For those women who are married (newlywed and not)....what is normal when it comes to your spouse traveling without you (non-business/work related). Are you okay with your husband taking trips with his buddies (anywhere)? Whats the minimum or the maximum times he should travel with out you in your opinion? Of course, assuming that you trust them and that finances are not a problem.
2009-11-18T22:11:56Z
Im not married. Just having a difference of opinion with my significant other about our expectations/future in terms of traveling. Im not the traveling type unless its with him...he feels differently obviously. We are trying to compromise what would be reasonable and trying to define "occasional"...having a difficult time.
Frogi2009-11-18T20:30:31Z
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I think it's fine to have a weekend or even a week away once or twice a year with friends. Just make sure that you are doing the same for yourself. I take retreats with friends for my birthday, he does for his. If trust and finances are not an issue, then you shouldn't have anything to worry about if it's just an occasional thing. Anything more than that and I would say it's probably not ok. It also depends on what your comfort level is with it. If you don't want him going at all, then it isn't ok. Period. Each marriage is based solely on the two people involved in that marriage. My husband and I find that our time away gives us a chance to unwind and reconnect with friends. It's helped us immensely.
Spending a little time apart in a stable relationship shouldn't be a problem in my opinion, as long as the opportunity was there for BOTH partners to have a break. There are things he likes that don't really interest me so much, and the same with him to my stuff. So rather than one partner "enduring", we do it on our own. A few days to a week on non-business travel/holidays by himself, once or twice a year is fine by me. A few weeks (in one go) or a month or more and I'd be wondering where we were heading. Every weekend/every second weekend/every month would just cheese me off.
It is summed up in a word, 'trust.' If you have that, I really don't think you can put a time on it...unless YOU have one. If you have a specific time, you need to communicate that before the incident even comes up. (i.e.:"Honey, will you promise me that you will ask me to travel with you if you have to be gone over a week? (or whatever that limit is for you)"
Every relationship and situation is slightly different and some are WIDELY different, so I doesn't matter what anyone else says here, it is what YOU say inside yourself that matters.
It depends on the man, the occassion, and what is going on with us. If he is acting like a single man then no, he doesn't need to go on a recreational trip without me with a bunch of dudes. If he is going fishing with the guys, sure. A bachelor party, no way, unless it is a few very trustworthy friends. It just depends.
Well considering he's in the navy, he travels quite a bit without me. And considering he's gone half the time, I travel quite a bit without him too. He's never brought up the option of him going somewhere by himself (or with his friends) where I couldn't go too.