How would you deal with your situation if it was like this?

I had a friend that I had known for 30 years pass away recently. But we had a situation that came up while she was alive that we got into it over. She and I had fought over the years and always got over the arguments to continue being close friends. But this last one she and I parted ways and didn't speak. (we never ran into each other either) Now she is deceased and I feel guilty that we couldn't have remained friends. I already struggled over not being able to be friends again (for years) and now the chance is gone.

I want to express my sympathies but feel that the immediate family would wonder why I suddenly pop up now. The husband knew what it was over, but the grown children didn't. What is your opinion on this matter?

2010-02-08T00:22:16Z

I just found out today about this and the funeral is already over. I tried to talk to her and sent her letters and phone calls and even went over to her house to talk to her but she wouldn't answer the door.

2010-02-08T00:23:54Z

She had said she would never talk to me again, and she kept her word.

kingsdaughter2010-02-07T17:54:15Z

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I would send them a sympathy card and tell them honestly that you regret not healing the breach between you.

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Anonymous2010-02-07T20:41:16Z

Why would you let something as small as that get between you and your best friends funeral, just go and show your sympathy by sharing your condolences. I am so sorry to hear about the passing away of your best friend. Here is what i would do. I would go to the service and go to the burial and when all the other people are gone i would go over to the grave site and i would kneel down over her grave and explain to her that you are very sad that it had to come to this but you wish that the two of you could of patched things up and made it better between the two of you, like i said i am sorry to hear about your friend and her passing away.

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surprised2010-02-07T18:09:18Z

Don't be afraid to go and offer your condolences. I believe the husband will let the past go, after all his wife is dead, and why should he continue with the misunderstanding? The misunderstanding was between you and her, not him.

Even if he will to tell you about it, tell him that you are sorry for the past and you also wanted to offer a word of apology to her. I believe you can apologise to her at her coffin, I think she can hear you in the spirit world.

Go and be reconciled with her family. I think they will appreciate your gesture. Bo strong and be bold, go and be reconciled with them

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