My cat died and i can't move on..i'm terribly heartbroken?
Only true cat lovers will understand..I lost my cat on feb 4th. He was the love of my life..he did everything with me..he slept in my arms like a baby every night. I am a grown woman..not a child so know i should be thinking clearly and i'm not. I have 5 other cats so getting another one isn't the answer. This cat was so different..he was only 11 years old and meant the world to me. I would have literally sold my body parts to have saved him...he had a tumor in his jaw and i even went to a specialist 3 hours away. No one could help him and i feel like the cat trusted me and i let him down...i couldn't save him. This is such a horrible feeling to know i couldn't fix this and the poor cat didn't understand this...i keep thinking on that last ride to the vet how i i killed him. I am so heartbroken and will never get over this...i literally can't function. I don't know what to do to stop this horrible heartbreak.
2012-04-14T20:52:17Z
For the last post who said IT'S A BLESSING THE CAT WAS SICK THE LAST 4 YEARS AFTER READING OVER MY POSTS...YOU DON'T READ VERY WELL BECAUSE I HAVE 5 OTHER CATS...THE ONE THAT WAS SICK THE LAST 4 YEARS IS ALIVE AND DOING FINE...YOU JUST "ASSUMED"
Clarity2012-04-14T20:13:13Z
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I'm so sorry...I do know the heartbreak of losing a beloved cat. I finally had to euthanize my cat at age 20, and she was a true member of the family. I bawled my eyes out. I'm not sure that animals really understand death. They have survival instincts, of course, but beyond that I don't think there is really an awareness. I did the opposite of you...waited too long to put my cat to sleep. By the time I finally did, she was only days, perhaps hours away from death, and I couldn't bear to see her suffer any more. I feel I was selfish in waiting so long, and truly regret that, but I just couldn't bear to part with her. What you did was far kinder to your pet. He was probably in pain from the tumor, and must have had trouble eating. You took away that pain. Your last act of mercy was also an act of great love, far harder for you than for him.
Let me help you. Your vet was seriously mistaken not to have known what the cat was sick from. Do not use this vet again. You did all the right things. I have my dearly beloved Andrew's ashes in a container. He was an African Grey parrot I raised from a tiny baby. He was 12 years old. I grieved and grieved. Then I saw "What Dreams May Come" where the dog that died years before is in 'heaven' happy, healthy and jumping on the newly dead father. Your cat is running through the fields of the gods right now, with her tail flying. Be joyful you had her love for so many years. Time will heal your sadness. Perhaps the humane society in your town has a kitten who needs your love.
In a way, I believe I can understand. We lost our 17 year old cat Mouse about a year ago, he was really sick and I think he might've had a heart attack or a seizure at the end of it all. And our other cat, has a cancerous growth in his mouth and he's slowing down. I want you to know it'll be all right, honestly. I have a very close relationship with my cats (and any animals, really) that nobody understands. Losing one is really hard, I know. It's like losing a family member. Because that really is what they are. Remember this, too. It's not your fault that he died. You didn't let him down. He was 11 years old? He lived a good long life. It sounded like you took great care of him. I am not sure what to say other than this. Just remember, please! That it'll be okay. :)
I'm so sorry for your loss :( This shows how great of a person you are and how loving you are as a pet owner. I know its hard but you'll be okay you just need time.
Think about the great times you had with you're cat instead of just thinking about the end when he fell sick.
I really am sorry for your loss and I hope you feel better soon. I'm sure you didn't lose your cats trust. It was a good thing you did for your cat to relieve his pain, you did nothing wrong. You have a big heart and im sure your cat knew that all his life :)
You have to start by forgiving yourself. You did Everything you could to save him. You did Not let him down, you cared for him and went far beyond what most people would do to find him help.
There's no magic time that you'll just feel better. It's a slow and individual process. Do all you can to focus on the ones you still have. Constantly dwelling on what happened is going to keep you from finding peace.
If you've gotten to the point of not being able to function I would recommend going to your doctor for help. I wouldn't normally recommend medicating a problem away, but there comes a point that you need to so you can start to deal better with life.