Why do I always get stuck at the table by the people who have loud naughty kids in a resturant?!?

As the mother of four kids I believe your right. If your kids can't behave leave them the h*ll home. Hardly anyone controls their kids anymore. My philosophy is "Spare the rod, spoil the child" My kids know they had better behave. No they are never wacked for somehting they don't know is wrong, but if they know it's wrong they're gonna get it. The problem lies within the fact of you cannot reprimand your kids in public anymore, using physical contact. You will be arrested. We wonder why kids are shooting eachother, it's called a timeout chair. What a punishment. There is a difference between using corporal punishment to discipline your kids and abusing them!!! The next time you get stuck next to a table full of bad kids and their parents,

BLAME THE PARENTS NOT THE KIDS.

If you had asked a thoughtful question such as "Do you think people should control their kids better in a restaurant?"; or perhaps "Do you think parents have lost the ability to raise well mannered children?", then I could answer one of those questions.

Do you see the similarity to the way you asked the question, and the way the children you seem to keep running into behave in restaurants? (Tom Joad may have had a point in his reply!)

We eat out quite frequently. I can't remember the last time I saw a "bratty kid" in a restaurant. I've seen some real gems of kids, who make me smile just watching them. I've seen some kids who talk in a loud and animated way, but there are smiles around the table and the family looks happy. I've seen some normal amounts of 'having a bad day'. We all have them.

This is not to say that you haven't had a very different experience. If you are truly seated near "brats", that is unfortunate and I'm sure it can ruin a dining experience!

The worst thing for me to see is parents who seem somewhat abusive to their kids and are looking at the children like they totally hate them. I sat behind a woman on a plane once who kept telling poor little 3 year old Jeffery that she was going to beat his ***. I wanted to cry by the time the plane landed. Jeffery didn't bother me at all, it was the mother!

You can't change other people, you can only control yourself, the image you project to others of who YOU are, and your reactions to situations. And, you can raise your own children well to help make the world a better place. :)

I wish you good luck in seeing the good. As Craptacular mentioned above, this could just be bad karma.

Bad Karma dear.. you've obviously done something bad either in thought or deed towards children.. and that's why they are haunting you in your most wanted pleasant and leisure times. You have to learn the lesson in tolerance before it will stop.

I bet if you stuck a few suckers in your purse and were prepared for the obviously expected-- children while dining-- and told them if they promise to be good you have a surprise for them when they are done eating.. they'd be unnoticeable.. but that's not where your mind set is.. your mind set is on you and what makes you miserable.. that's sad. Did you Only focus on that you have some small people in the area and ruin your own evening? The glass really isn't always half empty..unless you decide that it is..

But I am quite certain with your luck.. if and when you ever have children, they will act 20 times worse than anything you have experienced..since I am thinking you wouldn't have asked about 'control' or 'brats' if you had any of your own.

You have options, the waiter can be told that children aren't what you want to see while you dine, therefore setting up what 'your expectations of what a dining experience is', since noone can read your mind..(except the kids you are thinking poorly of) ...and do ask to be moved away from the family if they are disturbing to your evening.. but don't pout about it and think that children are after you to ruin your night. If you are dining at any family Restaurant.. then you should expect children, instead of being upset they are near by.

The thoughts that you have were put there by you. Change them to be positive thoughts. Kids have 'bad days' as much as adults do, even while dining out. Just remember the karma you are building up.

I feel for you. You can either ask the person who is seating you to make sure you are not next to noisy children or if you are stuck next to them, ask the manager to ask the loud guest to keep the noise down. I have been at a table with a large group and there was a couple who didnt tell their kids to settle down ( I couldnt believe they could ignore it) but the manager approached us and asked them to keep it down and there was no problem.

I have the same problem, I don't now if there trying to turn me on to kids or trying to confirm my feelings for kids. There should be a kids only section,I wood like to duct tape there mouths, hands and feet.

The people with the kids walk in and the maitre d'hotel asks which section they want. They say, "Please put us by the nicest people eating here - maybe the effect will rub off." Unfortunately, it seems to rub off in the wrong direction.

There is always the smoking section and you can always asked to be moved to another table.

you have bad luck, if you dont like where you are sitting, request a different table or deal with it, people raise their kids however they want, so its just something you'll have to get over

Go to restaurants where they are not as kid friendly (i.e. no kids menu).

just asked to be moved.