If men are scared of marriage, why are most divorces filed by women?

Actually, you're right. Women ARE more likely to leave a marriage than a man. I read somewhere, long time ago (when my mom left my dad), something that said that women's needs change during the course of a relationship, while men's needs primarily stayed the same (and yes, this does include the phyiscal needs).

For example, a woman who falls in love and marries a man because he has an exotic job may decide five years later that the job "isn't enough" because she now needs someone who can be at home at 5:15 every single night to help take care of the kids. Her needs changed; his didn't. She married him because she ALSO loved the job - not just him - and now she doesn't love the job any more, and so, by consequence, she no longer loves him. Irreconcilable differences, you know.

Men, on the other hand, will fall in love and marry a woman who happens to HAVE an exotic job. If she then decides to stay home and have kids, he will often stay dedicated to her because he "made that commitment" and will stay the course. If he does stray - as you admit some men do - it's often because the woman's needs have changed... and half the time, she's straying, too!

Men also have been taught by their fathers, over the generations, that women are to be cared for (which I agree with) no matter what. Even though women were "liberated" 30 years ago, men are still being taught this value, and apparently they're listening! Women have taken this "liberation" and used it to their advantage as a gender, allowing themselves the freedom of escaping from home responsibilities that men have shouldered for centuries.

Now... that's my opinion.... anyone else?

Because a lot of people who find out their spouse is cheating FILE for divorce.

The numbers make sense in that context. Men are more likely to cheat, their wives then file for divorce. I dont think that necessarily means women have a hard time committing to marriage. When that trust is broken, it is very hard to stay married. I mean, I'd seriously consider divorce if I found out my spouse was cheating on me.

Another reason why I think women file more is that guys are more apathetic about filing for divorce. Women, (generally not always), need the closure of divorce more than men.

Wow, talk about bitter. I know where you're coming from. I've had to force myself to let it all go and try to start rebuilding my life. The only one who will truly suffer now is the children. My 2 yr old sees my pain & recognizes very quickly when I'm hurting and sad. A 2 yr old isn't supposed to know that stuff yet. I wish you all the luck & if you ever just want to vent..I'm on messenger--blast me a msg. Being betrayed sucks but losing time because we can't let it go is even worse. Make sense?

WOW Elise! you said it all

right on!