2 years to put together our wedding. It was TOTALLY worth it!

You can be engaged however long you want. You don't have to get engaged and then get married soon after. There is nothing wrong with being engaged for three years. Some are for five years! By the time my wedding rolls around, it will be three years engagement for me. I love it though. I don't want to feel rushed in my planning.

Got engaged June 2007 and married July 2008. So a little over a year, which was plenty enough time to plan the small wedding.

Our engagement will be 15 months. 3 years seems long, but every couple is different, so there's no real wrong answer. I have friends who have been engaged for over 4 years, but that is because they just never bothered to start saving or planning. If you both think waiting 3 years is what's right for you, then that's great! It gives you tons of time to plan and save, and if along the way you decide to have it sooner, you have that flexibility! :)

We decided to get married (a.k.a. "got engaged") in May, and were married in September.

How long is "too long" depends on how you view your relationship and your future goals. To me personally, "being engaged" wasn't a state that was meaningful in and of itself - it was simply a period of time that passed between the day we decided "that's it, we're getting married" and the actual wedding date. I see it this way: if and when I decide I am ready to be married, I'm just gonna get married. If I'm not ready to be married quite yet, and feel that I need another 3 years to become ready, I kinda don't see a point in "getting engaged". I would be in a committed relationship, wait until we were both ready to be married, and get engaged at that time.

But this is just my perception, and it's not the only way to look at it. Some people (including yourself) see engagement as its own stage of a relationship, a declaration of a bigger commitment without rushing to file the paperwork. It's fine too. Who is to say what is right for you? However, it's natural for people to assume that "getting engaged" proclaims your intent of "getting married", and so they of course are curious as to when the next step is. You will certainly be asked again and again about your wedding date, get used to it.

we got engaged 2 weeks ago, and plan on getting married fall 2010, so a little under 18 months. We've been dating 5 years, Im 27 he's 34, so we're ready!