My 19 year old son is involved with a 49 year old woman?
My 19 year old son is involved with a 49 year old woman who has kids that are almost as old as me. She just asked her husband (who is 26) for a divorce, and left him for my son. I know what he has done is totally wrong, and I DID NOT raise him like this!!!! Neither of them have a job, but they just rented a house and moved in together, along with her 16 year old daughter. This is so sickening to me. I would love to take her out in the woods if you know what I mean. I have talked to my son until I am blue in the face, but he is of age and there is nothing I can do. I feel so helpless!!!!
2012-10-20T18:40:03Z
I am so angry with them both that I really just want to slap them!
Patrick2012-10-21T01:42:40Z
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I realize that right now you're not really asking a question. You're just venting. I'm not even sure I'd have any helpful advice if you were asking for it. Your son is an adult even if just barely. The woman especially should know better. I know you are heartbroken.
This is one of those parenting things that makes you want to just SPIT! Your boy has some maggot in his brain that makes him think he needs to be with this woman. Don't beat yourself up. He probably feels protective of her for some reason and protecting a woman is the sign of a GENTLEMAN and that means you raised him right.
Bad news is, she's got her nasty, molesting, mentally crippled hooks into him and until something happens to make him feel like he can move on, he will probably stick with this cow. The sixteen year old daughter may be your best hope right now. That's trouble brewing right there. She is BOUND to resent your son coming in and taking mom's attention after she just ousted the other infant.
Good luck, I'm sorry. I know you want to tear your hair out.
Let him learn on his own. He's an adult. And in the grand scheme of things there are much worse things that 19 year old guys could be getting into. Be thankful and he'll figure everything in out. When all is said and done this isn't that big a deal.
You never know, maybe he really does care for her a lot. Would you truly want to interfere with someone who your son actually cares that much about? Maybe this lady hes seeing cares for him, too. Maybe it's love, who knows? He's an adult, let him make his own decisions, and let him face his own consequences. Be a mother, guide him, give advice, but don't rule his life. He's going t have to leave your side eventually.
You're right, there's nothing you can do, as your son is an adult. I notice you are violently angry to her but not to your son--even though it takes two to tango. Anyway, she may have her fun with him and then dump him when she finds someone better. You'll want to be there to pick up the pieces--without saying "I told you so."