Every Memorial weekend we go to the river. This year, my daughter will be performing on the USS Iowa and we can't go. Furious husband wa..?

I'm not sure what you are going to be able to say to change his mind. If its any consolation, I'm on your side. It doesn't matter what you do, a commitment is a commitment and your daughter needs to see it through. It sounds like he is spoiled rotten - after all, going to the river is obviously not a once-in-a-lifetime thing.

Why is this in immigration. I think she should go. Your husband is acting like a child and not putting her first, which as a parent, he should do. Don't cancel anything. If you had a unique opportunity to go to the river, it might be different. But since you go all the time, hers is more important.

Sounds like your husband is very insensitive to your daughter's feelings.

This would be a deal breaker for me if he refuses to compromise.

You need to ask yourself, what am I prepared to do, in order for my daughter to perform?

You are right. She will graduate next school year, and since she wants to major in music in college, this would definitely be a "feather in her cap". No way would I cancel this for her. She needs to do this.