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My 22 yr old is living with her ***8ex b/f and due in July She lost her apt her daughter's stuff is in storage and they called me to tell me they will sell it if she doesn't pay...it's the 3 yr olds bed and toys and some odds and ends. My daughter doesn't listen to me, she won't do anything I tell her too. It's the 3 yr old she is hurting and they are not ready for the baby...my daughter had to beg her ex to let her live with him. She can't live with me because the landlord said no. I asked.

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I live in public housing and that's why they said no because I have a 2 bedroom house as I have a 9 yr old at home ...there is no room. It is the rule here.

TeeDawg · Accepted Answer

I know your pain.  I'm going through a similar trial with an 18year old daughter.  It's killing us but we have decided to let her learn from the school of hard knocks. If she chooses to make stupid decisions, then we let her suffer the consequences and pray she doesn't come out too banged up. 

In your situation and if you have the means, you may consider taking the 3 year old's stuff in temporarily for the kid's sake.  Don't bale your daughter out though because you only enable the bad situation to continue.

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friskme · Answer

I've been in her shoes (only with one baby though), it really stinks.  She needs enough emotional support right now so she can get herself financially ready.  I HAD to move back with my parents at the time, the EX was almost an option but I realized it wasn't the best ... it would have only made things more difficult.

Tell her to seek public housing so that she does not need to stay with the ex (or at least as little as needed).  And, definately be there for her when she needs someone to talk to.

angieasee64 · Answer

She is 22 and still have mush for a brain? Good Luck to you. This is something she has to work out by herself. Since she won't do anything you tell her, let her stew! Be charitable and give them 2 bucks and take a hike!

samantha · Answer

it sounds as if she needs some financial counseling. I would go ahead and pay to get the stuff out of storage for the sake of the grand child....BUT I would make her repay you every dime. 5 bucks a week..... 10 bucks a week...... what ever it takes. Also, make her go to financial counseling. good luck!

supraman126 · Answer

man that sucks, you are in a diddly of a pickle here. your daughter doesnt do anything you tell her to do but when she needs money she will go to you. thats messed up and i would hate my kids if they dont listen to me. sounds like she doesnt have control of her life but she also doesnt want anybody to control her life so she doesnt listen to you. tell her to listen to you and do what you tell her or you will never help her and that she will be on her own. thats harsh but she doesnt sound like a daughter, just a stranger that needs money.

Pitchow! · Answer

You're landlord won't allow your daughter or your granddaughter live with you?  If its the latter, you need a new landlord.

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