Do you think it is ok for an older women to go with a younger man?

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My husband and I seperated 3 months ago. He wanted to be apart and wanted his own life. For a month and even off and on at times I had moments where I would cry for no reason. Then I decided to pick myself up. I started back wearing my make-up like I use to when I was younger, and bought new clothes, and exericising. Anyway at work this younger guy who is 27 started flirting with me. He would comment on my looks, and say or do things that make my co-workers notice that he had interest in me. He even walk up to me and grab my hands and was trying to hug on me. We all thought of him as a funny guy, and at first I didn't take him seriously until he call my desk, and asked when can we get together. I told him that he is too young for me, and I am 45 years old. He says so and what that suppose to mean. I'm grown like you are grown. I continue to brush him off, and then I saw him hugging another one of my female co-workers, and one of my co-workers says you are going to be in a lot trouble. He looks at me and says I am trying to make her jealous, and smiles at me as everyone looks on. I now find myself feeling attractive to this guy, but I feel that he is younger and if I get with him, he might want someone else younger, and I don't want my heart broken again. I feel like its over between me and my husband because our marriage became so unhappy. Also I have a daughter 21 years old in college, he is closer to her age. What should I do should I ignore this guy or should I take a chance? I'm not looking for a sexual only relationship, I want someone who I can fall in love with and we respect each other. Also I would feel so uncomfortable dating a co-worker. There are so many reasons to avoid this type of relationship, not to mention what would his own parents think? Not to mention he can seem a little childish at time because of his age, he always making everyone laugh.

2012-05-08T03:12:40Z

A few of my Co-workers tries to convince me to go out with him too. I can tell he has put them up to it.

Dennis · Accepted Answer

Woman just do it..if this man has his own job, taking care of HIMSELF, and is a man worth your time because he has the capability to make you happy....then what's the problem?  If he wants you then HE WANTS YOU.  As a part of the dating process you have to test the waters and know people, just because you got with him doesn't mean suddenly you're gonna have plans to marry.  You don't worry about cheating when you have full trust in someone, and to gain that trust you have to KNOW them.  

And the whole age (of course unless it's illegal) is nothing, what honestly makes you think a 47 year old immature man that lives by his hat would be any better than this 27 year old man who could probably be more a man than any old guy could be?  Trust you dont' have to be young to be stupid, trifling, or LESS of a man...there are dudes in their 50's that are just as stupid, trifling, and LESS of a man than a 21 year old.  

The first thing you need to do is get the taboo out of your head, as THAT will be a playing factor in the healthiness of your relationship with him.  Screw what other people say as well, since he's a grown 'ss man, if he can take care of himself then who the hell are they to tell you he's 'too young' for you?  If he makes you happy, and you ARE happy, and HE'S happy then guess what? You got a winner.

good luck
my 2 cents.

Anonymous · Answer

I wouldn't worry about the age difference, but given the situation I say this will most likely be a short fling at best. I would have thought you would be casually seeing men to find a new long term partner, this would be a good place to start in moving on.

andijxo · Answer

I am 45 and my husband is 8 years younger than me - date the younger man .  Younger men are fun - Chad and I have been married almost 12 years and we almost always have fun.

Banana · Answer

In all honesty, I think you should take it slow with him. Since you have just
recently been divorced, you should take things slow and get yourself to heal
before you get into any other relationship. If you have time, try to talk with 
him and tell him about your recent separation with your ex and he might 
understand about how you feel about going too fast with dating. Usually I
don't have any problems with older women going out with younger guys
as long as they're not just using them as a sex toy. And about his parents,
you just have to talk to your co-worker about how they would feel about
the relationship.

Lilah&lt;3 · Answer

He seems like a very immature person trying to make jealous through other female co workers..it's so....high schoolish. You're obviously looking for someone with experience and whose ready to settle down with his life..this guy seems like he just wants to "experiment" with an older woman..not settle down with her. Don't do it.

Do you think it is ok for an older women to go with a younger man?

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