I'm starting to hate the things I like because someone I hate likes them?
Well there's this girl I hate with all my guts cause she's been a huge problem in my relationship with my boyfriend. She likes the same videogames, tv shows and aspires the same job as me. I just hate it so much and it's making me hate those things I do. I've been trying not to hate but I just can't help it. And I just want to like those things without relating them to her...I just don't know how and it's really frustrating and don't tell me to get her our of my life cause in a way I can't; she's my boyfriend's best friend and talking to him about it won't help either. Have any of you ever had this problem or similar? :/
PS. I don't really know if this is in the right category. Thanks for your time.
2012-06-11T08:08:45Z
I'm not jealous of her unless is unconscious.
2012-06-11T08:15:36Z
And her liking the same things as me isn't a thing of admirations cause she's alway disrespecting me and by a "huge problem" I mean that she exceeds the whole "intimate friend" thing. She says inappropriate things to my boyfriend and is always flirting even when I'm around But thing that bothers me more is hating someone so alike me in some ways.
2012-06-11T08:19:01Z
And by inappropriate things I mean jokes that are perverted and completely directed towards him cause even she says it or asking questions as a form of tease.
Gustavo2012-06-12T10:59:03Z
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WHY would he flirt in front of you!? that is his friend BUT..you're his girlfriend. he would not like it if you flirted with other guys in front of him. ..thats lack of respect.
she is obviously jealous if she insults you...she likes some of the things you do, doesnt mean that she is like you.
I just want to know in what way she is being a huge problem? I mean if shes trying to get with your boyfriend and you're worried about that why not just mention to him that you believe she likes him and ask him if u have anything to worry about. Simplest way. Its not being jealous or overbearing its just a question. Ive never personally had this problem but coming from someone whos friends are mostly guys idk if this girl is in the same position as me. But im nothing but nice to girls my guy friends date and some of them have had issues with me for whatever reason. This resulted in me losing lifelong best friends. So unless this girl is really being a huge ***** to you or sumtin. Pls give her a chance! Bcuz i know how it feels to lose a best friend because his gf felt jealous or intimidated or whatever the hell. Other than that my advice is just dont let her get to you. Just because she likes the same things doesnt make you guys the same person. Toughen up! My suggestion stay true to yourself and dont let other people have that much of an influence over you. The best you can do is to just have enough pride in who u are to not let others negatively affect that. if it helps think of it this way you feeling the way u do now is lettin her win. Your allowing her to have power over you and your life. Dont let how you feel about someone consume who you are.
I think she admires you! Lol she wants to be like you. Think of it this way, say you guys both have the same dress on to prom. You cant hate the dress just because she likes it, just think to yourself “I know I look better in it than her” If she sees that your being bothered by her she will get satisfaction out of it. Don’t show your hate for her. Just replace it with confidence!
*why would your boyfriend talk to someone who makes you feel uncomfortable? That isn’t very understanding of him. [you don’t get to pick his friends- so HE DOESN’T get to pick your friends either…compromises ;) ]