What if your living with a married man ........,?

well, hindsight is 20/20, u should have waited for the divorce. Sounds like he wants to retain the respect of his children and not tell them until after the divorce that he is living with you, so stop sweating the small stuff...BUT, if after the divorce, it's still the same....kick his a$$ out!! good luck!

He probably just doesnt want to hurt his children. If the divorce isnt even final obviously him and his (soon to be ex) wife havent been divorced for years or anything so maybe he doesnt want to shock the kids. Give it time, when the divorce is over dont demand he instantly tell everyone hes living with you. These are his children not yours, let him decide when hes ready to tell them the truth about you and him.

Well his children are grown adults. So I agree, he is lying to them...{in a woman's opinion, in a man's opinion, he hasn't lied, he's going with friends, and your his friend..dumb, stupid, yes, but still, not a lie in his head.} Will it be a lie to his children when they find out? Yea, probably, and their not going to like it that their dad has not only been cheating on their mother with you, but left her for you as well. Don't expect to have much of a relationship with his children, if their grown, they're going to have their own opinions, and view of this. They probably aren't going to want much to do with their dad after this either...but for now, I think he is trying to spare their feelings, and what little *face* he may still have around them for the time being, because it's not going to last.

The man is honestly scared that he is going to lose the respect of his children. That is a legitimate fear but I think he needs to put it aside and realize they are adults and even if he doesn't tell them what is going on they probably already know the truth from their mom. Explain to him that by hiding the truth from them he will make it hard for them to believe him about other things in the future.

The only married man you should be living with is your dad and he should be happily married to your mum and only having

paternal love for you. Other than that you a deminishing yourself to bits. Forget about living with a man who is not yet free. If he is interested he will free himself fast enough to be with you. I know that some divorces can take time but I also know that if you don't push your divorce lawyer to hurry up they can take twice to three times as long. Trust me darling, I went through that.

Are you sure his ex knows about you, I'm not. There is a chace he isn't even getting the divorce. Watch out some guys are scum. If he really is getting a divorve and lies about you to his children maybe he doesn't love you as much as you think he does.

FIRST OF ALL, YOU SHOULD NOT HAVE AGREED TO LIVE WITH THIS MAN UNTIL THE DIVORCE BECAME FINAL. SECONDLY, IT SEEMS TO ME THAT HE MAY BE ASHAMED OF HIS ACTIONS AND HIDING YOU FROM HIS CHILDREN.I DON'T UNDERSTAND WHY HE HAS TO HIDE HIS RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU FROM ADULT CHILDREN. WHEN YOU DO AND IF YOU MARRY THIS MAN, YOU ARE IMMEDIATLEY STARTING OFF ON THE WRONG FOOT WITH HIS CHILDREN BECAUSE OF HIS DISHONESTY AND WHENEVER IT IS ALL DONE, THE CHILDREN WILL ALWAYS HOLD YOU RESPONSIBLE EVEN THOUGH YOU ARE NOT. I WOULD SUGGEST THAT SEEING THAT YOU ALL ARE ADULTS THAT YOU HAVE A FAMILY MEETING WITH HIS CHILDREN AND CLEAR THE AIR. IF HE IS UNABLE TO DO THIS THEN YOU NEED TO LIVE ALONE UNTIL THE DIVORCE IS FINALIZED.

He's a grown man and should act like one..You need to find a new man! All this lying just leads to more lying.. Get Out Now!!

It is a guilt issue--he is afraid of his grown children criticizing him. He must be insecure in his relationships with them, or he would know they would at least think it over and try to understand.

He's cheating, do you really expect the rest of him is going to be honest? Throw him out. Cheaters always have excuses as to why they do the things they do and this dude is full of excuses among other things...