Every Memorial weekend we go to the river. This year, my daughter will be performing on the USS Iowa and we can't go. Furious husband wa..?

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Wants me to cancel her obligation. I feel it's irresponsible. She is the lead singer in her schools jazz ensemble (11th grade) that performs gigs. It's an honor and good opportunity for exposure (she wants to major in music in college). We go to the river nearly every other weekend in the summer months. My husband is angry at me because I don't want her to let the band down and I also think this is an amazing opportunity

2015-01-19T16:10:46Z

Does it change anyone's opinion if I told you my daughter doesn't want to do the performance either? She is a teen and doesn't want to miss the fun of the river, but I feel as a parent I should teach her to honor her commitments.

CG · Accepted Answer

I'm not sure what you are going to be able to say to change his mind.  If its any consolation, I'm on your side.  It doesn't matter what you do, a commitment is a commitment and your daughter needs to see it through. It sounds like he is spoiled rotten - after all, going to the river is obviously not a once-in-a-lifetime thing.

Libraryanna · Answer

Why is this in immigration. I think she should go. Your husband is acting like a child and not putting her first, which as a parent, he should do. Don't cancel anything. If you had a unique opportunity to go to the river, it might be different. But since you go all the time, hers is more important.

? · Answer

Sounds like your husband is very insensitive to your daughter's feelings.

This would be a deal breaker for me if he refuses to compromise.

You need to ask yourself, what am I prepared to do, in order for my daughter to perform?

Anna E · Answer

You are right.  She will graduate next school year, and since she wants to major in music in college, this would definitely be a "feather in her cap".  No way would I cancel this for her.  She needs to do this.

Every Memorial weekend we go to the river. This year, my daughter will be performing on the USS Iowa and we can't go. Furious husband wa..?

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