hi... alright, well i'm really into this girl.. or woman... I'm 16 she's 22 in september. I....I told her i was 18..... she said if i weren't then it wouldn't happen.... but i know. i know she cares a lot about me... i dont want to live this lie.. i can't.. i feel so torn up and horrible...
i look much older, but i can't confront her with my family in fear they'll tell her.... i'm so shaken up about this im not a good liar. she says i've been acting different, which i have. i dont want her to get too attatched or me either, because i know if she found out, she'd be so hurt..... Should i tell her the truth? ...or should i wait until I'm 18? i need help.... advice?....
cassper2009-08-05T20:44:23Z
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You need to tell her. I know it's scary and it may end up ruining the really good thing you have going here, but you need to be honest or you're just going end up driving her away anyway from feeling so terrible.
Your just under the 5 year limit most areas have. Look up the laws in your area. Most places have the 60 month difference rule between an underage person and a person over the age of consent. Some areas 16 is the legal age anyways.
First of all, you should definitely tell her. Keeping lies is never a good thing, and the sooner you tell the truth, the better.
Second, she will not get into "illegal" trouble of any sort, as long as you DO NOT have sex. The only illegal thing about a minor dating an adult is having sexual intercourse. So stay away from that until you are 18.
Lastly, I don't think you should worry about letting her in on your true age. If she really cares about you, and your relationship is that sincere, she will understand and stick things out until you are no longer a minor. Good luck bro!
you shouldn't of lied to her. That's never the answer. I'd tell her the truth and find someone that's your age. It will seriously kill you inside to keep this until your 18 and she may be way more experienced than you. bet is she is your 16 you still need to learn stuff. while she already passed that stage. she may be a little hurt or angry but at least you told her the truth.
Do her a favor. Run from her with no explanation and don't look back. If you do, you may be looking at her through the bars of a jail cell. Have that on your conscious if you would like to keep the relationship. Think about that.