All I want to do is get away from him. It's like baby talk but he sounds more like an old man. This is probably part of his ADHD but he's not on meds. I can't seem to get him to stop. help! this has been going on for a year. I've been giving him gum but it doesn't seem to help.
awkwardly balanced
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Know that this is part of your environment/life right now, and that you need an occasional break from it. At 3 and above, both should be having playdates with reciprocity with another mother. In the meantime, model how your want your son to play with your 3 year old, over and over and over - tell him that your 3 year old responds better when you talk to him like... [fill in the blank]. In addition, I have ALWAYS been very honest with my kids and told them when they are annoying and told them that I needed a break, and demanded that they give it to me. My sanity depended upon it - but be prepared for them to be as forthright with you and that you need to respect them when they tell you that something you are doing is annoying as well, LOL!
Also, if he is older (8 or so) you may be able to videotape it, and then get him to watch it. He may then understand how annoying it is.
PR
Gum?? What does gum do? I agree that you need to get away, for breaks, but of course you also need to find solutions. For your ADHD son, you will need to give him some of your time, which is undivided by his brother. ADHD kids need a bit of attention and he will be no exception. Both children will need time alone with you and with their other parent, if at all possible.
In additin to that, you should look into food sensitivities. Read books by Dr. Doris Rapp, used online booksites. These books will tell you so much, you will have a wealth of information: research done on how foods affect children with ADHD, symptoms both physical and behavioral, how to determine whether there are sensitivities, case studies of patients, and more. Look up two YOUTUBE videos from Dr. Doris Rapp who was on the Phil Donahue Show, which details patients and their cases.
Look up: ADHD and food sensitivites; ADHD and leaky gut; ADHD and candida.
Find out just what your son in interested in and find ways for him to learn about that. Get books, take him places related to it, find any way that will help him with the things he loves. Get him outside for exercise, get him in some sort of sports, talk to him, tell him stories at bedtime. Yes, it is difficult, but if you cut out the foods that may be bothering him, you may see a breakthrough. Remove ALL peanut products from his diet, which is a big offender; cut down on sugary items; check into wheat sensitivities, as well as dairy.
Abaca
You dont say how old your son is. Anyway, Tell your son just how annoying it is and that you want him to stop. You deserve a break and respect. as suggested before video tape and let him watch it. Be HONEST with him and TELL him how annoying it is. Just be prepared they need the same respect and when there honest with you and tell you how annoying something is that your doing NOT to get mad.
He has a right to speak his mind as well. Just remeber that.
Anonymous
That's your stupidity for not giving him meds.