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Anyone have a toddler who has special toys he/she won't share?

My son will be 3 in July and I am preggos due one week later. He has been going to the same babysitter for two years and loves her. He has "favorite" toys, he switches them around, sometimes it's Thomas, sometimes it's his mickey mouse, etc. This week it's his "rescue pack" that he has been seeing on Dora. He had been doing it make believe and I thought I would help by getting a real pack. It's just a Dr. Seuss backpack we had in the closet.

Well, he just loves it...sleeps in it even. Will only take it off for bath. It's been two days now. I went to pick him up today feeling hormonal. I guess he wouldn't share the back pack with anyone because he wouldn't take it off. The babysitter said that he has repeatedly done this with his toys and if he can't learn to share with everyone he can't bring anything to daycare.

Is it possible he is doing this because of all the transitions of preparing for the new baby and better left alone or am I allowing a bad habit to continue

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  • 2 decades ago
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    I have 2 boys(teens now) but went through the exact thing it is NORMAL. Your son is at the stage where he is exercising his individuality and may also be reacting to the new pregnancy but don't worry unless he becomes aggressive about it. Explain to him that at daycare he must only bring toys to share and leave his "special" toys at home in a special spot where they will be safe for him make this a big fun idea for him and I think it will work.

  • 2 decades ago

    This is just his age. I have a 2,3,& 4 year old they share when they are in a good mood and not so much when they aren't. They each a one or two special toys and have to share everything else. They have so many toys that my rule is whoever had it first gets it, we are currently working on how to properly ask for toys nicely. It's a challenge and sometimes I feel like I am more of a refferee rather than a mom. It will be a stuggle when that new baby comes but he'll get over it and remeber giving him a silbing is the best gift you could give him.

  • 2 decades ago

    my little boy has a stuffed dog that he won't allow any other kid to touch, so we don't take it anywhere like the church nursery that another kid could touch it. if we are at a cousin's house or something, i will hold the dog for him to keep it safe. when he plays with other children (he is an only child right now) and he won't share, i will take the toy away until he will share it so he knows that he has to share or not have the toy at all.

  • 2 decades ago

    It is normal but when your child is in a daycare this makes it hard. I work in a day care and one of our rules is no personal toys, it stops fights and make it easier for us to deal with the children. You should just have him leave his special toy with you everyday, that is also what I had to do with my niece! GOOD LUCK

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  • 2 decades ago

    i have a 3 year old and a 1 year old. my oldest refuses to share anything with his little brother. I've been trying to get them to share but as soon as i turn my back, its right back to being stingy. but my oldest has his favorites, like this little race track thing. he puts his hot wheels on it and carries it around to bed, to eat everywhere. my youngest gets whatever he can before big brother comes and takes it. i think its just kids being kids. i try to get them to play together civilized.

  • 2 decades ago

    a child should be taught to share but they should also be aloud to have their own special things that no one else can touch

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