I'm ready to convert to Islam but I need lots of help & I don't where to start?
I had a dream about the Quran a few weeks ago. Then I had it two days ago again. I started researching about Islam & I found it interesting. I am 28 & I am married with two daughters. My husband is Christian & his family is a little religious. So is my family but my family isn't religious. My parents let me believe what I want & I believe in God/Heaven/Hell. I am kind of religion-lost. My daughters believe the same as me. When I looked up Islam I started to believe it was correct religion. But I don't know what to do? How should I tell my family & in-law family that I want to convert? My family never hated Muslims, they are just neutral. And I had never been bad. I never smoked or had premarital sex. I just drink a little on important parties.
My husband is a faithful Christian & there will be disputes to whether our children will be Islam or Christian. I don't know how to tell him. I wanted to convert a few weeks ago but I had been waiting. Now I feel like I'm going to burst & I need to tell someone.
I don't know where & how to start!
2011-03-20T10:44:42Z
Can someone tell me how to break the news to my family & in-law family???
Ramz2011-03-21T02:26:44Z
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How to convert to Islam: It's not difficult to convert to Islam... To be a Muslim just u should believe in God the only One and believe in all His messengers and Books... to be a Muslim u should say by your tongue as u are convinced be your heart : "La Ellaha Ella Allah, Muhammad Rasool Allah" = No god except Allah and Muhammad is His Messenger... U can do this any time Between u and only Allah, He is hearing u... And by doing this you become a Muslim.
How to tell your family: I think if u know that they will accept you, u can just give them a notice that u are concerning to know Islam well because u feel happy to worship God... then you can tell them that u choose Islam and you like to know about this religion more... u can practice some simple Islamic thing with them,for example; salute them by saying (Assalamu Alykom).. or say; By the name of God (Allah) before eating..etc
How to tell your husband: Begin by discussing the Religions with him and ask him why he believe in The Christianity and refusing the other religions such as Islam ... Tell him that u like to know more about the other Religions and u feel Islam... If he feels angry, u shouldn't tell him now, and u needn't to announce the people... U try to keep your family.... but if he accept your way, u can give him a notice (step by step) as u do with your family.
About your daughters: In Islam the children are related to the father, so that the Muslim woman doesn't marry to non Muslim... but in your case (that you become Muslim after your marriage).. your daughters are already Christians, (I don't know how old are them) so, I think you should give them the choice when they become adults... and they can believe by their hearts ( as long as they like to convert) till the time they can announce their discission.
@synopsis: <As a Muslimah, you are not allowed to be married to a Christian> Woman is not allowed to marry to non Muslim in order to protect her from being obliged to leave her Religion if she married to a bad man, and her children become Muslim too. Also, Islam allows to man to marry to a non Muslim woman, because God orders him to let his woman to practice her Religion's rules with peace.
But the one who converts to Islam after her marriage, she can continue her relationship with her non Muslim husband as long as he gives her the freedome to choose her Religion.
Sister God guides only whom he wishes to guide & It's amazing how you've been guided. That's a really great blessing. Im glad to see that you feel there is truth in Islam, there is. Sister before taking big steps like this make sure you want this full heartedly just so that you don't have any problems in the future. I think the best thing to do would be to find a muslim scholar or leader that you may know of and if you do not know anyone then you could ask someone who might. You'll get better advice and info that way, go to someone who knows a lot about Islam. May Allah Guide you and Hopefully you become successful in both this life and the after life. Good luck sister! May Allah help you with all difficulties! x
I am extremely glad to read your interest in Isla- Alhamdulillah.
I've never been in such a situation so do not know how to answer! (I've put some links at the bottom which may be more helpful)
I'm not sure how you should tell them, maybe you would like to tell someone who will support you first...and then someone else? face-face would be the best option where you both can talk freely...or if not then a letter or a phone-call. just keep calm and remember the teachings of Islam...do not get angry and conduct yourself with humility
- just pray to Allah to give you strength. Recite the following prayer read by Prophet Moses (pbuh) when he was going to face the Pharoah:- O my Lord! expand me my breast; Ease my task for me; And remove the impediment from my speech, So they may understand what I say [20:25--28] (Rabbish rahli sadri wa yas-sir li amri wahloul uqdatam mil-lisaani yafqahu qawli)
I understand there will be disputes- which is why a Muslim woman cannot marry a non-Muslim man- men have the stronger nature and she will not be able to fulfill the obligation towards her children of teaching them about the straight path. Please read the following for more information:- http://qa.sunnipath.com/issue_view.asp?HD=1&ID=176&CATE=11
May Allah assist you and guide us both!
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I think this link may be more helpful: http://www.islamicboard.com/new-muslims/40633-being-new-muslim-family-non-muslims.html
For convincing your husband, you can show him the scientific evidences that prove Allah's existence. to find read more about evidences go to the following websites:
http://www.islam-guide.com/
http://www.evidencesofcreation.com/reason05.htm
Try to make his brain working and make him ask about Islam . Tell him that the prophet Jesus was mentioned in Quran positively and all Muslims believe in him. Tell him how kind the prophet Muhammad- peace be upon him - was. But before telling him about your conversion , you must read alot and study about Islam so that you can convince him easily.
Also, you can make him listen to any Quran reciter who has a very beautiful voice . May be he will be affected more and his heart will start to believe in Allah.