Is this a healthy relationship? If not what can be done. Is it normal for a 45yr old married man to have this type of relationship ...?

So this person is married has a wife and kids and talks to his mom at least once a day If not multiple times a day and sometimes it's a phone call other times it will be FaceTime is that normal? Is it also normal for the mother to know much of his personal business like stuff you would only talk to your wife about but the mother knows just not as much detail as the wife but enough detail to know what's going on? Also is it normal for the son to confide in the mother and have more of a better communication with his mother than his own wife? Like if you cannot talk to his wife about something he always goes to the mother for everything. Also is it normal to live in a different house is your mother but see them once a week If not two times a week? How much is too much communication with your mother and how much is too much for her to know as well as how much is too much time to see her in person? I know this is a loaded multi-part question I'm just curious because this is happening to someone that I'm very close to and I want to make sure that it's normal and If not what can be done because it might be interfering with other relationships and it might be seen as a little bit weird or whatever you want to call it.

2021-02-27T15:13:42Z

So no one finds it weird that the mom knows almost as much as the woman in this relationship&talks to her son all the time like there is nothing else to do but every opportunity has he talks to his mom and has helped her multiple times a day. 

2021-02-27T15:13:51Z

I get it's good too talk to her parents and in this case your mom but how much is too much time to talk to them or too much information to share with them There is a point where becomes really dependent like you have to tell your mom or something will happen.If you talk to your mom once a day great if not and it's only a couple times a week nothing wrong with that why is there this need to talk multiple times a day and see that multiple times a week?

Anonymous2021-02-28T20:26:20Z

I think it’s very strange. 
I’m in your exact same predicament except it’s my husbands sister. They talk thru  out the day. It’s ridiculous 
My husband doesn’t talk to me about anything bc he’s already told his sister, but he gets mad at me when he mentions something I have no idea what he’s talking about. I tell him that he must have told his other wife (his sister)

Foofa2021-02-28T00:18:55Z

During a pandemic lockdown it's not at all unusual for people to talk to their elderly shut-in parents every day. In terms of him confiding more in her than in you, yeah, that can be a problem. Some marriage counseling might help. 

?2021-02-27T23:35:42Z

If he's a total Mommy's boy now, he was before he got married.  I'm thinking this is your husband.  There is no way i'd have married someone like him in the first place, let alone even date him.  Are you kidding me?

Pearl L2021-02-27T04:53:34Z

theres nothing wrong with him talking to his mom, wish i could do that, both my parents have been gone for yrs

?2021-02-27T03:56:37Z

i dont see anything wrong with that, wish i could talk to my mom, shes been gone for yrs

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