Almost 8 weeks ago my aunt (on my deceased father's side) had asked if she could stay with us for a week. She used to live at her partner's house, but she had died and her partner's family kicked her out. She had been living in her car for a while. My mum and I live in a 2 bedroom apartment and my brother had started living with us a couple weeks prior to her. After the first week, she had asked if she could stay another week. She hasn't asked since and wouldn't ever say anything about leaving. This morning my mum had asked her if she heard anything back from Disability and she said she got denied and was going to get a lawyer to see if she could get social security. That could take a couple of more months or even years to get, and she isn't actively searching for a new, better paying job. What are we supposed to do? How do we get her to leave?
Pearl L2017-05-20T06:25:56Z
if she applies for ssi she can get money from social services while shes applying
My maternal granny moved in to stay for six months. She was only 57 and was capable of working. She decided to let my father support her and stayed for 23 years. Lots of luck prying a relation out of your home. Plan on leaving yourself as getting her out may be a bigger problem than your leaving on your own volition.
When you say you live with your mom in a 2 bedroom, are you an adult on the lease with her and the 2 of you split the bills? Or is this her apartment, and you're a teen still living at home?
This matters, because if the apartment is mom's, then it doesn't help to ask what "we" can do. There is no "we", and your aunt will be there until your mom finally gets sick of it. There are all sorts of things she can do, but it's tricky when the conditions weren't made clear upfront. Your mum was well intended, but never let a freeloader into your home without getting an informal "contract" written up where the person promises to do certain things.
It sounds like she can start by telling aunt she has to be gone by the end of the month. At least give aunt a chance. But if she's still there, it's time for hardball. Her key should be taken away. If the apartment has storage, when she leaves, her stuff should be packed in bags, stuck in the storage unit, and locked. She doesn't get the key to it.
In some cases, she can also get help from the landlord. I've heard of people asking him to send a letter saying there are too many adults not on the lease living there, and one of them has to be gone by the end of the month. It's not legally enforceable but might wake aunt up.
Also, if this is a big complex, your mum can ask about another 2 bedroom. Landlords are used to this and will work with good tenants. Worst case scenario is you wait until the lease runs out and look for an apartment somewhere else. Needless to say, aunt will be told she's on her own.