How do you get divorced and be happy?

Simple, get the divorce, sign the papers, smile, go out and get a replacement.

My husband left me a year ago - we're still working on the paperwork, but we've been separated for more than 12 months. I think it's all perspective. I decided to view it as an opportunity. I asked myself what i would do if he had died, and then went out and did those things. I'm very happy now. I still have moments where I wonder where it went wrong, but I don't dwell on it. I turned it into an opportunity to do anything I've ever wanted and couldn't because I had to be responsible. Don't dwell on what you're losing. It's gone. Instead look to what you can have now that you couldn't before.

Getting over the pain of divorce can take 1 to 2 years, depending on the person. Healing from that kind of hurt takes time. It can't be rushed. However, you can lean on God. He loves you so much and wants to help you heal and find happiness. This prayer from Beliefnet.com can help you start on the road to healing.

Prayer for Healing

Lord Jesus Christ, by your patience in suffering you hallowed earthly pain and gave us the example of obedience to your Father's will: Be near me in my time of weakness and pain; sustain me by your grace, that my strength and courage may not fail; heal me according to your will; and help me always to believe that what happens to me here is of little account if you hold me in eternal life, my Lord and my God. Amen. ~~ Source: Book of Common Prayer 1979

I pray you find healing and a happy future. God Bless!

Often in marriage we lose a part of ourselves. If we find our self in divorce it is often because somewhere along the way we lost a part of ourself. After the divorce, somehow we find ourself again. It isn't time that heals our wounds. It is finding that part of ourself again.

One will follow the other...give it time and stop dwelling on the divorce part.

I did it, three times. Ask yourself the question "am I better off with him/her or without". Life move on, let go of the rope, and see where the boat takes you.

It is a process...you have to take the time to forgive your spouse, forgive yourself and take care of yourself. Get yourself back to 100% then you will be ready to love again.

i was thrilled when i got divorced. you just have to be miserable enough in your marriage. lol.

You can only give it time. Wounds will heal.

Make sure you are the poor one.